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Alcohol allowance teen party!

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Passe · 26/07/2023 13:26

DD 16 is off to a party at weekend - naturally she wants to take alcohol as of course literally EVERYONE else is! 🙄

Trying to establish what she could take and what a reasonable amount is?
She wants drinks like Smirnoff Ice and Prosecco but I'm not sure how much to let her have. She does have the occasional drink at home so not overly worried about her getting off her face (famous last words )

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Passe · 26/07/2023 14:32

Anyone?

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mindutopia · 26/07/2023 14:39

What amount would you be comfortable with her drinking? I would send her with that. What quantity does Smirnoff Ice come in? I don't drink at all anymore but can't say I've had one of those since I was about 21. 😂If it comes in a 4 pack, one of those? I mean I wouldn't pack her off with a case of cider, but a smaller quantity seems sensible.

KanyeSouth · 26/07/2023 14:39

I'd let her take some of the 'light' blossom hill type wine and some Smirnoff ices.

She might be necking shots tough (i certainly was!)

Prosecco gives me an awful hangover and a whole bottle makes me pretty drunk that's the only reason to avoid Prosecco

Maybe let her take a few bottles of the same drink to avoid mixing. Vodka and wine (boak) give me awful hangovers when mixed.

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BasiliskStare · 26/07/2023 14:40

If she has the occasional drink at home then fine. I think if she takes a whole bottle of Prosecco and others do similar - that sounds like an awful lot of alcohol for 16 year olds I may be being very naive here but could she take a bottle of prosecco between her and a friend.

The problem is you won't be able to legislate for what others take. Will parents be about or is it just 16 yr old friends.

Twinboymumma18 · 26/07/2023 14:40

I’m not sure if helpful (I’m 29 and my twins are 5 so not at this point yet!!) but when I was 15/16/17 off to parties my parents would buy me something like Smirnoff ice the small bottles in a pack of 4? Or like 4 ciders in that equivalent.

My parents were pretty against it but were happier knowing what I would be drinking!

CornishGem1975 · 26/07/2023 14:40

My daughter at that age used to go armed with a bottle of Apple Sourz.

nancy75 · 26/07/2023 14:42

Yes Apple sourz here too, I think they tend to pool their resources at these events!

mywifeandkids · 26/07/2023 14:44

Jeez wine is the worst hangover ever !!
I agree with the apple sourz

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Passe · 26/07/2023 14:46

The Smirnoff Ice 70 cl bottle she wants contains about a pint of 4% mix.
Maybe that and a couple of spritz cans?
Over approx 4 hours that's not too much (assuming she doesn't just neck it and go prowling more more!!)

I Did just say take a pack of Babychams, but completely lost on her!

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Netaporter · 26/07/2023 14:47

Allow her to take the pre-mix Smirnoff cans. Much lower alcohol % (around 4%)The branding is important at that age but does also stop them necking pure Smirnoff from a 1litre bottle someone else has brought along/nicked from their parents…. At that age, DD was allowed 4 pre mixed cans which she understood needed to last the whole night. It’s important they understand at that age what a measure looks like and alcohol % content. Wine and Prosecco at that age can be too strong and you’ll likely be clearing up vom…try and stay open so she talks to you after the party. And get ginger ale in for the next day in case of over-indulgence:-)

TheOwlChronicles · 26/07/2023 17:17

I don't like it at all but I've had to bend a little with my youngest who is 16.5.

For example, he has some friends over tonight for a sleepover and asked me if I'd buy them some Kopperburg's. As there's four of them, I agreed a 10 pack and he knows not to push me further on this.

I'd rather he did it with my knowledge than behind my back which of course he would do if I dug my heels in

Brightandshining · 26/07/2023 17:27

Not prosecco! Give her a bottle of smirnoff ice. It has quite a low percentage. You could drink quite a lot of it and not get too drunk. That is not the case with prosecco.
Stick to lager or alcohopops because its quite filling but proportionately low percentage.. Will slow drinking down.
I think it is probably sensible to provide her with a bottle of alcohopop because there will be alcohol there and you dont want her drinking near vodka someone stole from their parents drinks cabinet. This way she doesnt look lame in front of her friends because she has something to drink but she doesnt get trashed on spirits.

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Passe · 26/07/2023 17:35

Thanks all. Have bought her the 70cl Smirnoff Ice. Not happy that I wouldn't buy cans as well but tough.

First time I've ever really scrutinised the alcopop shelves, never really drunk them. Back in the olden days we only had cider or lager. Only decision to be made was if you bought it in tins or massive plastic bottles! 😂

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StravaLather · 26/07/2023 17:38

I'd contact the parents and find out whether they're providing anything first and how well they're supervising it. Honestly, I don't think I'd provide anything alcoholic. Knowing what I know as part of my job there is NO WAY ON EARTH I'd want to even be partly implicated in the type of things that happen at teenage parties. Time has moved on since the 90s and early 00s and things are different now. The shenanigans we got up to have moved to a much different level.
I have older teens, I get it, but I have seen the consequences. I couldn't in good faith be part of that culture by (let's remember, illegally) contributing to it.

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Passe · 26/07/2023 17:42

I agree it's a really difficult line to take.
I certainly don't want to encourage drinking but am realistic and don't want to come across hypocritical, as myself and DH like a glass or 2 of wine.

I am also thankful she is at least discussing it with me - small wins!!

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StravaLather · 26/07/2023 17:52

It's not hypocrisy. You and your DH are adults. You're talking about children, and supplying them with alcohol.

Peony654 · 26/07/2023 17:54

Not Prosecco! I think it’s positive she’s being upfront with you. I think Smirnoff ice or a bottle of the blossom hill wine that’s 5%.

Peony654 · 26/07/2023 17:54

She’ll drink alcohol whether you buy it or not. Better to discuss with her about drinking slowly, having water and food, looking after each other, preventing drink spiking etc.

FrenchandSaunders · 26/07/2023 17:58

God I hated this age … shuddered reading this. Mine are early 20s now. Best of luck OP

Luxell934 · 26/07/2023 17:58

I wouldn't be supplying alcohol for children, no matter how sensible I thought they were.

Buy her a bottle of Nozecco and tell her she can buy her own alcohol when she's 18.

Thistlelass · 26/07/2023 18:06

Purchasing/supplying your child with alcohol is an offence.

Ihaveawonderfulpartner · 26/07/2023 18:10

Luxell934 · 26/07/2023 17:58

I wouldn't be supplying alcohol for children, no matter how sensible I thought they were.

Buy her a bottle of Nozecco and tell her she can buy her own alcohol when she's 18.

Absolutely. I have a 21 year old and never encouraged alcohol and certainly never provided it while he was underage. He's in uni now and has the odd drink when home as it's now legal for him to buy. We have an open and honest relationship and he always lets me know what he's up to. The old adage of "at least they are letting you know" doesn't wash with me. Nosecco is a good call.

MissJoGrant · 26/07/2023 18:17

Thistlelass · 26/07/2023 18:06

Purchasing/supplying your child with alcohol is an offence.

Hmm. Is it? I thought under 18s could drink at home?

MissJoGrant · 26/07/2023 18:19

Thistlelass · 26/07/2023 18:06

Purchasing/supplying your child with alcohol is an offence.

Looks like that's incorrect.

www.drinkaware.co.uk/facts/alcohol-and-the-law/the-law-on-alcohol-and-under-18s#:~:text=In%20England%2C%20Scotland%20and%20Wales,or%20on%20other%20private%20premises.

"In England, Scotland and Wales, it’s not illegal for someone between the ages of five and 17 to drink alcohol at home or on other private premises."

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