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Living above a pub

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Butterfly200 · 09/07/2023 15:12

Hi All, I'm looking advice,
My partners lives above a pub they do have band nights. It is actually in the pub upstairs. I am currently living at my parents however I'm really not happy about staying here, its not happy environment. I am planning on living half and half but now I'm thinking about permanent moving in with him. However I have alot of anxieties about being there with a baby I'm due very soon and I don't think it's suitable for a new born to be above a pub. Has anyone else lived or living above a pub with a new born or children. Very undecided

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WTFAreYouForReal · 09/07/2023 15:14

I wouldn't, with a baby, but you do you.

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Butterfly200 · 09/07/2023 15:19

I'm extremely unhappy decided about it all, I'm just not happy with being at my parents. However I also have anxiety about living above a pub with a baby

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Lefteyetwitch · 09/07/2023 15:23

Yea, I have. What time does the pub closed. Mine was more of a nightclub as well.

gogomoto · 09/07/2023 15:24

Children have been living pubs since pubs existed! It's your personal choice but it's fine

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Butterfly200 · 09/07/2023 15:27

The pub closes half 10pm during the week amd 11pm at the weekend. Did you have your new born there. I have jesrd the band on Saturday night and they're anre extremely loud he was on 2 floors up but now he moved down a floor on the pub level

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Lefteyetwitch · 09/07/2023 15:28

Butterfly200 · 09/07/2023 15:27

The pub closes half 10pm during the week amd 11pm at the weekend. Did you have your new born there. I have jesrd the band on Saturday night and they're anre extremely loud he was on 2 floors up but now he moved down a floor on the pub level

That's early we closed at 03:00
Baby will most likely be completely unaffected.

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Butterfly200 · 09/07/2023 15:30

I'm worried they would be unsettled and won't sleep because of the band that's my main concern

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Lefteyetwitch · 09/07/2023 15:35

Was fine for us and the babies before us.

CattyCattle · 09/07/2023 15:36

Your baby will learn how to sleep through all the noise fairly quickly. How do you manage it? If you're anxious about the noise the baby will pick up on that rather than the noise.

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Butterfly200 · 09/07/2023 15:40

I am just concerned that they won't be able to settle and be woken up by the loudness of it. I don't make to make full decision it doesn't work for little one.

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Butterfly200 · 09/07/2023 15:41

My baby isn't born yet but they will be fairly soon. I am not living with him at this moment in time, I plan on living half with him and half with my parents to avoid the band night

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Carpediem15 · 09/07/2023 15:41

Mine lived above a pub for about 15 years without problems and we had rock bands on, lots of different kind of parties in a private room including Indian weddings with lots of music and people and they slept without problems.

OliveHenry · 09/07/2023 15:42

I was born upstairs in a pub (grandad was landlord) and spent many nights there as my parents both helped out in the bar. Apparently I was a very good sleeper (and still am!)

My sister was also born there, same circumstances, but has always been a light sleeper.

So I don't think it will be the deciding factor as to whether or not your baby sleeps well 😆

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Butterfly200 · 09/07/2023 15:45

I have no idea where on earth you got that from, he is incredible man and will alwsys put us first. I am not happy with your comment. Its nothing to do with him at all.

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Maddy70 · 09/07/2023 15:46

My friend is a landlord with 3 children living there. It's fine you get used to noise

You can always move back

QueSyrahSyrah · 09/07/2023 15:46

A friend of mine is a pub manager, so all 5 of his kids have been brought up in flats above pubs with no harm done. Live music pubs too.

My concern would be is it a completely self-contained flat, or does he share facilities with other staff? I've lived in both variations when I was working in pubs. My own flat was fine, sharing living space with other staff, less so.

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Butterfly200 · 09/07/2023 15:48

It's a whole flat to ourselves and completely separate no sharing involved. It is a normal flat just above a pub. No one else lives there. Not a communal flat or areas

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WonderfulUsername · 09/07/2023 15:56

I really am not.

You're legitimately concerned and anxious about your baby not being able to settle or sleep, to the point where it means you two aren't living together.

Why is this not the same concern for him?

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Butterfly200 · 09/07/2023 15:58

It is a concern for him too we have discussed and I thought I would ask for other mums thoughts on it. We are his piorty and we plan on finding a place once baby is born, we've been looking for ages and I didn't say we were going live separately, he would move in with me if needed to be.

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UndercoverCop · 09/07/2023 15:58

Why are your options to live with your parents or above a pub? Can't you move somewhere else and your partner live with you?
I have lived above a pub and loved it, but it was only for a summer and I was 20

Niftyswiftie · 09/07/2023 15:59

Can you get somewhere new between you? I wouldn't want to live with patents or above a pub.

Sandcastles24 · 09/07/2023 16:00

It will probably annoy you more than the baby. As a newborn they can sleep almost anywhere. Can't you try it to see how it goes. You can always go back to your parents if you don't like it?