What time do people do to bed?

[newnamechangeforthisone]

Just curious really, I have lost perspective because I have children with additional needs that don't sleep but I also run a business and have lots of people message late and early (after 10pm and before 6am). I never know what time is appropriate to message people back either. My husband seems to believe that anything before midnight is early and I'm not sure it is. Just wanted perspectives.

I go to bed around 10ish and get up at 6ish

I'd not message after 11pm or before 6 unless a dire emergency. But even then I'd try and wait.

Thats close friends and team colleagues

In bed between 8 and 9, awake at 6am, I need 9 or 10 hours sleep 😴

Early shift..9-930 (4.30 am alarm)

late shift 12-1am

weekends around 11pm.

Thanks all, interesting variance.

To clarify, I don't tend to message people late, unless they have messaged me first and then I'll reply. I usually schedule emails so they arrive at a decent time.

I'm essentially in entertainment/education so nothing life and death but I have customers call me regularly after 11am, I have had calls past 1am (I don't answer). And before 6am.

Just after I do the midnight medications for my little one, my phone is set to Do Not Disturb after 22:00 so if I were to receive a message it would come through silently.

Around 1ish, up at 6 but my phone is permanently on silent so any messages at any time don’t disturb me.
I wouldn’t send business ones out later than 8pm though as you may end up setting expectations to respond round the clock and you need to create yourself some healthy boundaries.

Yes, you're right. I struggle with not knowing when to switch off from work, most people message pretty late which I get but also it means I get even less down time

A business shouldn’t be messaging after end of business hours which are about 6pm

You're assuming they expect a reply at that time, isn't more likely they don't want to forget so send the message there and then knowing you'll pick it up in the morning and reply during your work day

If the messages are coming to your phone does it have a do not disturb function?

@VisionsOfSplendour absolutely the majority don't, some do though. Some will hound me every 10 minutes or so until I reply. It won't be an urgent matter. But yes, you're absolutely right but equally I reply for the same reason as I forget who I have and haven't replied to if I don't do it straight away. Equally that's a me problem not theirs.

Surely the whole point of emails is that the recipient deals with them when they to? I haven't activated any notification "bell" on mine so if they come in at 7.30pm or 3.30am is irrelevant as I won't look until the morning.

I'm up between 6am and 7am, sometimes even a little earlier. Because of this I should be asleep between 10pm and 11pm but often end up staying up till midnight cos it's the only chance I get to properly switch off.

I don't mind when people message as I put my phone on silent when I don't want to hear it.

Surely phones are on silent past 7 ( mine is always on silent )
I sometimes get up at 5 and reply to messages . Surely they get them when they wake up? 🤨

9pm (at the latest!!!)

But I'm up at 4am!!!

My phone is on silent and so I respond to messages and emails whenever I can - and that is early - and just hope others are like me and have it on silent overnight 🫣

Majority of my contacts are either calls, texts, WhatsApp or social media messages, emails feel more like something you can wait until business hours.

I'm not complaining though, it is what it is. It's usually pretty convenient for me to have messages in the evening or night but I just wondered what people considered bedtime.

I go to bed anywhere between 9 and Midnight, usually around 11pm. I don't need to get up until 7/8.30am. I always have do not disturb after 10pm though.

9pm
My phone is always on silent so I don't hear any notifications.

10.30 on work nights, 11.30 at weekends.
I don’t contact anyone apart from a couple of family members after 9pm or before 8am (emergencies aside).

I'm in bed by 9pm with my phone on Do Not Disturb.

If you're replying to someone who has also messaged late then I don't think it matters too much, but I think 9pm is a good cut off in general.

Around 10 or 10.30pm up to bed and read for a bit, lights out usually around 11pm. I get up at 6.30am.

I go to bed around 10pm. However, my phone is on 'do not disturb' from 9pm until 7am:

If someone messaged me at 11pm (like your DH seems to think is OK @newnamechangeforthisone ) I would ensure I didn't respond for a day and a half.

I have had occasions where I have had people email me on Boxing Day, Easter Sunday, and Good Friday. (And also text me.) I ignore them for 2 days. Utterly fucking rude. After 9am, and before 6pm are the only reasonable times IMO. Monday to Friday and NOT fucking bank holidays!

My DH had a blood test in April, and some 3 weeks later, the GP decided to ring him to discuss his results, at twenty minutes to fucking NINE at night. On a Friday night. We were in the pub having a few beers/glasses of wine, and he had to go out the front in the cold, and spend fucking 15 minutes chatting to the GP at nearly nine at night.

I suppose the GP was trying to catch up as he was clearly 'behind' but FFS calling someone on a Friday night at nearly nine, is a pisstake. DH didn't want to not answer, as he could see when he looked to see who's ringing that it was the doctor's surgery, so he thought it was urgent!

They could have rung on the Monday FFS. In 'office hours.' They are open Monday to Friday 9am to 5.30pm, and you can't get to speak to THEM out of those hours!

I go up about 10:15-10:30 but often not asleep until 11:30. Then up between 6-6:45 depending on what job DH is doing that day. I never get enough sleep, I'm permanently exhausted 😔. I would go up earlier but DS doesn't go until 10:15 and I don't want to go to bed before him, plus DH requires considerably less sleep than me and I wouldn't be able to sleep until he was going going to bed too.

We usually go to bed between 10.30pm-12am, then up at 6.30am on schooldays, any time on non-schooldays but usually by 9am.

However, messages coming through to my phone when I'm in bed won't disturb me as we have a no phones upstairs rule. The exceptions are if any of our DC are not sleeping at home, or we are expecting important news (such as when MIL was dying or my DF was in hospital following a near-fatal accident). We sleep so much better without a phone in the room, regardless of whether messages come through or not, I find if it is there we jump at every tiny sound.