Are you your parent’s favourite child?

[Bobje]

I am categorically most certainly not!

But life goes on.

Are you?

I'm the only favourite dd 😉

I think my youngest brother is the favourite child, he was a golden baby and my mum still thinks of him as her 'baby' even though he's nearly 40 😳😂

Definitely not. My late mother said I should never have been born (she had a track record of abortions so maybe she tried... I wonder) and my father didn't think I was his until the dna tests proved it when I was over 60. I'm my dad's carer now but until he was ill two years ago he wasn't speaking to me (for about four years, I think). No, I'm nobody's favourite. But I'm a useful workhorse.

yes I suspect I am. Oldest of 3.

Nope, of my mother's and ( step)dads,( 6 kids) I'm the least favourite... no one worries about me , or cares...but when the shit hits the fan I'm the one to fix it.
However he never said it but i was my my bio fathers favourite( 3) before he died and that's enough xx

My cousins and I/my sister are all pairs of girls. As children, in each case the eldest was a daddy’s girl and the youngest was a mummy’s girl. Dads were a bit more hands-off in those days, but when the second baby came along they had to step up a bit with DC1, meaning the dads bonded more with DC1 than DC2. Not necessarily the favourite, but the child they got on with better/ clashed with less.

I don’t think that necessarily translated into adult relationships though.

I would hope so as I'm an only 😉

@StopStartStop I’m sorry. Are you ok?

Omg! You are me! I call it extreme middle child syndrome

I wasn’t growing up, I thought my parents was very hard on me as the eldest. However, I’m much closer to my mum now and spend a lot more time with her than my sisters do. My sisters firmly believe that I’m mum’s favourite and always have been. My youngest sister is definitely my dads favourite though he’d deny it under pain of death. They are polar opposites personality wise, but they seem to have an ease in their relationship that I’ve always envied. I see the same with DH and my youngest DD…

I think I was for large chunks of time, yes. I think it's more of a negative thing, in that they had to worry less about me, I seemed to take life easier than the older two. I think they didn't see how much pressure they put on them.

My dsis rebuilt her relationship with my dad in his last years though and he always did adore her, it just got easier when they mutually closed the door on the past. I really admire her for that. If anything I distanced myself, couldn't deal with some things I found out about him.

Definitely not. My sister is and that's quite obvious, absolutely no attempt was ever made to hide it, I'm the black sheep out of 5 kids.

My brothers were definitely my mum's favourite growing up. They were first and last born. Her first baby and her final baby. My big brother looked after her when dad left, and my younger brother was her baby who she still cooked tea for every night until he moved out age 24 😂

Since I've had children, my mum and I have become much closer. I was awful to her as a hormonal teen, took out my anger on her for dad leaving, criticised her for always being at work (to provide for us). It took me having children and realising everything she sacrificed for us for me to realise how truly amazing she is. I love watching her being a nana. Alas, although our bond is so much stronger, I still have no chance of being favourite child. She takes great delight in telling us that we've all been relegated now she has grandchildren and they're her favourite children! So I'm now somewhere between 4th and 6th place 😂

Good god no! Always been my sister!!!

Definitely my dad's favourite and was my mum's favourite for a bit but don't think so since I've had children.
My eldest sister is autistic and lives at home (late 30s) and although they adore her, she can be quite difficult. She has the mental age of a 12-14 year old.
Middle sister moved away and doesn't keep in touch regularly.
I'm independent and close by so I think that puts me in a position in their eyes.

My Dad's yes, and as a result I'm bottom of my Mum's pile (eldest is her darling only son, youngest is her baby daughter; I just hang around in the middle).

I am. They adored me- the child they loved the most. I was their only child. 😁

Oh, yes. I've had loads of therapy. I'm 'mindful'. In quite good shape emotionally. Thank you for asking!

Yes, and I'm favourite sibling amongst most of my (many) brothers and sisters. Not the eldest though.

I'm not the favourite

I think so yes. Although I read once that the secret to good parenting is to convince every child they are the favourite so maybe my parents are good at that.

Pretty sure I am the favourite. My parents light up around me and I know they think I’m amazing.

I have an older brother who they love a lot but he causes them a lot of worry at the age of 49 and can be quite difficult company.

we are different people though and would not want to be compared with each other.

I'm definitely not the favourite. It has really affected my self esteem, even into adulthood. Would anyone else say it has impacted them greatly, as it has me?

Nope. And I'm an only child.

I’m viewed as the most accomplished child. That is a comparison that has held from early childhood through to middle-age.

they like my sibling better though. They get along better and just tend to enjoy the same things. This is also a comparison that has held from early childhood through middle-age.