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Is this illegal?

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Coconutsandpalmtrees · 09/06/2023 17:37

Is it illegal to post things about someone on the internet which are completely true but makes that other person look bad? Or complaining to someone's workplace by sending screenshots of awful messages that they sent you? Or complaining to someone's workplace about when they were rude to you outside of work but wearing their work uniform?

Is any of this illegal?

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Gingergirl70 · 09/06/2023 20:29

Is it still ongoing, the bullying, or historic. I'm just a little confused as you said they shouted at you in the street but then said they don't know where you are?
Sounds like it's really affecting you and maybe talking it through with someone might make things easier for you. Have you considered counselling?
There is a saying about best revenge is having a happy, successful life. I hope you are because bsessing about revenge is only going to make you miserable

Coconutsandpalmtrees · 09/06/2023 20:41

Gingergirl70 · 09/06/2023 20:29

Is it still ongoing, the bullying, or historic. I'm just a little confused as you said they shouted at you in the street but then said they don't know where you are?
Sounds like it's really affecting you and maybe talking it through with someone might make things easier for you. Have you considered counselling?
There is a saying about best revenge is having a happy, successful life. I hope you are because bsessing about revenge is only going to make you miserable

Historic

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Gingergirl70 · 09/06/2023 20:46

I agree with others who say this is not a good idea. Letting stuff from the past fester will stop you leading a truly happy, fulfilling life - even if you are convincing yourself that you already are. Having revenge as your main objective in life is not healthy. Do things that make you feel good about yourself, not things that are going to make them feel bad. Some self-love, therapy and having good friends and relationships now is far more important

wildfirewonder · 09/06/2023 21:30

Coconutsandpalmtrees · 09/06/2023 20:18

Erm but they started on me first? How am I as bad?

'They started on me first' is very childish.

Two wrongs do not make a right.

You are behaving just as badly.

Stompythedinosaur · 09/06/2023 21:45

Coconutsandpalmtrees · 09/06/2023 20:27

At school and also for a couple of years after we left school.

Come on, clearly they shouldn't have bullied you at school, but as an adult you must be able to see that they were themselves kids.

Trying to take revenge as an adult is absolutely pathetic.

I think therapy might be better than this.

MichelleScarn · 09/06/2023 21:58

You're sure they'll know its you, how long ago did you leave school? Do you know that they'll even remember you or know who you are?

LadyPenelope68 · 10/06/2023 08:07

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Magnoliainbloom · 10/06/2023 09:21

Seek counseling. Given it’s historic, sounds like something you’ve become obsessed with. You definitely sound unhinged.

Coconutsandpalmtrees · 10/06/2023 09:35

Magnoliainbloom · 10/06/2023 09:21

Seek counseling. Given it’s historic, sounds like something you’ve become obsessed with. You definitely sound unhinged.

Not all of it is from school. Some people had a go at me for no reason in past workplaces telling me to get out of the way and shouting at me if I asked them to repeat themselves.

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Coconutsandpalmtrees · 10/06/2023 09:37

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And you sound like a horrible person.what gave them the right to do that do me for no reason? Let's see you answer that.

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ProfessorXtra · 10/06/2023 09:51

Coconutsandpalmtrees · 10/06/2023 09:35

Not all of it is from school. Some people had a go at me for no reason in past workplaces telling me to get out of the way and shouting at me if I asked them to repeat themselves.

Op, kindly, you seem to believe that several different individuals from different times of your life have been extraordinary awful to you. Do you think that this ‘I will ruin their life and get my revenge. I can laugh at them because they are on low wages’ attitude, might have anything to do with it.

Do you think the other involved may see the situation very differently from you?

LadyPenelope68 · 10/06/2023 10:05

Coconutsandpalmtrees · 10/06/2023 09:37

And you sound like a horrible person.what gave them the right to do that do me for no reason? Let's see you answer that.

You are making yourself sound more and more ridiculous with every post. Nobody is entitled to bully anyone, everyone knows that, but this is bullying from school that you now want revenge for in adult life by contacting their employers etc. that’s harassment and a criminal offence. I’ve nothing I need to “get out of” as you put it.

Youre also mentioning other people doing the same in your workplace. It may be that you are viewing things very differently to others and certainly your “I have a right to revenge” and “laughing as they’re on low wages and miserable” comments suggest there are issues with your attitude. I suggest you get yourself referred for some counselling/support to deal with the bullying you experienced.

LadyPenelope68 · 10/06/2023 10:06

Even your aggressive responses on this whole thread to everyone, but one person who has agreed with you, suggest there are problems with your own attitude/way you deal with others.

Coconutsandpalmtrees · 10/06/2023 10:12

LadyPenelope68 · 10/06/2023 10:06

Even your aggressive responses on this whole thread to everyone, but one person who has agreed with you, suggest there are problems with your own attitude/way you deal with others.

Well I never encounter people that bully me now, so no I don't think there is a problem with how I deal with others. The problem was the people was were horrible to me. The man who shouted in my face when I asked him to repeat himself was bitter and unhappy with his life.

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monsteramunch · 10/06/2023 13:27

Whatever you choose to do now OP, some counselling could be a really good shout to work through some of your anger about what happened to you at school. Holding on to it so intensely is sure to have an effect on you.

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Coconutsandpalmtrees · 10/06/2023 15:02

SittingHereInLimbo · 09/06/2023 20:23

Posting "things about someone on the internet which are completely true but makes that other person look bad" is libellous.
If they can show it's you doing it, and you are identifying them (which doesn't necessarily mean using their name) they can sue you over it.
Truth is a complete defence, but what you say can still be libellous, so if you don't have evidence to prove it's true, they will win.

The part about that person attacking me is absolutely true. Many witnesses. I really don't think they would have the money to sue even if they had the grounds to.

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Hobnobswantshernameback · 10/06/2023 15:10

You need to channel Elsa

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