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Is this illegal?

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Coconutsandpalmtrees · 09/06/2023 17:37

Is it illegal to post things about someone on the internet which are completely true but makes that other person look bad? Or complaining to someone's workplace by sending screenshots of awful messages that they sent you? Or complaining to someone's workplace about when they were rude to you outside of work but wearing their work uniform?

Is any of this illegal?

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Whenwillitallmakesense · 09/06/2023 19:58

If they are threatening violence why not just report to the police? You have the evidence.
I personally think it's not only immature to do the things you suggest but also dangerous and will only make things a whole lot worse for you

Coconutsandpalmtrees · 09/06/2023 20:00

mayorofcasterbridge · 09/06/2023 19:57

Perfect way to escalate things - don't you think they are going to respond in kind? Or up the ante?

Don't be silly.

Well there is not much they can do because they won't be able to find me. So don't you be silly

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Coconutsandpalmtrees · 09/06/2023 20:01

Whenwillitallmakesense · 09/06/2023 19:58

If they are threatening violence why not just report to the police? You have the evidence.
I personally think it's not only immature to do the things you suggest but also dangerous and will only make things a whole lot worse for you

The police? Don't make me laugh. Not really dangerous because they have no idea where I am now and they will never be able to find me.

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Gazelda · 09/06/2023 20:02

I think @mayorofcasterbridge is right. It won't make things better for you. It could escalate the situation though. And it would make people who don't know the whole story think that you're being petty.

GoodChat · 09/06/2023 20:03

This will only make things worse, OP.

MrsPinkCock · 09/06/2023 20:04

Coconutsandpalmtrees · 09/06/2023 19:25

The messages they sent included name calling and threats of violence. One of them shouted abuse at me in their work uniform.

Well some employers might treat that as gross misconduct (bringing the employer into disrepute).

others would ignore it totally and think it was a nuts complaint.

Whenwillitallmakesense · 09/06/2023 20:07

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YourMommaWasASnowblower · 09/06/2023 20:08

I can understand your need for revenge if these people have abused you.
However, my experience of bullies is that they are very good at turning themselves into the victim. Often already laying the groundwork to blame you while they are abusing you. You could end up playing into their hands by doing these things so publicly - they could turn it around and say you are harassing them or you have text yourself from their phone or you provoked them into saying bad things in the recording. Etc
I would advise caution.

Coconutsandpalmtrees · 09/06/2023 20:10

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What a vile person you sound. I am not hiding but they just won't be able to find me. Don't you know the difference? oh I will take care. The people who bullied me are living miserable penniless lives in low paid jobs. Btw she didn't go through with the threat despite having the chance to, so no I would not say it was dangerous. Piss off now

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Coconutsandpalmtrees · 09/06/2023 20:12

YourMommaWasASnowblower · 09/06/2023 20:08

I can understand your need for revenge if these people have abused you.
However, my experience of bullies is that they are very good at turning themselves into the victim. Often already laying the groundwork to blame you while they are abusing you. You could end up playing into their hands by doing these things so publicly - they could turn it around and say you are harassing them or you have text yourself from their phone or you provoked them into saying bad things in the recording. Etc
I would advise caution.

Oh no I will do it anonymously. Nothing will link it to my name, but they will know it's me.

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LadyPenelope68 · 09/06/2023 20:16

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Coconutsandpalmtrees · 09/06/2023 20:18

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Erm but they started on me first? How am I as bad?

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Motnight · 09/06/2023 20:20

Coconutsandpalmtrees · 09/06/2023 20:10

What a vile person you sound. I am not hiding but they just won't be able to find me. Don't you know the difference? oh I will take care. The people who bullied me are living miserable penniless lives in low paid jobs. Btw she didn't go through with the threat despite having the chance to, so no I would not say it was dangerous. Piss off now

So if they are already miserable why not just leave them alone?

RagingWoke · 09/06/2023 20:21

Sending anonymous screen shots to an employer would probably not result in anything. And is an odd thing to do, assuming it's also not particularly recent.
Honestly the time for doing anything like was when it happened.

It's time to move on with your own life, dwelling on it will only cause you more distress. The kind of people who do these things aren't likely to give a shit.

SunnySaturdayMorning · 09/06/2023 20:22

Coconutsandpalmtrees · 09/06/2023 20:18

Erm but they started on me first? How am I as bad?

“But but but! She hurt me first, miss!”You’re not a child Confused

And being in a low paid job doesn’t mean they’re miserable, nor is it something to look down on them for.

You’re not a better person for having a higher paid job, and like the PP said, you are stopping to their level, so you are just as bad as them.

mymeatballsmymeatballs · 09/06/2023 20:23

I get the desire for revenge. I'd LOVE to get revenge on my bullies. It's not illegal, you say it's not dangerous cause they won't be able to find you so go for it I guess! You'll be the better person if you just leave well alone and move on with your life though. But I do get how you feel so if you think it'll make you feel better then do it😊

FatAgainItsLettuceTime · 09/06/2023 20:23

Have you never heard the saying '2 wrongs don't make a right?'

You lose any and all moral high ground if you now choose to become their bully. For the rest of your life you will be a hypocrite if you complain or say anything negative about their treatment of you because you are doing the same back.

Beezknees · 09/06/2023 20:23

I was on your side until your snobby comment about low paid jobs.

SittingHereInLimbo · 09/06/2023 20:23

Posting "things about someone on the internet which are completely true but makes that other person look bad" is libellous.
If they can show it's you doing it, and you are identifying them (which doesn't necessarily mean using their name) they can sue you over it.
Truth is a complete defence, but what you say can still be libellous, so if you don't have evidence to prove it's true, they will win.

gwenneh · 09/06/2023 20:24

Do it. There's no way of any possibility of the merest suggestion that it could backfire on you, so crack on.

ProfessorXtra · 09/06/2023 20:25

You say they are living penniless and low paid jobs now?

So when did this actually happen?

But also, do you realise how that sentence makes you sound? Do you know how many people live penniless and in low paid jobs? That’s life for a lot of people. Not a situation that’s thrust upon someone for being morally wrong? It’s not something to look down on. It’s certainly not something that should make you feel superior.

Coconutsandpalmtrees · 09/06/2023 20:26

mymeatballsmymeatballs · 09/06/2023 20:23

I get the desire for revenge. I'd LOVE to get revenge on my bullies. It's not illegal, you say it's not dangerous cause they won't be able to find you so go for it I guess! You'll be the better person if you just leave well alone and move on with your life though. But I do get how you feel so if you think it'll make you feel better then do it😊

thanks that post made me feel better. i am just so full of rage towards them for what they did to me. I want to hurt them like they hurt me (not physically obviously)

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Coconutsandpalmtrees · 09/06/2023 20:27

ProfessorXtra · 09/06/2023 20:25

You say they are living penniless and low paid jobs now?

So when did this actually happen?

But also, do you realise how that sentence makes you sound? Do you know how many people live penniless and in low paid jobs? That’s life for a lot of people. Not a situation that’s thrust upon someone for being morally wrong? It’s not something to look down on. It’s certainly not something that should make you feel superior.

At school and also for a couple of years after we left school.

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SunnySaturdayMorning · 09/06/2023 20:27

Coconutsandpalmtrees · 09/06/2023 20:26

thanks that post made me feel better. i am just so full of rage towards them for what they did to me. I want to hurt them like they hurt me (not physically obviously)

So they’ve moved on with their lives and you are miserable because you can’t let go.

This isn’t healthy, and you aren’t a happy person. You haven’t won here, you’ve let them win, and continue to do so as long as you allow them to make you feel this way.

gwenneh · 09/06/2023 20:29

I want to hurt them like they hurt me (not physically obviously)

It won't, though. It'll make you look unhinged, and make them look better. They'll still go to bed at night not even thinking about you at all.