I've been cut out of the works night out.

[Queeny5]

I've name changed for this!

How would this make you feel?

For background, I'm an operations manager and the only woman in my team. I've been doing this job for around 10 years in various Trades. I work in a team of 7 men.

There has been quite a few problems which has lead me to look for another job. I'm basically treated like an assistant and a maid. I've had comments aimed at me like "this is a man's place" man's this man's that. I'm treated inadequate like some dumb woman. I ideally I wanted to avoid leaving without another job but this has just pushed me to want to just leave on the spot.

I was chatting to one of the men about a project I've just won and I just glanced at his screen and saw a WhatsApp group called "works night out" the message on there said "don't tell queeny5". The night out is apparently planned for this weekend.

I'm just fucking done with it. I have never experienced this level of shitty treatment for being a woman in this industry. I have always been treated with respect but this place is horrible for it. I can stand my own ground but I'm just done. I just want to quit right now and be done with it. Am I overreacting here? I feel shit. Why are people still going with these outdated views?!

It was a work approved and funded night by sounds of it. Each department to decide what they wanted to do. Also a days leave given to everyone attending the event.

What sort of an environment is that. They should be ashamed of themselves.

Please keep us posted. Hopefully ACAS will wipe the deck with them.

Are you one of these guys or are you a general asshole. You don't behave like that at work. In any workplace.

Aimed at @drpet49

Who is organising the work night out? Are they superior to you? If so I'd report that message to HR.

In the meantime definitely start looking for another job. This sounds like a horribly toxic culture.

You’re not overreacting, and pp’s are right, you could take them to tribunal for sex discrimination, try and get evidence together, if you really can’t stand working there and it is because of this, then you could try and claim for constructive dismissal too.

Congratulations on leaving and securing a job. Sue them, I hope you win!

Oops! Didn’t see your updates OP. Glad you’ve got out. Absolutely go through acas for a case. Pleased you’ve got something lined up

You’ve emasculated the poor poppets. God I hope you get a gigantic payout for tolerating those anachronisms AND the job of your dreams!

I would definitely get legal advice, and I would seriously consider leaving and suing them for constructive dismissal.

There was a case a while ago where a woman lost, despite sexist comments. And a case where a woman won, because they were having work meetings in places she was denied access and she could prove it had a detrimental affect on her opportunities for progress in her career.

Good luck to you

I am so pleased to see your update. I hope you do take this further and receive a constructive dismissal payment.

Good luck to you. Sick of hearing about capable people being pushed out by people with low esteem issues! Makes work intolerable for all those not in the club

Best of luck to you. Don't give up. They need to be taught a hard lesson. Keep going with ACAS. Great to hear you've found alternative employment. Bet management are shitting themselves at your now old job. No wonder they wanted to speak with you today.