What's worrying you right now?

[thisisasurvivor]

After years of rough times
Family illness
Sad deaths in my family
dv

Life is now not bad thankfully

But I always have some kind of a worry

So at the moment
My bloody boss has not been approving my timesheets in time
So another week no pay

Don't want to piss her off by saying something but she should know this

It's keeping me awake and really really putting me over the edge

How about you?
How do you manage ?

Some times I think ok
So no pay
Maybe borrow money from family?
Won't be that bad

I mean it is a bit shit
But at least I have work

Needing an op for a prolapse but the consultant wants me to do conservative management - it's not him living with the consequences.
My DM's estate - I'm waiting for probate and her gardener seems to have gone AWOL, so the place looks a mess.
Breast pain - I have a separate thread going about this.

The seriousness of my weight issue

Whether a reunion will be everything I need or my worst nightmare

Coping with ongoing essential building works

My fairly new laminate flooring has had some water damage and now theres a ridge between planks - in the most used walkway in our kitchen. First world problems But still gutted and worried how bad it might get.

my credit card debt - I don’t know how i’m ever going to pay it off

Worry i’ll never have a proper career or earn more money so i can treat my family to holidays and experiences

If I will survive feeling this lonely and this terribly about myself.
The fact that I am 40 in two years time.
My health as have 2 chronic conditions.
My work situation as feel like I will be stuck doing this forever and although I'm trying, I am not getting anywhere to improve it.
I'm really struggling right now.

I've had a years treatment for breast cancer, chemo, surgeries, radio, hormone tablets over except tablets and reconstruction but bit worried about reconstruction operation, a years wait though so ignoring it for now.

Son asd really struggled with my cancer and school said could not meet needs at same time and no other school would help in Jan 22 and it upset him so much he ended up in psych hospital sectioned where they gave him wrong med and handcuffed him to force medicate, hes mute. Left him in a coma like state for 6 months. Now back home and we are picking up the pieces of that.

1. My autistic son starting secondary school in a few weeks, terrified he will be bullied.
2. My mum's health fading rapidly and she needs more support than I have the time and mental strength to give her but she won't accept support from anyone else.
3. The world in general. Just struggling to find any positives at the moment and wondering why I brought a child into this hideous mess. I can't see a positive future for him at the moment. I want to run away from it all.. ( I'm already on antidepressants and seeing a therapist, before people suggest I may be depressed!)

• Ill father in law in Scotland without proper support arrangements in place.
• Lay offs in tech sector.
• I have a weird lump on the palm of my hand which is growing.
• Pre-teen who has worries about his body compared to his brothers.
• Potential expense of major house repairs .
• Rats in attic.
• Ovarian cyst.

Mine are all work-related.

• I hate my job but feel I can’t quite as it’s well-paid and secure
• I feel like I can’t never switch off from work and am always worrying about it and as a result I never enjoy time spent with my kids
• I feel like I’m wasting the best years of my life on a job I don’t even like and I can’t see the way out

Mine is im 31 and I can't get a proper career job . I've been a stay at home mum since I was 15 other than a few part time evening jobs but now my 10 hours a week are not really helping much thanks to the price rises and col . But with no qualifications and the bare minimum GCSEs I'm struggling to find anything more meaningful.

My new job is way beyond my knowledge & capabilities. I’m drowning just trying to keep up. Can’t admit it to anyone. Can’t see a way out of it. Fantasising about running away but can’t.

Job is also v psychologically traumatising and carries a huge burden of risk management (risk for other people’s lives). Can’t sleep at nignt for wondering if someone will have died by mornjng because I made an error.

Worried my disability will flare up & I’ll have to be honest with work about it.

Also worried that if my disability causes me to have another breakdown I’d not survive it this time (nearly died 18months ago).

Mortgage rate coming to an end in Jan - no idea how I’ll get a new mortgage now I’m a single parent. Will lose our family home. Kids will be devastated.

Worry about my DC’s & if they’re ok living across two households (guilt+++) 😔

Worry about having to leave my lovely road / friends / community & move to somewhere horrible.

Worrh about everything being on my shoulders & my shoulders only having so much more strength left.

Worry worry worry worry worry…….., 😓

My dd on her first ever residential

My ds not coping very well with today - due to autism (,likely).

Never having a chance to fill in the forms for him as I am battling to get him to eat / wash / sleep

Just wanting a really long rest from this work/parent/household management stuff that never ends.

I hope you don't mind me saying this

Is there any way to change jobs?
Easier said than done but it sounds so stressful

Sending you all good wishes

OP you need to say something. Firmly but kindly. You can't live without money. Unacceptable on her part. If necessary go above her head if she still does nothing.

Work is shit.

It's causing me problems with my best mate.

Child has recently diagnosed SN and isn't in school.

Seven weeks of summer holidays to fill and little time off I can take.

DH and I haven't had sex this year.

Think I need to visit the GP as I just feel utterly flat about literally everything. There's no joy.

I fancy someone else as a beautiful distraction.

Sorry to everyone struggling.

My big one at the moment is work. The office is not meeting our targets and that may impact whether we keep jobs. We are now under management. I’m so worried that I’m not pulling my weight and I was before we found out about the targets. We have a meeting tomorrow, not looking forward to that.

loneliness

Jesus Christ that's horrific for your son. I'm absolutely appalled (from one ASD parent to another).

HTB mortgage - fixed rate ends in 2025 and unnecessarily panicking about what we’ll do then as I heard today rates are expected to be high then and no idea how to pay off the loan (a long way away I know but I’m a worrier)

Always worry my fiancé is going off me because I’ve put on weight even though he proposed to me now I have put on weight I worry he preferred me when I was slimmer.

There’s many more. I have diagnosed general anxiety disorder so even small things become massive haha.

Wow everyone
I am sorry for complaining about something I can sort hopefully

For those who have Ill family members I know the guilt and the worry so well
You do what you can and don't be afraid to ask for help

I hope you are all managing ok

I now feel very selfish
And will give myself a good kick up the bum as I am lucky in many ways with work

Debt
Divorce
Autistic first child and possible diagnosis for second dc

Will just continue to plod on and try not to think about it!

Possibly becoming a single parent
Finding a new place to live

“At the end of your tenancy
Your landlord must return your deposit within 10 days of you both agreeing how much you'll get back. If you're in a dispute with your landlord, then your deposit will be protected in the TDP scheme until the issue is sorted out.”

Tenancy deposit protection: Overview - GOV.UK

You can contact whichever tenancy deposit scheme your LL has it lodged or insured with.

That DD might be coming down with something and if she is, she will miss her prom.
That my employment contract has come to an end and I need to find a new post for the autumn.
Family / work stresses (got a lot on for the next few weeks)

Thanks SaveMeFromForearms

I have a lovely house 200 miles from where I need to be. I am moving from a relatively inexpensive area to an expensive one, and it seems like the most realistic option (with least disruption for my DD) is to make the temporary move into a relative’s house permanent and use the money from my house move for a loft extension rather than taking on a really high mortgage. Giving up a home of my own is really gut wrenching.

Love to you all