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I'm going away with a new man for the first time in 35 years

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Goldfoot · 05/07/2023 19:19

I met DH young and we stayed married until he died.

I've been single for a few years now, have actually been quite enjoying life, have lots of friends and hobbies, a job I enjoy and a pretty active life. I haven't really bothered with men 😆

However, I have recently agreed to go away for the weekend with a man. I've no idea where this is going going tbh. He's lovely, very attractive, in excellent shape and good company. I don't have any desire to "settle down" again, I'll never live with a man again, I'm enjoying my independence too much. Some sex fun and companionship is appealing though, so I've agreed to go and am looking forward to it.

It's so alien to me though. I was 19yo last time I did this! What do I need to know? Blush

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Greendoor12 · 05/07/2023 19:20

How exciting!!

Where are you going? As in hotel, shared rooms etc?

Take whatever you feel good in, snacks and wine!

AppleKatie · 05/07/2023 19:21

um… Im almost as clueless as you.

plan what will you will wear —in bed—, pack a book to read if he sleeps in in the morning 😂

does that help? Probably not.

oh condoms, definitely those.

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Goldfoot · 05/07/2023 19:40

Greendoor12 · 05/07/2023 19:20

How exciting!!

Where are you going? As in hotel, shared rooms etc?

Take whatever you feel good in, snacks and wine!

Hotel, double bed.

We're going for a cultural event happening in the town

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Goldfoot · 06/07/2023 08:28

Aw is no one going to help me out? 😆

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Otherlover · 06/07/2023 08:32

Have you already had sex? How long have you known him for?

YukoandHiro · 06/07/2023 08:34

You've agreed to a first date abroad with one hotel room between you?!

I love your style. Hope it goes really well.

LadyKX · 06/07/2023 08:36

Have you been on a date with the bloke before?
Have you slept together before?
Or are you doing all of the above ‘away’?!

PrayerFactory · 06/07/2023 08:41

Yes, I’m assuming you’ve already slept with him?

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Goldfoot · 06/07/2023 08:54

YukoandHiro · 06/07/2023 08:34

You've agreed to a first date abroad with one hotel room between you?!

I love your style. Hope it goes really well.

It's not abroad

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Otherlover · 06/07/2023 08:56

If it's in the UK, will you have a way to leave the place easily if you're not happy or will you be so rural and without internet/phone coverage and dependent on his car or something?

mdh2020 · 06/07/2023 08:59

Personally I would ask the GP for some anti biotics in case you get cystitis. Other than that, relax and have a wonderful time.

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Goldfoot · 06/07/2023 09:02

LadyKX · 06/07/2023 08:36

Have you been on a date with the bloke before?
Have you slept together before?
Or are you doing all of the above ‘away’?!

Not really. I know him well, we've been friends for years and since we've both been single there's been "something" that we haven't acted on. I have no concerns about my safety.

It's very much a play it by ear situation. I'm not really sure what "it" is, but you only live once 😆

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Otherlover · 06/07/2023 09:03

In this case I'd book separate bedrooms. Way too much for me to go away and share a bed with a man I'd only been friends with. Pack condoms and good luck.

Otherlover · 06/07/2023 09:04

mdh2020 · 06/07/2023 08:59

Personally I would ask the GP for some anti biotics in case you get cystitis. Other than that, relax and have a wonderful time.

Are you for real?😂
Doubt GPs dish out anti-biotics just in case.

Otherlover · 06/07/2023 09:07

Probably don't eat any food that upsets your stomach with no toilet of your own to poop and fart in peace for a whole weekend.

Justcallmebebes · 06/07/2023 09:08

mdh2020 · 06/07/2023 08:59

Personally I would ask the GP for some anti biotics in case you get cystitis. Other than that, relax and have a wonderful time.

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Goldfoot · 06/07/2023 09:10

Otherlover · 06/07/2023 08:56

If it's in the UK, will you have a way to leave the place easily if you're not happy or will you be so rural and without internet/phone coverage and dependent on his car or something?

I'll be able to get myself home if necessary. I'm in a fortunate position that there aren't many problems you can't solve if you chuck enough money at it and staying in a hotel there'd be people to help if it was that bad, but I don't have any concerns on that front.

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SoWhatEh · 06/07/2023 09:13

Buy underwear that looks sexy but also feels incredibly comfortable. Nothing worse than rolling around on a bed in itchy nylon lace!

Bring a sexy floaty kimono dressing gown for morning coffee or sitting up chatting late at night.

Have a pedicure and manicure - i have been known to think, please stop lovingly kissing my toes to show you adore every part of me, they are scaly trotters right now and it's really putting me off.

Don't do anything you don't want to do.

Hope you have fun.

PrayerFactory · 06/07/2023 09:13

OP, this sounds like a lot of pressure for a weekend away. I mean, if you’re essentially trying to figure out if you’re sexually attracted to one another, I wouldn’t be sleeping with a longterm friend for the first time on a weekend away in a shared hotel room where I couldn’t retreat from the situation and get my head together, if needed. I would also want the option not to share a bed if I’d decided not to sleep with him.

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Goldfoot · 06/07/2023 09:30

Yes, I understand why it all sounds odd and I'm usually a very cautious type, but I feel very relaxed about this. Which is unusual, I don't usually feel relaxed about anything!

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badluckorbadvibes · 06/07/2023 09:32

mdh2020 · 06/07/2023 08:59

Personally I would ask the GP for some anti biotics in case you get cystitis. Other than that, relax and have a wonderful time.

Hahahaha

Could you imagine your GPS face 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Goldfoot · 06/07/2023 10:50

I probably should have said were going out just the two of us next weekend, when I intend to establish whether we're just friends or not once and for all 😆

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Goldfoot · 06/07/2023 10:51

If it is left as friends, sharing the room will still be fine.

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Mummy2022FT · 06/07/2023 14:34

If I were you I would...

Wear matching underwear.

If you wake up before him sneak off to the bathroom and go and brush your teeth to avoid morning breath (sorry had to put that one in there)

If you wear makeup make sure it is removed properly before you go to bed so that you don't wake up with 'panda eyes'

Good luck and have fun! 🥰

Myn · 06/07/2023 18:14

Leave something in the car that you really must fetch -go to the bathroom- if you feel shy to go in the same room. I personally accidentally farted when I slept with my husband for the first time.