Bereavement hamper

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I want to send a hamper to a friend but dont know where to start. A lot of them look like not very much for a lot of cash! Thinking to spend £50-£80.
They are a couple with no children, so just want to send nice things that might be helpful/cheerful for the two of them while they go through a horrible time.
Anyone have any suggestions for hampers they have used that they thought were good value, good quality?
Thanks in advance.

Tbh I'd get them like a ready meal box or something like that

like hello fresh? that is a great idea. Might send that next week when they are back home, this week they are still bedside at the hospice going through last day s

Let them know first though, so that they don’t put in a big online shop

@crumpet good idea I didnt think of that

Ah that is so sweet and lovely, I wish more people would do that for bereavement. It's so personal, depends what they're into? You could make the a cake, include a nice card to say you're thinking of them. Perhaps even an inspirational book - I'm sure the Good grief trust might have some great ideas or suggestions:

Cook vouchers?

It's a lovely thought but, to be honest, when I lost my parents, nothing was really registering at all - some meal kits so they don't have to think about making food, or if there's a particular comfort food they like? My sister and I got through a lot of Lindors in our DM's final days. And wine.

I’d do a just eat or cook type voucher rather than something like hello fresh.

Either that or do a hamper of things that don’t need cooked so if they’re busy or just not in the mood they have some nice things to nibble on.

Things that would have helped me when my mum died were things like takeaway vouchers (just eat type) or pre-made ready meals. I had no focus to be preparing something like hello fresh, so much fresh food went to waste as we just lived off the various takeaways in the area for about a month. Something I could put in the microwave without any fuss and that also had relatively long dates, and also catered to our various allergies and dietary needs.

Hello Fresh etc still need to be prepped and cooked and if your friends are still in the organising stages of grief it may be more of a hindrance to have to wait in for a delivery, unpack and then cook. Maybe you could batch cook some food and portion it up for their freezer so that when they get home they just need to pop it in the microwave. Or make a hamper of nibbles - anything that doesn't create more work for them.

Or some Just Eat vouchers?

You're a lovely friend for even thinking about it. 💐

Thanks for the tips, I will do this, send just eat vouchers when they are home.
Can anyone suggest a nice hamper I can send now, bisuits and stuff, that they can snack on while they are going through these hard days and not home that much? They can then take stuff from the hamper to the hospice.
Just want to send the best one I can and I dont have any hamper experience, and google is bewildering me, too many options.

I'd have hated a Hello Fresh box when my Dad died. The last thing we needed was to be faffing about making a meal. We ate sporadically & wanted things that basically needed heating up. Personally iI don't think it's a good idea at all.

Just Eat or Deliveroo vouchers are a great idea, provided they deliver in your friends’ area.

Nobody told me how bloody exhausting grief is. Food that doesn’t take any thought or planning is a huge help.

Only do a Cook voucher if there's one nearby - I'd never used them before and when I was given one it took me about 6 months to get around to actually using it, I couldn't tackle anything new not even a website order. Deliveroo vouchers were great for me (or Just Eat if you're not in a big Deliveroo area). Cake is a great idea. I was also given a beautiful candle to light in memory which I really appreciated.

Someone sent me the M&S Afternoon Tea delivery and that was a nice treat.

Sending a hamper to soon to be bereaved people just seems totally inappropriate to me. I'd associate food hampers with celebration and enjoyment and good times.

M & S have some nice hampers that you can send .. Its a lovely thought

Agreed.

I'd want biscuits but I'd not want "nice biscuits" as then I'd be shocked that I was thinking "oh a nice biscuit" at such a time.

The thing is, you're going to end up paying a premium on the hamper-ness of the hamper, when they're not really in the frame of mind (in the nicest possible way) to appreciate it. And hampers always end up including random filler things like chutney or jam which are pretty wtf at the best of times.

I'd go for ease and quantity - a friend sent me a 'crate' of pre mixed gin and tonics, via Amazon; another sent a Betty's of Harrogate cake in a tin. M&S and Cutter & Squidge are good for afternoon teas in a box that they could graze on?

I sent a hamper to a friend when he lost his father and him and his mother really appreciated it, not in the least because it was some nice snacks and bits that cheered them up for a bit.

M and s vote here as well. I think it's a really lovely idea op x

I usually make up my own care packages with tea, coffee, decaf, hot chocolate, biscuits, cakes, milk and bread. People always have folk popping round after a bereavement for a cuppa.

I've also boxed up home cooked meals that can just be warmed in the micro.

Depends how close you live to them though and if you would visit.

I recently sent a hamper to a friend after a bereavement but I made my own . I purchased things I thought would be useful but also might bring some light relief in a horrid time. I put things in like wine, I got some of the space eye masks, lavender spray for pillow as I knew my friend was struggling to sleep. I put some cheese and biscuits in , sweets for some sugar hit and then some crossword books and stuff for the bath and a takeaway voucher

It's been a year since now and my friend has since told me how much it meant as one of things things she struggled with was how many flowers she got that then died

Good shout

After my mum died, a very dear friend dropped off 14 nice M and S ready meals, a massive box of tea bags and a tin of nice chocolate biscuits. It made a huge difference in those first 2 weeks. She also bought me cat litter!!!