Feeling Sad About Kids Growing Up.

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I have 2 children ( 6 & 1 ) and I feel terribly sad when I think of them growing up. I'm aware this sounds quite bizarre.

I've just looked at some photos and videos of my eldest when he was a toddler and I feel so sad.

I can't bare the thought of them growing up, which obviously they are meant to do but it hurts already.

I'm aware I'm probably a emotional/sentimental person than most.

Does anyone else get this?

Yes I get this. My heart aches. I love who DC are becoming and each new stage brings new discoveries and changes but there is a loss of what is now in the past and will never be again. I like that welsh word. It's a wistful sadness and nostalgia.

maybe also tied to how much you enjoy/value motherhood too.. I’ve found immense peace and joy in being a parent, much more so than in any career stuff, and that’s not the case for everyone.

You have hit the nail on the head for me @wherethewaterisdarker. Becoming a parent at 41 (unexpectedly) made life different for me. Not better or worse, just different. I also found being a parent really hard - the lack of sleep, the loss of freedom to be spontaneous, isolation, missing adult conversation, unsatisfying.

It for better as DD got older and less vulnerable, and when we moved I found toddler groups with mums who made me welcome.

Got not for.

Totally agree my little man had turned two this week and my heart is in pieces . I know I’m lucky he is growing and I’m so proud of him but I’m currently pregnant and have lots of hormones. I’m in tears daily for two weeks that one day I’m not going to be is favourite person any more and he won’t be by my side daily . Really struggling with fighting off all the negative thoughts 💔

Yes, very much so. My DD is turning 14 this week and I'm so overly emotional. My DS is 10. I keep thinking another baby would fix my issues for a few more years but DH isn't too keen. I love the people they have become but I miss being needed. I work in a nursery but it's not helping to stop this feeling.

@RampantIvy wtf is wrong with you.

@Heirian 😮?