Should I let my son wear pink?

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Quick question for you all, please help if you can!
My son is 7. Totally regular, bog-standard boy, broadly gender-conforming.
His favourite colour is bright pink. I don't care, and I like him choosing his own clothes and expressing himself. He's bright and confident.
Worried he'll get bullied, though. Do I buy the bright pink clothing (trainers and t-shirts) or try to steer him gently towards other colours he likes and avoid the 'controversy'? Wwyd?
Thanks.

@Dacadactyl

Just not my cup of tea tbh. Same as if he wanted long hair or glittery stuff, I'd tell him no. We're all different

If pink, long hair or glitter isn't your thing then you shouldn't wear these things.

Your son is an individual who may or may not have different tastes to you.

If you acknowledge we are all different that acknowledgement should extend to your child.

My year 2 7 year old has just got these with the matching hoodie, he loves pink clothes. Wore them at to a school friends party - no bullying. He only reallywearbright colours

My now 18 year old DS's favourite colour throughout primary school was acid pink. He now prefers more muted, autumnal colours (which suit his colouring better, frankly) but he had a lot of pink when he was younger. It's colour, not poison 😉

Of course why not? My son loved pink for a while. My husband had a couple pink t shirts. It looks great with a lot of skin tones.

My DS, 5, loves pink. He sees his dad wear pink. His hat at school at the moment is pink, so far no one has had an opnion. I hope he never stops loving it because someone tells him it’s ‘not for boys’.

Yes of course he can

Why?

These are what I was talking about in my post. They're gorgeous.

So depressing around here how boys only wear monochrome. Depressing. I had a nice chat just today with my little boy who loves pink. Someone at school said it was a girl's colour and we both chuckled at how silly that is. Colours are for everyone.

Let him wear pink 🙂 my teenage twin boys needed t shirts. I asked them to choose colours, amongst them was a pink one and a lilac one.

It's a personal attack, regardless of whether you think it's accurate or not.

It's a factually accurate statement that goes some way to explaining their comments on this thread.

Don’t collude with the imagined bullies by submitting to their bigoted views (you are really tapping into your own prejudice too which needs examining.. no shaming, we all have prejudices informed by a sexist society) and support your son to be true to his own self. In the long run this will benefit him far more than a few stupid comments about pink being for girls will harm him.. if that makes sense!

My honest opinion?

I think a few years ago it would have been fine, but now it's a slippery slope.

These days if you are male and like pink- gender-nonconforming and must mean you are a girl. I'd be worried about the mixed messages my kid would be getting, that they may be constantly told that they must be a girl because they like pink.

After what happened to my daughters, I let them dress how they want, not stereotypically female, short hair- bob, dinosaurs on clothes , also the toys she plays with etc. Obviously it must mean that they are a boy, that's the message they hear all the time.

Just wish I'd stuck to the stereotypical girl look. Shes only 5, no damage has been done so far, but with the current climate I'm definitely worried about the future.

@lysozyme if you feel that way challenge the view point, don't attack someone for having it.

I have 3 sons, all have pink items in their wardrobes. My son who is on a team for a very traditionally masculine sport has a bright pink water bottle, he likes it because everyone else has blue or black and he can spot his easily.

Why should pink be associated with girls?

Why wouldn’t you?

I think you can only say that "@JaukiVexnoydi hates cheese " if you have evidence in writing of that individual saying " I hate cheese "

If what you have is your own beliefs that someone who hates cheese would do A and would not do B, whereas someone who doesn't hate cheese would do B and would not do A, and you have seen the individual in question doing A, then you can certainly within your own belief system categorise them as someone who hates cheese, but you can't say that it's a factual statement unless you can prove, without resorting to matters of opinion, that the beliefs you are basing it on are correct.

If the individual in question lives according to a different belief system and doesn't agree with your premise, then claiming that they hate cheese could indeed be a personal attack.

I can see your point, but it doesn’t quite gel with my experience- my son has always had long hair- sometimes dies bright colours, sometimes gets his nails done, sometimes wears makeup (and has done since 4 years old, 11 now). He is also a dancer.

He is frequently mistaken for a girl, even when dressed in a boys navy blue suit an tie! We were asked whether he wanted the girls uniform or the boys when he started dancing seriously- we said boys.

BUT- he in no way considers himself trans/a girl/anything other than a boy. He fundamentally believes that all things are for girls or boys (clothes/hobbies/jobs) except things that are sex determined (eg, women have babies/men get testicular cancer).

That's really sad.

My teenage autistic daughter ONLY wears boys clothes.

She also plays a sport which is more traditionally male but she knows she is a girl.

It is sickening that our daughters can't express themselves how they wish for fear that they will end up on a pathway that leads to body mutilation.

I hope this nonsense comes to an end and our kids can wear what they want without being labelled as something they are not and can never be.

My DPs favourite colour is pink, he's 35 and it always has been. He's very confident and very secure in himself and is for the most part into very 'male' things so has never been worried about liking some things that are typically girls things. I've always found his confidence and self assurance to be one of his most attractive qualities