If you could change it would you have your kids younger or older than the age you actually were?

[atolly]

What age were you, and would you change it? Just being nosey!

33 and 35. I think I’d have waited a couple of years if I could’ve been certain of my fertility. (Which, of course, you can’t be….)

Me three

34 and 36. Wish I'd started 5 years earlier. As pp said, hadn't met dh then though.

22 and 25. Sounds ridiculously young now. We’d already been together four years and had a mortgage and a car. It seemed the right time. Once they were at school I went to uni and built a good career in education. Managed to do a lot of travel too. And we are young enough to be active with our GC and take them out.

In an ideal world a little bit younger. But it wasn't an ideal world so I'm happy.he

19 my first I wish I'd had him later my second I was 32 I wish I'd had her earlier

29 and 32 - Im nearly 33 now. I feel like that was perfect for us!
DH is the same age as me (we went to school together)

33 (starting trying at 31) and now trying for number 2 at 35 and will be 36 at least for the next one. A bit earlier would have been good as then I wouldn't be stressing about my age now! But I had a fun 20s. Lots of my friends haven't even started yet! And I was the youngest in my nct.

I was thirty-nine, but met DH and got married quite late too. In an ideal situation i would have done everything ten years earlier and had another child, poor DD would love a sibling.

I was 29, 30 and 33. That was perfect for me.

25 then 30. Wouldn't have changed a thing.

34 and wish I had mine a few years earlier so I had more time to decide if I wanted a second or to have the option of a bigger age gap.

26-32, was perfect for me, though I regret this was at least 10 years earlier than my peers, and in that sense it was very lonely.

I think no overall because I like the age gap that we have and I wouldn't have wanted to finish having DC any later.

But I was definitely too young with DS1 at 20, so I should have had him later really. I had the other two at 30 and 33 and those were good ages.

Biologically it's so much better to have them young.

It's sad that society makes it so hard to be a young mum.

Pregnant with my first at 21, had him at 22. Then four more before I was 31.

Wouldn't change it as wanted to have them all fairly young.

Younger - I started trying to get pregnant at 30, but it took till I was 33 to have my first. Had my second at 35, then wanted a third at 37, but DH (three years older) felt too old.

If I'd been successful in conceiving at 30, then had my second at 33, then I might've been able to persuade DH to go for no.3 at 35.

I wouldn't give up my child free, carefree 20s for anything though!

MC at 24. Divorced and then remarried, DC at 27 and 28.

Wouldn't change anything.

32 and 35
When I think back, I think I would have been slightly young 26/27 maybe?

However it didn't work out that way, que sera sera...

36 and 38. I think a decade earlier would've helped.

43

would have been earlier but took 11 years to carry a baby to term

wish it had been much earlier as I’m knackered and they are still small, and an only

friends kids are adults and I’m worrying about primary school friendships

also been with DH since 21 which confuses people

Had mine at 32 and 36. Wouldn’t change it at all I think, for me, it was the perfect age. Got all the drinking/partying/festivals/travelling out of my system in my 20’s and also financially secure when we had them. Hopefully when they’ve left home/are independent I’ll still be young enough to enjoy more ‘me time’ and more travelling! Only thing I regret is I had 2 miscarriages between the first and second and ideally would have started trying earlier…but only by a few months and can’t say that other things wouldn’t have gone wrong 🤷‍♀️.

I'm 42 with fingers crossed that this one goes to term. Only been together 3 years and first pregnancy was last year.

Would have loved to have had my first at least 2-3 years ago so that a 2nd seemed feasible but as things stand I'll be delighted to have 1 healthy child.

If I'd met the right guy 10- 12 years ago then I'd probably have wanted to start trying for the first by 35 or, if earlier and £ allowed, to freeze some embryos.

That and so many men being idiots!

I am 32 and LTR ended. You give me hope.