Alcohol allowance teen party!

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DD 16 is off to a party at weekend - naturally she wants to take alcohol as of course literally EVERYONE else is! 🙄

Trying to establish what she could take and what a reasonable amount is?
She wants drinks like Smirnoff Ice and Prosecco but I'm not sure how much to let her have. She does have the occasional drink at home so not overly worried about her getting off her face (famous last words )

I used to send mine with alcohol. Better than them scavenging a bottle of spirits like I did at 16 and vomiting all over someone's lawn.

Realistically, it depends on the child/young person as to whether they're interested or not in alcohol. Of course what they've observed at home can be an influence, but it's not that simple.

As OPs DD is interested, if only to fit in, then buying her a small amount of what she has requested sounds reasonable, along with the advice about eating, drinking slowly and looking out for each other.

My 16 year old isn't there yet, and I'm glad that she wasn't necking vodka at 13 like some of her friends, but I think this is what I'd do.

Yes under 18’s can drink at home. And 16 year olds can drink in restaurants if they’re having a meal.

“In England, Scotland and Wales, it’s not illegal for someone between the ages of five and 17 to drink alcohol at home or on other private premises.”

https://www.drinkaware.co.uk/facts/alcohol-and-the-law/the-law-on-alcohol-and-under-18s

OP I think cider or alcopops is the way forward here, or Sourz. Maybe not Prosecco though.

No neat spirits, but 3 or 4 pre-mixed drinks cans is plenty to get a bit tipsy. That's what I did for mine at that age. What % is Smirnoff Ice?

Nope.

Sorry I was noping this. Completely incorrect

@Thistlelass if you're going to take the time to be all po faced on a thread, at least get your facts right

@TheOwlChronicles Please don't be rude and call people who either don't drink alcohol (which could be for religious, social or health reasons) or who want to protect children "po-faced". That attitude contributes directly to the culture of alcohol that is hugely problematic in this country. Whilst @Thistlelass is correct in consideration of alcohol in a public place etc and you are also correct that it's within the law in a private house, you'll also notice from that link from drink aware that it is "not recommended".
Ask yourself whether you'd like to be name checked during legal action as the supplier of alcohol at a private party for teenagers where something truly awful has happened. Because this happens. A lot.

At that age I had a four pack of Bacardi breezer

Aw it's so difficult! I think as you know she is intending to drink and you've bought her some I'd focus your efforts now on making sure she has a plan to get home safely, knows to call you if she needs you at any point and that regardless of the situation, however stupid she's been, you will always go and pick her up. Also feed her up well with plenty of carbs before she goes and encourage her to keep drinking plenty of water.

Bloody hell, on my 16th party my parents provided a couple of 2 ltr bottles of shandy, for everyone to share! And I was a teen in the heyday of the alcopop! 😂

A couple of older looking guests did make their way down the fire escape and over to the local Spar for something a bit stronger than a shandy, but it definitely wasn't everyone bringing drinks!

No. It is not incorrect. It is an offence for an adult to go to a supermarket or offlicence to purchase alcohol for someone under the age of 18! And the adult can be charged.

Must say I'm quite surprised at how level headed most of the replies are.

It isn't illegal for a young person to consume alcohol at home. It isn't advised. But it isn't illegal.

Most teenagers are going to do it whether their parents like it or not. I'd rather provide an amount I am comfortable with and have an open and honest relationship with my child than have them sneak about.

I buy alcohol for my 16 nearly 17 year old, but he only drinks every couple of weeks and I buy a 4 pack of cider or lager for him to take to a friends house. He is welcome to a bottle of beer at home if he wants but he generally prefers a soft drink though not always.
I certainly don't subscribe to never buying or condoning alcohol for under 18s as long as they are taught responsibility and moderation.

I'm surprised by the poster saying things have got worse with teens and drinking. That's not my experience at all. I have a 16 and 18 year old and they drink way less than me and my friends did at that age. Their social gatherings aren't all about getting pissed like ours were. Mine have a drink now and then. The 16 year old has got drunk once by NOT taking his own alcohol and drinking punch that had vodka in it. He hasn't drunk since because he didn't enjoy the experience!

They aren't unusual amongst their friends either.

If she likes Prosecco than you could try Aldi/Lidl for a vino verde - a sparkling white wine that's usually lower in alcohol

Round here they seem to take a small bottle of vodka and mixers are supplied - they all have their own bottles that get dragged round and sometimes shared with someone who hasn't been allowed to bring any.