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Sarah Beeny

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Softoprider · 13/06/2023 15:10

I watch her programmes on TV, particularly the latest one about the house she built in Somereset (I think). It seems to me that she is on the TV a lot with new programmes all about property. I get that she makes good telly but I wince when the husband and the sons are interviewed - particularly the husband who does not seem to have a job but has plenty to say.
This latest programme I watched last night about her breast cancer made me feel very uncomfortable and sad.
She's got cancer, she has had chemo and a double mastectomy and yet she made light of it with the sons cutting her hair and the husband talking as if it were something and nothing. When her hair fell out and she cried so did I. I just wish she could have kept this part of her life private and not used the awfulness of it all to make money.
I do hope she makes a full recovery as I like her but this was all too damn much and for anyone else suffering from breast cancer I hope they find it as easy as she appeared to make it but I doubt it.
The husband makes me cringe. Sorry but he does. He's not famous but you wouldn't know it

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Nanny0gg · 13/06/2023 16:25

Softoprider · 13/06/2023 15:18

@Thethruththewholetruth

Yes, this is what I am talking about. It was not reality. It made light of an awful situation which it is.

Individuals deal with it in their own way and if she wants to make light it's her right.

And it's her reality

WeightInLine · 13/06/2023 16:26

I hope MN deletes this.

Chad23 · 13/06/2023 16:28

I have reported this thread - I can’t see how you thought anything positive would come from it and it comes across as completely unnecessary and unkind.

Topseyt123 · 13/06/2023 16:28

I think Sarah Beeny is awesome. Very brave allowing her story to be told like this.

OP, it was clear what the programme would be about. You were not obliged to watch it. Nobody forced you, I assume.

Or did you just watch it so that you could post an unpleasant and judgemental thread about it on here?

NoIAmNotCrazyIamUnique · 13/06/2023 16:31

What I hate about this site, is that people get attacked so nastily if others dont like their views. The posts fly in their hundreds. Freedom of speech, people. Remember that.
However it all makes the owners of MN very wealthy. Making money from online arguments. Why didn't I think of that years ago?

AmbleInAnnBoleyn · 13/06/2023 16:31

I do hope she makes a full recovery as I like her

???

If you didn't like her, what then?

dinglethedragon · 13/06/2023 16:32

Horrible thread to start and very bitchy. I watched it and was full of admiration for her and her family. I went through the hair cutting with a family member 8yrs ago - and the hilarity and dark humour reminded me powerfully of that time.

My family member chose to wear flamboyant scarves not wigs - and again, much laughter, love and sheer bloodymindedness. My FM didn't survive - all the time filming that sequence SB didn't know whether she would - but she was creating such wonderful memories for her boys.

Your post is in such incredibly bad taste 😡.

Riverlee · 13/06/2023 16:34

I had breast cancer nearly eleven years ago. It is scary, but for me, life largely went on as normal. I didn’t have chemo, still took kids to school, worked etc. Breast cancer is curable for a large number of women, and it’s good to show this.

I was really impressed when a Loose woman presented was filmed having a mammogram, and Victoria Derbyshire filmed her treatment. It can help women, and takes some of the fear away.

Riverlee · 13/06/2023 16:34

@dinglethedragon sorry for your loss.

Fighterofthenightman1 · 13/06/2023 16:37

People deal with things differently. This is how she wanted to do 🤷‍♀️ Don't watch it if you don't like it

justgettingthroughtheday · 13/06/2023 16:46

NoIAmNotCrazyIamUnique · 13/06/2023 16:31

What I hate about this site, is that people get attacked so nastily if others dont like their views. The posts fly in their hundreds. Freedom of speech, people. Remember that.
However it all makes the owners of MN very wealthy. Making money from online arguments. Why didn't I think of that years ago?

There is freedom of speech and then there is downright nastiness! This thread is just nasty.

The Op clearly started it to have a bitch about a woman she doesn't know who had been through a really shit time.
Cancer is shit whether you have £1 in the bank or a few million. Money does not make you immortal.

Groutyonehereagain · 13/06/2023 16:48

Softoprider · 13/06/2023 15:30

@Groutyonehereagain

Yes me too and a mastectomy. It was tough. It was also private

Your choice, other people deal with things in their way.

yogpot · 13/06/2023 17:03

Pretty sure everyone gets to deal with their cancer or any health issue however the fuck they like, and it’s not Sarah Beeny’s job to be relatable to everyone (or anyone), nor is she claiming her experience with cancer is the same as anyone else's. It’s her experience and she has every right to share it, and you have every right to switch your TV off rather than making rather poisonous posts about someone.

MissyB1 · 13/06/2023 17:27

midsomermurderess · 13/06/2023 15:55

I think programmes like this are enormously helpful, to get a real sense of what breast cancer treatment may involve, look like, to see how other women cope, with the hair loss, the sickness, how to be around your children. I think it’s badly done to say this is a primarily a money-making exercise or seeking attention. She is a presenter, this is her skill, much like Davina McCall when she makes documentaries about the menopause or the pill. You sound as if you are saying she should ‘stay in her lane’ (now there’s a depressing world view for you). As it turns out, breast cancer now very much is her lane. And mine, and God only knows how many other women. She is dealing with in the best way she knows how.

This! We shouldn’t be dictating how anyone should deal with their cancer. We are all different.

mawik · 13/06/2023 20:34

I would like to say, what a honest and enlightening program, I have so much admiration for Sarah,
she reminds me of my mother, she was so angry with her cancer, and would be saying she hoped it would just fuck off!!
I was with her the day she had her first chemo! I sat and cried, but she was so positive!
mums cancer was one of the rarer , mesothelioma, so sadly she lost her battle, but up to the end her ‘black’ (dark humour) kept us going… we made jokes about things…
when she had her nebuliser, we would sing Puff The Magic Dragon.

12 years on, ,my dad died of same thing, and was just as stoic about it.

Bless you Sarah and your wonderful family and keep up the good fight
xx

Cam22 · 13/06/2023 21:45

AmbleInAnnBoleyn · 13/06/2023 16:31

I do hope she makes a full recovery as I like her

???

If you didn't like her, what then?

Is that really necessary?

Cam22 · 13/06/2023 21:47

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SoupDragon · 13/06/2023 21:59

Cam22 · 13/06/2023 21:45

Is that really necessary?

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No less necessary than the whole nasty thread

HandsupSue · 14/06/2023 05:43

Odd contribution from you @Cam22

what is “necessary”

i would say not bitching about someone you don’t know because you didn’t like way they spoke about their breast cancer experience

mrsnjw · 14/06/2023 07:24

I often eye roll at celebs like Amanda Holden Holly W etc. But Sarah Beeny, like Davina Mc have stayed down to earth and highlighted serious issues around women's health. I love sarah and I think she has a fab family. I think she was initially going to have treatment alone but then didn't want to have to put the boys through lying about what was actually happening. She took control of the narrative. I found it interesting and reassuring that we have come along way with treatment. I certainly won't feel as if discovering a lump might be the end of my existence.
Well done and good luck Sarah!

MiniCooperLover · 14/06/2023 08:26

A friend tested positive for Breast Cancer and only went for her checkup because of Sarah Beeny, she's now on her third chemo and dealing with it in a very similar way, very open and discussing it. I had a letter last year saying now you're 50 come get a mammogram and I put it off and after watching her programme I yesterday made my appointment so of course it's necessary! Similar to when poor Jade Goody was open about her Cervical Cancer and a lot of girls and women went and got tested for that. It's about opening the narrative wider and thank goodness we have people willing to share their stories as they go through it, so that it encourages others to get tested.

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Softoprider · 14/06/2023 09:35

Well what a pile on !

I won't apologise for this thread even if it has provoked people into being nasty.
For the record I have spoken to family and friends about it.
I have had breast cancer. I had a mastectomy. I had three tiny children to look after and all of this going on, and I was young
The reality for me and for other ladies I met at the time was that there was very little help from anywhere. We struggled with childcare massively. My husband had to take lots of time (unpaid) from work and we got nothing in benefits at all.
I did not get an instant implant as Sarah did. I had to wait on a list. It was depressing. The implant went hard. They would not change it. I have never had it changed. I could go private.......... ???
Many people who get awful things like this just have to manage as there is little in the way of help.
Later, my older sister got cancer. They did not detect it in time to save her. When she was x rayed they missed the shadow. By the time they looked again it had spread.
We tried to access the medical records for my grandma who had also had cancer. Even though she had died (not from cancer) the records were still there and they would not let us look at them as it 'served no purpose'.
My sister also died young and left little children. Both of us have daughters who could potentially get this awful disease and I feel that there should have been more kindness and help shown to us at the time.
When I saw the help Sarah got it was as if she was from another planet to us.
Now perhaps you might see why i thought it was made light of and I still feel her journey was not the same as I hear from other ladies with breast cancer. Her reality - yes - absolutely, but certainly not mine or that of others I have spoken to and know

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burnoutbabe · 14/06/2023 09:43

I mean clearly Sarah had access to research doctors for that part of the documentary more than non tv people would have.

But the rest was what a normal person would go through. She drove herself to most appointments (which I found interesting from my parents experience when someone always drove them as they may not be able to drive)

The feeling sick and worry about having a normal Xmas was familiar. She had the mindset my dad had with his cancer -he wanted to know sll the scientific ins and out (being a scientist) about the radiotherapy etc and it was A PROJECT.

HandsupSue · 14/06/2023 10:17

Now perhaps you might see why i thought it was made light of and I still feel her journey was not the same as I hear from other ladies with breast cancer.

nope. Still think nasty

Riverlee · 14/06/2023 10:24

@Softoprider Sorry you had such a hard time.

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