Anyone else with an NT kid who's destined to get 4s, 5s and 6s in their GCSEs?

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DC is just your average run of the mill kid, had a couple of difficulties throughout their life so far but nothing that has caused long term issues. Destined to get average grades in the GCSEs that they're currently taking. Anyone else with a kid in the same position? Feeling kinda lonely....

Anyone??

yes my son got average GCSEs, went to college to Level 3 BTEC Engineering.
Currently working in Tesco earning lots of money.
Off to university in September to do Conmputing

GCSEs not the be all and end all, lots of options out there

My DTs fell into this category last year although one of them somehow got an 8 in English, his mates asked him if he’d misread and it was actually a 3 🤣

they’re at college now and both working part time jobs, have got 4K each saved up from that, and love life at the moment.

Your DC may well blossom when they go to college and find a course in an area they actually enjoy.

Yes. One of my children got average GCSEs then 2 A levels at grade B and C and Btec distinction. Now at university and doing very well.

A 6 is a good grade (a B in old terms) - somehow we've been conditioned to think it's not!

Me!! 6s would be lovely. She's likely to get a distinction in the one BTEC shes taking (7 equivalent) but mostly 4s and 5s. She's been accepted onto a 2 year IT course as long as she gets four 5s so fingers crossed but I often feel that mn children are all high fliers.

What are the 4s in. Probably too late but can you get tutors in die what ever the 4 was for?

@Damnbrsatz

Without sen dc can get 6s but they have to help themselves and often they have had very mild undiagnosed sen.
I've seen it with my own eyes.

We're still on the old grade system and I'll be happy if my DS gets Bs and Cs. He's capable of far more, but he's been off school ill since February, has missed all the structured revision and had to do it all on his own at home while dealing with horrible symptoms, invasive tests and heavy-duty medication, and frankly I'm amazed that he's actually sitting the exams. We wanted him to defer for a year but he desperately wants to start college with his mates and not be a year behind. He's plodding through, and as long as he gets the grades he needs to get onto his college course, we'll be happy. I really hope he doesn't have to resit maths or English though.

I’m in similar position although DS has ASD. Worth remembering that the last few years aren’t representative - this is the first “normal” post Covid exam season. People will shriek but there was a lot of grade inflation over the last few years … our lot will be back down to Earth with a bump

Following with interest as I have a lovely, hard working, phenomenally organised and mostly endowed with common sense daughter who just isn't the most academic high flier. Starting Year 10 in Sept and probably on a 4/5/6 pathway, maybe 7s in her good subjects.

Am very proud of her and keen to hear where similar kids have found themselves post 16 and 18.

Loads, just these parents don't post/chat about it.
For many GCSEs are just the next stepping stone. For many college courses they need 4 and above.

@ThisSummerBetterBeDarnGood
She has some special needs as in she came to us on an SGO aged 5 having suffered abuse and trauma and has disorganised attachment disorder and maturity wise is about 3 to 4 years behind her peers. She is actually fine academically but is struggling with the exams as she is just not ready for them.

Me. DD has had a terrible few years. She was attacked, drugged and sexually assaulted 18 months ago and subsequently her mental health has take a severe nose dive, including two suicide attempts. She had to move school after year 10 and has almost had to teach herself half the syllabus for some subjects where the exam boards were different between schools.

I suspect she has inattentive ADD, and with all of the above it's been tough at times for her to attend school, work and revise.

Before what happened to her she was predicted 8's and 9's. Her predicted grades are 5's and 6''s and she needs them to get into the sixth form she wants. Tbh I'm just proud of her for keeping going, (albeit with some bumps along the way), and for doing the exams at all!

@lastminutewednesday - your poor, poor DD. That's absolutely awful!

@Damnbrsatz yes there is usually a reason that's a great shame she has to do them now. As others have said in time she should be OK.

For heavens sake OP. Lonely, because your child is going to get some solid pass grades in their GCSE’s?

You know that many people don’t pass GCSE’s and still manage to have a great life and a great career?

You do know that there are many useful strengths needed for a successful life, and GCSE’s are not the be all and end all?

You are being absolutely ridiculous. I hope you check your attitude so you don’t damage your relationship with your child.

‘Lonely…’ bloody hell

It has been the worst thing that's every happened to her and to us all to be fair and it will continue to be for a little while yet I think. It's affected everything and it's been hard for all of us, but especially her, to manage. But she has been brave and although it's been a struggle she seems to be gradually getting better. It's not linea however and we have regressions and tangents which in turn make her dislike herself even more and some days it's just a horrible vicious circle.

It does put exam results into perspective as we are just lucky she is still here-but if she doesn't get the results she needs I'm very worried it will shatter her progress as she knows she isn't where she could be academically and it bothers her, amid everything else.

Realistically he will probably get 2,s maybe some 3,s he's not academic anyway but he was in critical care in February and spent a month in hospital so I'm just proud of him that he's been able to.sit his GCSE,s ,,they are not the end of he world had had a college place for a level 2 course and hopefully he can move up.to level three next year .

My 23 year old just passed his GCSEs with Cs and Ds, as they were back then. He then took A Levels, as no BTECs interested him. Flunked them pretty much. (D, E, U)

He'd been volunteering at a holiday club for children with SEN since he was 15, and got a job with them. He is still working for them, but also working as a LSA at the local special school. He loves his job. It may not be a high flying well paid career, but he's happy.

DS is finishing college this year, but he went to a high school where historically, only 40% of kids passed English and Maths. So 60% got grade 3 or lower. 4, 5 and 6s was a great achievement and anything higher, everyone thought the kids were a genius.

I don't think that Mumsnet is representative of normal OP, so I wouldn't be too down :)

I didn’t read that op was disappointed with their child. MN threads though seem to paint a different picture of the percentage expecting 8/9s. There are general support threads as well but not as much.

My DS told me that a third of pupils in his year failed their maths GCSEs last year.

There are loads of DC who won't do well for all sorts of reasons.

There are plenty of decent jobs around for everyone no matter how well or badly they do in their GCSEs

The owner of the garage where I get my car serviced was telling me he pays his staff £38K and that he thought that seemed ok. I told him that was more than ok actually. I was quite at how decent that was. I had obviously never thought about what a car mechanic gets paid but that seemed decent.

Sorry if I'm missing the point, but what has being NT got to do with anything?

Outside of the world of mumsnet whether everyone gets 8_s and 9,s 4,s are a standard pass roughly a low C and good enough for many college courses ,obviously not A,levels but not every is suited to A levels