Things men can't see

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Empty loo rolls
Things on the bottom of the stairs

Anything else?

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Brilliant 🤣🤣🤣🤣

No trouble seeing boobs 😂

His three clean shirts that have been hanging on the bedroom door for three weeks.

Things on the bottom of the stairs

This struck a chord with me. I would add mess in general. I have long suspected that DH has some form of ADHD. He never puts things away, closes cupboards and drawers, puts the cover over the plughole in the shower, puts things back on shelves etc. Yet he is anal about folding his socks correctly to put away in his sock drawer, and sorting out the tea leaves and coffee grounds.

Yet he will do all of those if asked. We share the vacuuming, washing up and cooking, but he always needs to be asked.

Is MN just full of women married to man babies???!!
My DP is the main homemaker, is totally on top of cleaning, maintenence, gardening and cooks amazing meals for us. It's me that can't see the clothes at the bottom of stairs, dust and hoover. Honestly, I get it. I had a man baby for years, like living with an angry untrained dog. Never again. DP is incredible and these threads are mostly sexist bullshit, if you're pouting up with that level of crap it's your own fault.

Too many pink, fluffy bunny ears?
Too many Barbie dolls?
Too many shiny handbags?
All these leery men angling for a shag?

It's me that can't see the clothes at the bottom of stairs, dust and hoover.

So, does that make you a woman baby?

Oh, and DH leaves light on all the time. He says that he loses concentration and he just doesn't notice that he hasn't put things away, closed doors etc.

@PTSDBarbiegirl problem is I think it's you that has got the rarity- he sounds fab by the way!!! None of my lovely intelligent friends has a partner like this. Thing is there aren't enough of them to go around- !!!

Trust Mumsnet to shout 'red flag, leave the bastard' on such a light-hearted post. Never ceases to amaze me how toxic this place can be sometimes.

To answer OP:

Matching sock pairs - he always pairs odd ones together when he's folding the dry washing!

That when you have ADHD, adding more visual (and literal) noise to an area makes it harder to function as a human being, compared to being absolutely brutal in eliminating clutter and putting things away.

Seriously DP, you practically run to the kitchen to cook if I've done a Saturday morning rage clean because 'it's so easy to think in here'. Is it still a surprise to you that by Sunday evening, I'm refusing to go back in there because I can't even think straight enough to make myself a cup of tea?

It's fine to have things like tins of beans, packets of GF pasta, ketchup, vinegar and butter. Neither of us need to be looking at ALL OF THEM ALL OF THE TIME, though.

Hmmm my partner isn't perfect (but neither am I) but he's not like this at all. I'd say it's pretty equal, he does more if anything. His dad is the same (his partner does nothing actually) and my dad did lions share too.... My ex however yeeesssh.... He was a liability indeed

Empty shower gel bottles, dog poo in the garden, random tools he’s brought in…

@PretendUsername "Trust Mumsnet to shout 'red flag, leave the bastard' on such a light-hearted post. Never ceases to amaze me how toxic this place can be sometimes."

I don't think anyone is saying LTB. But do you genuinely think that a woman should have to clean the loo after the men in her family have had a poo? To pick one example?

Can’t differentiate between my T-shirts and those of the teen boys. Hence my middle son appeared one morning with ‘Jane of all trades’ emblazoned across his chest. While packing for recent vacation also found his 6yo sisters T-shirt in his drawer. That I’d been looking for for a couple of months. I guess he does the ironing at least.

It's not all men my husband is extremely house proud and far tidier than me.

I think this it.

My husband can see crumbs etc, he just doesn’t think it matters because he has much lower standards than me 😂

There's been a screwdriver on my bathroom floor for a fortnight. I didn't put it there.

This is me. I have now put it in the drawer. DW will be surprised!

I hear you. I really value that my DP is like that. I just wouldn't have been attracted to him if he wasn't so capable, skilled and independent. I had a man baby previously but I see now that quite simply nobody should be accepting these sub par men into our life with commitment without laying down the law. As a PP mentioned men are primed for 'special' treatment in that Patriarchy. We don't need to accept it, I wish women felt they could question the imbalance in labour and the being taken for granted more. I feel its a deep rooted primitive thing where women still feel they should housekeep for men.

THIS! A million times!!!

@Gettingbysomehow I find 'some ' men are like this with meals too. They open the fridge and stare in it as if expecting a suitable snack/ meal will just jump out with no effort required to put something together

@PTSDBarbiegirl I'm 61 now and I remember in my 20s in my first marriage it was very much the thing amongst all the young women I knew that the house and kids were 'their' domain - especially where I lived at the time in a mining town- blokes domain was going to work, going to football, going to pub and stuff like mowing the lawn, sorting the car out. Things have moved on but in some ways they really haven't for many.

@Crikeyalmighty -I think we might have slightly different recollections of the 1980s! But whatever- it is so depressing that men don't seem to have moved forward much.

Wait, these things exist??? I thought these were just rumours!

~the man