Do you ever feel scared when home alone?

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I’m going to house sit for some friends soon. They live in the middle of nowhere, in an Elizabethan farm house. I don’t have a car so I’ll be there all on my own for a few days until dh can join me, as he has meetings in person.

I’m just starting to worry I might get scared being in a big old house all alone!

Yes, I’m a total wuss 😂 I have to talk myself down.

Yes I would- can you take a friend?

I can understand your concern being in the middle of nowhere and in a house your not familiar with. Do they have a ring doorbell? I feel so much more secure now that we have a doorbell and alarm system.

I'm sure you will be fine 🙂

Even in my own home I'm scared for the first few days alone unless there's a dog here !

I do. More recently especially as my abusive estranged adult son is confirmed to be back in the area. I am triple checking everything is locked up and sleeping with the tv on. Otherwise every noise is making me jump!

DC's are with their father
DP is away at sea for another ten days

I hate it

I get scared too! Once I've put DC to bed I revert to being a child myself 😂 I always leave all the lights on when DH is out.

No, never. Your responses have surprised me! Although I was at a conference recently with colleagues and we all stayed in the hotel. The next morning, I was amazed by how many of them said they slept with the windows closed and the light on! In turn, they were amazed that I’d slept in total darkness with the windows wide open.😂

Not in my own house which I'm alone in 90% of the time, but once I had to spend a night alone in a holiday cottage on a remote island and I didn't sleep a wink! Which is completely irrational as I was probably safer there than in a city.

Yes I would be scared, am scared at home too sometimes. Sorry that’s probably not all that helpful!

I'd be scared if I had to do that.

It's it a very large house OP? And have you been there before?

If it were me I'd set up camp in one room with access to toilet etc. and just stay there.

But then I'm a scaredy cat 😂

Try not to overthink it though. The nights are very bright atm so not many hours of proper darkness. Do they have a fairly local neighbour?

No, not in the slightest.

I have lived alone for nearly 40 years, stayed in friend's houses alone, hotel rooms alone even camped alone. Why would there be an issue? Never even worried about it.

I very occasionally get scared but I'm talking maybe once or twice a year.
I love being in a house on my own. We live in the countryside and one of our old houses was up a hill and a friend mentioned she would be scared there but it hadn't crossed my mind to be scared. I like being outside in the dark though as well. Weirdly I was terrified at night and of the dark right up until my late teens so not sure what happened!

Yes I'd be scared. Sleep with most of all the lights on.

Yes, I would feel very unsettled being in the middle of nowhere with no neighbours around. I don’t think I’d sleep a wink.

If dh ever had to work away for a night or 2, I feel slightly on edge at night. It’s not so much feeling scared, more like I’m on high alert, I sleep much lighter, every noise wakes me up etc. We have a ring alarm & I find myself checking the back garden every so often during the night.

No, I'm fine on my own and used to being in 'creepy' old houses. The important thing is not to let your imagination run away with you -old houses creak and make the odd noise. If I investigate I've always found a logical explanation.

If you are worried about crime, it's probably very safe, just look up at night. I live in a tiny village with no street lights and one street of houses through fields. Someone visited me recently and said she'd be scared to live here on her own - I pointed out her house in Greater London is the one that needs a burglar alarm.

Check your mobile network can get a signal there before you go.

Yep I'm scared on my own in the house.
When I get home from work I check all rooms, sleep with the hallway light on, lock the bedroom door, spend ages checking that all windows and doors are locked, I even close all the blinds before it gets dark as I don't like looking outside into the dark, I put a lamp on in the bedroom before it gets dark.
I'm a right fanny 😁

No but I live in a city. I would in the situation you're describing. I'm not good with remoteness, I hate being a long way from other people and public services.
Whatever this says about me it can't really be good.

No, I've always lived alone

Are you scared of ghosts or intruders?

Not in my own home (bliss!) but in a big remote unfamiliar old house - possibly.

No. Although I might not like an unfamiliar house. I live in an old thatched rural cottage, alas I am rarely alone these days but love it when I am. I lived alone for 13 years and really miss it!

Yep

I'm not scared but I set "traps". i.e. things that would make a racket if hit by a door opening. I would be happier if I still had dogs. I live in a rural location but have neighbours to one side.

I have lived alone (apart from the kids) for over 30 years since DH died, and completely alone for the last 12, since my DDs moved out for uni and then jobs 50 miles away. I am in a small village in Perthshire, so not a crime ridden inner city, but I have had my house set on fire by an arsonist car thief, and there was a murder down my street.
You just need to be calm and not let things spook you, OP!

No, but I might manage to freak myself out in a new place in the middle of nowhere