Sarah Beeny

[Softoprider]

I watch her programmes on TV, particularly the latest one about the house she built in Somereset (I think). It seems to me that she is on the TV a lot with new programmes all about property. I get that she makes good telly but I wince when the husband and the sons are interviewed - particularly the husband who does not seem to have a job but has plenty to say.
This latest programme I watched last night about her breast cancer made me feel very uncomfortable and sad.
She's got cancer, she has had chemo and a double mastectomy and yet she made light of it with the sons cutting her hair and the husband talking as if it were something and nothing. When her hair fell out and she cried so did I. I just wish she could have kept this part of her life private and not used the awfulness of it all to make money.
I do hope she makes a full recovery as I like her but this was all too damn much and for anyone else suffering from breast cancer I hope they find it as easy as she appeared to make it but I doubt it.
The husband makes me cringe. Sorry but he does. He's not famous but you wouldn't know it

She might have had advantages - but she is still a woman facing the loss of her breasts and going through the rigours of treatment and a major operation.

she is still a wife, whose husband was terrified about what might happen.

she is still a mother, who is worried about leaving her children - just as her own mothe4 did.

the possibility of death came right up to Sarah. No amount of wealth or privilege can change that.

I was very moved by her openness and honesty.
and the love the whole family have for one another.

I still don’t get it OP sorry. I’ve got a massive amount of sympathy for you and your family but are you really saying that because SB was diagnosed, had support and got an implant reasonably quickly either (a) was a breeze for her, or (b) she shouldn’t be allowed to speak about it publicly? Maybe seeing a supportive family and good treatment is something which could help raise expectations for others?

Or is your own view that only people who have been misdiagnosed, had terrible treatment and no support can put their experiences across?

Honestly it sounds to me that you might be a little bit close to have a balanced view or perhaps you need to work through some of the trauma you had with a professional? And I am saying this kindly not to be patronising or rude.

Your experience has been awful, Sarah Beeny is not the problem here. As a woman who understands what she is going through I would have thought you would have shown support rather than complain about how your care was worse than hers like you begrudge her the treatment you should have had. Maybe you need some counselling regarding your experience.

I actually like this thread.

the op started a catty negative bitchy thread, imagining I suspect a load of posters agreeing with you.

However the overwhelming majority are appalled and disagree.

You should be ashamed Op. instead you just repeat that you’re not a bitch

This

I'm sorry you had a rough ride of it but that in no way justifies your vile attack on Sarah!!!

I'm sorry you didn't get immediate access to an implant. But that's not Sarah's fault. That's the fault of your local NHS trust. Rather than it be a race to the bottom of who has had the worst treatment why not be proactive about improving care.
Having young children whilst you were going through it must have been tough but I doubt having four teenagers who would understand a hell of a lot more about it was a walk in the park either. Just because they choose to keep the really tough moments private doesn't mean they didn't happen!

But I stand by everything I have said. This thread is a vile and nasty one. You have had a pile on because you have been so horrid.

Im sorry having cancer has made you so bitter.

“Im sorry having cancer has made you so bitter.”

And that is not nasty? Ugh

yikes.

you seem pretty 'horrid' yourself.

Jeez people still being nasty bullies to the op. What a vicious bunch.

She has voiced a perfectly reasonable view and is entitled to her own opinion. I remember bowel cancer sufferers making similar comments about the bowel babe women - dancing around in a private hospital in full make up while that wasn’t their NHS experience at all. They were saddened at the misrepresentation by someone with privilege.

I think it’s disgusting what has been said to the op here and I’m surprised she is still posting. Her views on Sarah Beeny don’t justify the kicking you’re all enjoying dishing out to a cancer sufferer, mother and a human being.

Not worthy of a response.

You’ve no idea how instant her implant was. You watch an hour long programme and think that has told you everything about her care. I can understand why you’re bitter that you had a bad experience. You should consider counselling to help you come to terms with what has happened to you. But this in no way excuses your nasty bitter tone towards Sarah Beeny. It’s completely uncalled for. She has suffered horribly, losing her mother at aged ten. In her own words she has forty years of waiting to be told she had cancer. She also has four children. The last thing she would need is for unnecessary nastiness towards her. Stop playing cancer bingo.

Yes but that thread about bowel babe Dame Deborah was vile too. That lady was raising millions for Cancer charities whilst so sick, and yet there was so much bitterness and resentment on mumsnet towards her. It shocked me and made me feel sick tbh.

As for this OP voicing a “perfectly reasonable view” no that’s your opinion! She has voiced a view that many clearly find unreasonable and they are saying why.

No. The 'pile on' was instigated against Sarah Beeny, with an extremely judgmental post made in the evident expectation that overall others would agree.

They didn't. In fact, they were rightly shocked and disgusted.

Sarah might be a Mumsnetter. She or a family member of hers might even read this thread - have you thought of that?

Cancer is a truly hideous card to be handed to anyone - I know this well, my dear cousin is currently ill with it and my husband received a diagnosis in January - it is not for I, you, or anyone else to tell others how to deal with such terrible, life-altering news. We are all only trying to get by in the best way we can. For some sufferers, the best way is to retreat into their shell. For others, it's to talk about it openly in the hope of bringing help and comfort to people in the same unenviable situation. As for making money out of it, well if you can, why the hell not, when you've received a potentially life-limiting diagnosis and want to provide for your loved ones?

One thing this should not be is a taboo subject, just as women who have suffered miscarriages/stillbirth end up suffering more because they're routinely told their experiences should be 'private'. It's an isolating, horrible experience, and for some people dealing with cancer in this way will likely have the same effect. Who has the right to do this to another person?

I wouldn't think of attacking the OP, a cancer-sufferer herself, in the way she's tried to do to Beeny. But given the thread has been posted it will suffice to say this: to attempt to publicly censor anyone for dealing with this hell differently to the way others, or you personally, might deal with it, is aiming really low.

No the nastiness has come from the OP not those who think she is wrong. Frankly she has deserved everything she has gotten. I really hope in real life she isn't as bitter as she comes across here.
Sarah doesn't deserve to have this horrid thread made about her by someone who doesn't know her or understand anything of Sarah's experience with cancer. In the same way Deborah didn't either!
Both women have done an incredibly important job of raising awareness. If that awareness saves just one person then it's worth it. The work Dame Deborah has done has saved lives for sure and will continue to do so from her fund.

It is not bullying to cal someone out for their nastiness. The only Bully here is the OP

spoken like a bully

@TheMurderousGoose sorry hit how am I a bully????
Calling someone else shit out is not bullying!

I despise bullies like yourself and the OP

Oh but of course, now I'm a bully too. A predictable tactic for your sort.

Read your posts, reflect on what you've written, and grow up. No need to be playground bully all your life.

@TheMurderousGoose please answer my question!

“One thing this should not be is a taboo subject,”.

so true.

I won't apologise for this thread even if it has provoked people into being nasty.

I'm very disappointed to read this OP, given how you've attacked Sarah Beeny and her husband.

I thought you might've done the decent thing and asked for it to be pulled.

This. 💯
I couldn't have done it.