Is it really unusual to be someone who keeps a confidence?

[AmicableHonest]

My husband recently told me that I'm very unusual as I don't ever share if someone tells me something in confidence. Twice recently I've been surprised by people sharing confidential information - one a work colleague, one a close relative. In the latter case it was information I'd shared and been very clear it was utterly confidential, and have been very hurt to find out that other relatives had been told (in quite a gossipy way which makes it worse IMO). Am I really that unusual not to ever do this?

I'm pretty sure Hollywood films and series are fiction.

I suppose some people are suspicious and confuse partnerships and competition.

Cracks and slips will always happen. Perhaps one's expectations that people are/should be perfect is a bit immature.

While some men and women have been hurt in the past, it's their own journey of healing. If that means no relationship, then that's that.

But nobody should be held accountable for another's person cynicism. People's trust issues stem from their own insecurities.

It doesn't make sense to do much about it.

I keep secrets. Always.

I once had to lose a friend when she divulged some very personal information about a very good friend of hers and abused her confidence. I also realised she was probably abusing mine too and knew i would never trust her again.

Fair points, but the main thing is don't discuss any sensitive or confidential information you have with any prospective partner.

Always presume that anything you chat about, they may discuss with their friends etc. That way all relevant information is compartmentalised.

As this thread has proven quite a few people let there guard down and share with their partner's.

I’m not good at keeping secrets. I find them a burden. I find it difficult to not answer a direct question honestly. I am, however, a trusted person. Mainly about marriage infidelity, after finding myself unexpectedly single for that reason. The saying ‘a secret is something you only whisper to one person at a time’ is prevalent where I live (smallish close-knit community.) For that reason, I create certain rules for myself. I avoid certain people, I avoid certain gatherings, and I try to be neutral when someone asks for my help. I believe it’s human nature for many of us to not carry burdens alone (reading this thread, am I really alone in thinking this?)

My line of work means that I am privy to lots of private information, and it would be a disciplinary matter if I were to disclose something, but even in my personal life I have never shared something with my DH that was told to me in confidence and I’m sure that he is the same. Often I’ll get told some information by people who I’m pretty sure were told it in confidence, I note them as being a blabbermouth and never further pass on the information myself. Sometimes i then have to act surprised if the original person tells me themselves. I don’t get why people have to tell their DH everything, it’s not like you would say “ I know something interesting about Simon but I can’t tell you what it is” you just don’t say anything and your DH doesn’t even know that you know something he doesn’t know about Simon.

I think it is unusual. People love gossip, it is a social currency that many can't resist.