No party food or drink provided

[ImaMumtoaboy]

So my ds(11) went to a football party yesterday. The minute we got in the car he asked to go the shop for a drink as he was so thirsty.
Party was at the local astro pitch, party room included that has 2 ovens, hob, 2 toasters, 2 microwaves and 2 fridges. Most parents bring in frozen pizzas and chips and cook them or order in pizzas.
Kids were running around for 2 hours in hot weather they were not offered any drinks during that time.
He said in the "party room" they got 1 small bottle of water (250ml) and a small slice of birthday cake. They only went into the room 10 minutes before I arrived to collect him.
When I went in the mother was packing up the cake which looked like there was about 3/4's left. I thought the kids must have had enough food that they didnt want cake. And parents cleaned up very quickly. Kids were all quiet(14 11/12 yr old boys) who are normally very loud at parties. Kids were just sitting waiting to be collected.Turns out they got a very very skinny slice, described by ds as thinner then a slice of bread.
Ended up bringing him to Mcdonalds as a treat and we seen 2 other parents of kids that were at the same party getting their kids food.

My ds has been warned not to get into conversation about it, if the party is mentioned just say he had a great time playing ball.

The party was over what most people would consider the lunchtime period. If there was no intention to feed the children then the host should have made this clear. They were completely unreasonable.

On a hot day, drinks should have been provided throughout or parents told to supply water bottles. After, the kids should have been fed. Pizza that could have been cooked in the oven etc. I presume parents had given some sort of gift I would not be impressed.

"Warned" by who?

By the OP his mother. I thought that was pretty clear. Obviously she doesn't want him joining in with any discussion about the lack of food so the poor kid doesn't feel bad but the kids involved are pre teens so are likely to discuss it regardless of what his mum says.

I don’t think 10/11 year old need a bloody party bag do they.

A see through bit of cake is hardly a snack.

🤣🤣 think I was neglected as a kid...we only had haribo and plastic tat!

I had 90s children it was all about the harbio and plastic tatt😄

I would provide food but there's been parties with no food too....things are expensive these days....

Should have been more water eg whilst playing. Not sure any need to provide real food, like pizza but just a cake is a bit mean, could have had crisps, chocolates as well.

I would expect food and drink but not end of world if they don't get food.

Would have thought the football place would have provided water as a minimum when it has kids running round 🤔

Was there definitely no issue that meant they couldn't have food? Cookers not working but they still wanted party?

Maybe they thought the kids would prefer playing than spending time eating? Mine do!

Anyway I would think it strange but just give my kid a sandwich and never really think anymore about it.

Sounds like a crap party and if the boy has another next year I don’t see many turning up. The boys will most probably rib him at school about it. To be fair maybe they really couldn’t afford to cater for it but wanted to give their son a party.

Over lunchtime I’d expect party food. I’ve done parties before at mid-afternoon and just done cake and snacks rather than full on meal as I didn’t think they’d eat a full on party tea but a party covering 12-2 does suggest a proper meal.

I would have sent a drinks bottle for that sort of football party but think it would have been sensible to provide drinks as well especially given the heat.

Crap party!

It’s a birthday party ffs. Jeez! 🤣

I think there should at least have been squash and water offered as it was a hot day. But really squash and snacks at the very least. If you can’t offer these things, you can’t afford to have the party in the first place.

Out of interest how many meals can you make out of a medium chicken?

Sorry… are you saying the other mother warned your child? Did sue speak to him directly or asked you to speak to him?

id Be a bit miffed too. I wouldn’t dream of hosting a party and there not be food and drink. it would have cost less then a tenner to get two bottles of cordial some paper cups and big bottles of water. It seems no thrill parties are becoming a thing.

MN at it's best!
Cake is bad.
Guests are entitled.
Parents of guest are even more entitled.
Children always carry water with them anyway.
They can survive w/o a drink for 2 hours (that's a pretty low bar for a party IMO).

It was a party. I don't think my children ever went to a party w/o food or drink, and if I have ever been to an event where the norm would be to provide food then the hosts have made it clear on the invitation.

This has made me laugh so much. I hadn't expected the boy's parents to come on here quite so quickly.

It was only two hours they got a bottle of water. I think it’s fine.

OP is clearly saying she herself has warned her child not to mention it, out of politeness. Nothing to do with the other mother.

Is the heat getting to everyone?