Baby crying in my cul de sac... what to do

[mrsneate]

He cries all the time. Obviously now the windows are open we can hear it more. My teen son just came in and said he's heard the baby crying since he got him this morning and he's still crying now.

Parents are police officers as far as I know. I've never spoken to them (I'm fairly new to the street!)

I know when my neighbour popped over when my youngest cried for 23 hours a day I was mortified and it made me feel worse,

He's about 18 months old I think.

Is it worth contacting the local health visitor? Or would you pop round (in the daylight obviously)

My baby screamed and cried most of the day and night. It was hell. I felt dreadful about it but nothing we tried helped. We went to private dr's, tried elimination diets, and so on. I was hanging on by a thread.

If someone had called SS on me it would have broken me.

Yes this had made me wonder what on earth they are thinking not intervening. Given their jobs there is no reason not to go round and explain you've heard him crying and wondered if you could offer some assistance.

Either that, or the threat is made up 🤔

I think the going round with cake suggestion is a suggestion of general neighbourliness. Better for this to start before there are any issues so you know your neighbours and are on good terms.

Maybe if people had been more nosy, there wouldn't have been multiple kids dying for horrific neglect and abuse...?

These parents are obviously exhausted if their baby is awake all those hours, poo round and mention you hear baby crying and you want to offer some help? Offer to have the little one so they can rest, invite them for a cuppa so they can open up and you can find out what's actually going on?

This ^^

Also what does the parents being police officers have to do with anything?

WTF, a social worker and a paediatric nurse don't know what to do?

Maybe they need to call the Police? 😂

Get off mumsnet

Go cook them a meal

Take it over to them

And offer to watch the toddler for an hour so they can bloody sleep

Don't forget to take your badge to prove your a nurse

And see for yourself

I guess people ask.. like everyone who moves onto our road asks about crying from a particular house
It's most days and nights and you hear screaming/crying/fuck off/get off me but it's a young woman with a disability
I tune it out after 15 years but new people find it really worrying

If you're worried and its ongoing all the time and for really extended periods and not at times you'd expect crying then better to contact social services. I will say however my wee man has been off today. So he's cried any time he's been set down, or any time he's been tired and it's been a struggle to get him to sleep, or any time he's got frustrated trying to crawl etc etc. So I'd consider how long you're actually hearing the crying for , is it just short moments that you notice it and really you've no idea what's happening in between or is it actually extended crying. If it's only moments that you're noticing it and thinking flip they're still crying then I wouldn't be inclined to ring, but if you hear it ongoing for long periods and you can hear it the whole time then yes I'd ring. I wouldn't go to the door though.

As a parent to an 18 month old, it isn't normal for them to cry for hours.

How old were they? When I saw the title o thought, well of course, it's a baby with colic or something. But as a parent to an 18 month old, I struggle to believe it would be that sort of thing going on!

It depends on the child they might be ill.,teething etc some babies cry more than others you can't say what's normal.by your anecdotal sample of one

But this child isn't a baby, it's a toddler. Babies cry more - not saying that there aren't reasons why a toddler would cry a lot due to teething, illness etc but still it's a concerning amount of crying for a toddler to be doing.

Why the hell isn't your SW friend doing something?!

Agree agree agree.

Please give us an update op.

Looking for a little bit of advice.
I have a 9 month old little girl who was born with Strep B. She was extremely poorly at birth and spent a week in ICU. We were so very lucky that she made a full recovery and thankfully has no lasting effect from the infection.
however, since starting nursery 3 months ago, she has been constantly poorly. She’s had every cold, cough and runny nose and hasn’t been sleeping great at night. This last week, my little one has been to the doctors twice and admitted to hospital with an extremely high fever which we now know is a viral infection.
seeing her so poorly is heartbreaking and we as parents are doing our very best.
which leads me to what other mums think to the below.
my neighbour knocked on my door this morning, for reference they have no kids so they don’t understand. However after being awake every hour in the night with my poorly baby who keeps getting temperatures of 39 +, already emotional and exhausted. He proceeds to complain about her crying and keeping him and his wife awake. He then told me to seek support and now I feel like the worlds worse mum because my poorly baby is crying in the night!
i admit that she has been crying a lot however I am doing everything in my power to help her, she’s started sleeping with me again so I can get to her as soon as I hear her murmur. I’m personally in shock, as I would never complain about a neighbours baby crying. But I’d like to know what other mums think and if I’m being unfair?!

A social worker and paediatric nurse should surely between them have a bit of an idea on what to do? No?