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What's worrying you right now?

83 replies

thisisasurvivor · 26/06/2023 20:58

After years of rough times
Family illness
Sad deaths in my family
dv

Life is now not bad thankfully

But I always have some kind of a worry

So at the moment
My bloody boss has not been approving my timesheets in time
So another week no pay

Don't want to piss her off by saying something but she should know this

It's keeping me awake and really really putting me over the edge

How about you?
How do you manage ?

Some times I think ok
So no pay
Maybe borrow money from family?
Won't be that bad

I mean it is a bit shit
But at least I have work

OP posts:
WorryWorryWort · 26/06/2023 21:29

Current top 3 worries -

Very ill dog and huge vet fees piling up
Medical symptoms I should see dr for, sticking head in sand and havent told anyone
Ds not studying enough for uni exam resit needed to progress to 2nd year

Original poster
thisisasurvivor · 26/06/2023 21:36

WorryWorryWort · 26/06/2023 21:29

Current top 3 worries -

Very ill dog and huge vet fees piling up
Medical symptoms I should see dr for, sticking head in sand and havent told anyone
Ds not studying enough for uni exam resit needed to progress to 2nd year

I'm sorry to hear that

Sending good wishes your way xxxx

OP posts:
DidyouNO · 26/06/2023 21:37

My childminded child who's not a typical childmindee actually is in care (mother died from substance abuse) and I respite for his foster carer 3x days a week has a change in his circumstances and is leaving us after 4.5 years and I'm sad and gutted and scared for him.

Northernsouloldies · 26/06/2023 21:38

Op not being paid on time is a biggie and that's sloppy admin not signing time sheets off.
I can't get a job for love nor money I'm over mid 50s, it's doubly depressing seeing on the news that there's lots of vacancies. Ageism is definitely alive and well.

Hogi · 26/06/2023 21:39

My son was diagnosed with a rare genetic condition in March and I'm worrying what his life is going to look like.
My sons seizures.
My daughter is showing the same delays my son did so worried she also has the same condition.

Sunnysunbun · 26/06/2023 21:39

Teen going travelling.
Very socially anxious teen going to university.
Climate change - it's just always there worrying me.

whatatime · 26/06/2023 21:41

Found out my company are closing my office, we are all devastated for various reasons but our biggest worry is job security Sad.

You definitely need to say something about your timesheets though OP!

anewbook · 26/06/2023 21:42

That’s very poor form of your boss OP. You work hard. You should be paid on time.
Is there someone higher up you can talk to about this?

I know what you mean about life always having some kind of worry.

My top 3:
Someone very close to me has cancer
I am worried about how I am going to pay the mortgage when I come off the fixed rate
My neighbors are selfish arseholes

I hope things get resolved for you.

justco · 26/06/2023 21:43

Car troubles
Paying for childcare for upcoming summer holidays
Death of my brother recently consumes most of my waking hours

Original poster
thisisasurvivor · 26/06/2023 21:43

Sending good wishes your way

I know my pay is not the end of the world it could be so much worse

I just loathe the thought of withdrawing cash from my credit card to pay bills

Fck sake

OP posts:
UpUpUpU · 26/06/2023 21:44

My car is on it’s last legs and I don’t have the funds for lots of repairs.

My lawns are desperate for a cut and the lawnmower has broken.

My wonderful partner asked me tonight if we could start talking about blending our families in the next year or so. I am completely over the moon but also so much to talk about!

Northernsouloldies · 26/06/2023 21:45

whatatime · 26/06/2023 21:41

Found out my company are closing my office, we are all devastated for various reasons but our biggest worry is job security Sad.

You definitely need to say something about your timesheets though OP!

I feel for you because no doubt the rumours will have started and that definitely ramps up anxieties plus the prospect of redundancy is not good. Hope you are able to stay in employment. Good luck 🤞.

CatchHimDerry · 26/06/2023 21:45

Big hugs to everyone

Mine are currently:

  1. Trying to juggle FT working in a very not supportive company and 1 year old nursery / hating nursery/ illness (mum guilt)
  2. How much all our bills will very soon be going up and what cutbacks we can try to make
  3. DH wants a 2nd, so putting myself through it all again and can we even cope / manage financially etc

I did have a health one but looking like that’s finally resolved / in hand after years of back and forth. Please get help PP with your issue! It could be something or nothing ❤️

SaggyCushions · 26/06/2023 21:48

Money, fixable by downsizing, my house is too big. But I’m reluctant to take the plunge as it’s a ton of work and it’s all down to me. I’ve not since had a heart attack and am feeling fragile/not up to it. Can’t afford any more time off work.

DS, ASD and MH issues, left all support and cut contact with me/my family for no reason other than they were very influenced by someone. It’s been 18 months of the odd response to text messages, most being ignored. I worry every day and dream about DC every night. My heart is broken.

threecupsofteaminimum · 26/06/2023 21:48

Am unemployed and having no luck on the job front. I retrained last year and it's been over 2 months of applications and still no luck.

SaggyCushions · 26/06/2023 21:50

thisisasurvivor · 26/06/2023 21:43

Sending good wishes your way

I know my pay is not the end of the world it could be so much worse

I just loathe the thought of withdrawing cash from my credit card to pay bills

Fck sake

this Is really shitty OP. What does your contract say?

hohumpigsbum · 26/06/2023 21:52

I've been a SAHM for the last 6 years. My youngest is starting preschool in September and really I could do with going back to work for the extra money.
But my choices are shit. I either go back to my previous career, which I hate, and would struggle to get around school hours, but I would get a reasonable salary.
Or I try something completely different but start at the bottom. My mind is mush, I've not got any talents or skills. I've already applied for a few things and been rejected.
As well as the usual worries like extra petrol, term time or holiday clubs, confidence. I feel very stressed.

MajesticWhine · 26/06/2023 21:53

Sorry for everyone having a hard time.

My worries are about DD 13 struggling at school and obviously has additional needs / neurodiversity that we hadn't really thought was serious until now. Feeling guilty about that. And at war with DH who is being a dick about it.
And now wondering about my older DD who has had issues for years - does she have ASD and we never realised. Argh.

Greenshake · 26/06/2023 21:55

Russia.

dizzydizzydizzy · 26/06/2023 21:55

I have a incurable chronic illness that impacts my life hugely - quite new diagnosis. So a lot to get to grips with.

DP is abusing me. Women's Aid is helping. I'm trying to move out but it is proving very difficult.

DC2 has landed dream uni offer but is now very reluctant to go and won't really say why. Trying to get to the bottom of that while trying to sort myself out:

Peckhaminn24 · 26/06/2023 21:56

Crippling depression and anxiety
My mum isn't very well
Worried about money and my job
Worried about my weight

Notveryanything · 26/06/2023 21:58

Hugs to everyone.

OP you are entitled to your pay.

Mine are;

  1. My DGS is struggling at school, starting to have investigations- possibly (probably) neurodiverse. Worrying about what his future will be like.
  2. Need a new job as my current one finishes at end of July. Can't find anything with similar salary.
  3. I have a degenerative eye condition. I think it's starting to get significantly worse but I'm scared to go to GP.
IHeartGeneHunt · 26/06/2023 21:58

Mother has cancer

I've had to go to zero hours contract to avoid working weekends as I have absolutely no childcare other than three days nursery

We need a bigger flat (we're in a one bed tiny council flat) but the waiting list is years and years.

BluebellBlueballs · 26/06/2023 21:58

My mum is getting dementia and getting worse and the NHS won't help. It's like I'm the parent and she's the child now. I'm the only local one, my 2 brothers are helping but they live miles away so it's on my shoulders.

puppicorn · 26/06/2023 21:59

Main worries are -

waiting for deposit to be returned from private landlord, who isn’t responding to my emails.

bully supervisor at work - constantly undermining me and making unpleasant inappropriate remarks - but supervisor has worked there for 10+ years and I’ve been there for 6 months, so I don’t think complaining will do anything.

lack of childcare - single parent and DM was my only source of regular childcare. She is now mentally unwell and unable to care for DC, which leaves me caring for DC alone 100% of the time - no adult company or life of my own. It’s not a nice existence for me and I hope DM is better soon.