I'm going away with a new man for the first time in 35 years

[Goldfoot]

I met DH young and we stayed married until he died.

I've been single for a few years now, have actually been quite enjoying life, have lots of friends and hobbies, a job I enjoy and a pretty active life. I haven't really bothered with men 😆

However, I have recently agreed to go away for the weekend with a man. I've no idea where this is going going tbh. He's lovely, very attractive, in excellent shape and good company. I don't have any desire to "settle down" again, I'll never live with a man again, I'm enjoying my independence too much. Some sex fun and companionship is appealing though, so I've agreed to go and am looking forward to it.

It's so alien to me though. I was 19yo last time I did this! What do I need to know?

Can you imagine going to your GP and explaining that to them. They won't give you any anyway!

I had a spell when I was young when I had a few bouts of cystitis. I never had antibiotics though, just some foul tasting powder to drink in water, over the counter at the chemist. I haven't had it for years, but GP wouldn't be my first call if I did!

Ok, here’s my advice. Get some nice undies, sexy nightwear, trim your bush and pack lube. And have a wonderful time!

Is he a ‘man about town’ - otherwise he’ll probably be very nervous

Hi @Goldfoot have a lovely time!! I'd take some really nice new outfits 💃
Yay!! Enjoy! Xx

Well, he's much more experienced than me. He also married young, younger than me, but divorced about 7 years ago and has been through a few women since. Mostly younger and more glam than me! He has a lot of female friends and seems to be able to stay friends with exes.

He came to a sports thing with me recently, where we met another male friend I usually do the sports thing with. Sports friend is someone I really respect and who seems to be able to "get" people very quickly, he's rarely proved wrong on a first impression.

He told me weekend away friend is "smitten" and really nervous around me. I can't say I'd noticed that, but I don't seem him when I'm not there!

Good idea to see how this weekend goes, before the full on away trip. Keep us posted!!

Ooh how exciting! Chances are he is nervous too.

I second a lot of other advice on this thread.

Take your time, enjoy every minute!

All sounds good to me, a chat before you go and if its more than friends nice underwear and anything else you can think of to make you feel confident and comfortable. Enjoy and let us know!

Wishing you a lovely weekend. Hope you will have a good time. Totally understand that you don't want to settle down with someone and keep your independence, I will do the same if I ever meet someone else.

DM, widowed a year, agreed to go away with a lovely chap for a weekend. She was 54 and terrified, having only ever had that one love of 30 years. Long story short, she farted. They fell about laughing, he told her this was what he wanted, an open, honest real relationship with no pretence or wasting years getting comfortable with each other. He then proposed, they married 8 months later and had 25 wonderful years together!

You go girl. Hope it is a lovely time and continues to be so for you . Relax , enjoy . 😉

I don't think you need any practical advice as I think you've already got that sorted. You know this man & feel safe with him. You sound confident in your own skin, and you're not attaching too much to the weekend. I think you've got this @Goldfoot , just go, be yourself and enjoy every minute.
Let us know how you get on. 😊

Thank you. It is odd, it isn't something I'd usually do and I knew this man for a long time before even noticing him in this way, but this doesn't feel stressful at all. Maybe it would if it was important to me, but for now I just want to see what happens.