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Not enough tickets.. help

44 replies

Userno3736363728274018372 · 09/06/2023 16:39

Dd has been nominated for an award. Won’t go into too much detail not to give my identity away.

4 tickets per family. We need 3, leaving one spare

both grandmas want to go!!

how do you decide this? DH hates my mum so think his mum should go but I don’t want to upset anyone so would rather say no to both and make it fair.

wwyd?

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Doggymummar · 09/06/2023 16:40

Let the prize winner choose of course

ModerationInEverything · 09/06/2023 16:40

I would take neither. Not worth the resulting fall out.

Iliketulips · 09/06/2023 16:41

Just parents, no one else is fairest.

Kedece2410 · 09/06/2023 16:42

Doggymummar · 09/06/2023 16:40

Let the prize winner choose of course

God no what a horrible position to put her in. Basically choosing her fave Gran. Her relationship with the other may never recover

IWonderWhereThatDishDidGo · 09/06/2023 16:42

I wouldn't bring either of them as it will only annoy someone

Sirzy · 09/06/2023 16:42

Take neither all meet for a celebratory meal afterwards

karmakameleon · 09/06/2023 16:42

I’d ask DD if there is anyone she’d like to invite for the extra space. She may want to ask a friend or adult who supported her in her achievement. Or she may choose one of her grandmothers. If she doesn’t want anyone just give the extra ticket up.

LouLou198 · 09/06/2023 16:43

Wouldn't invite either! I would let dd take a friend.

megletthesecond · 09/06/2023 16:43

Neither.

megletthesecond · 09/06/2023 16:43

Neither.

HMMOG · 09/06/2023 16:44

Doggymummar · 09/06/2023 16:40

Let the prize winner choose of course

Definitely not this.

Take a friend instead then see the grannies afterwards.

TokyoSushi · 09/06/2023 16:45

Another vote for neither.

Whatt · 09/06/2023 16:45

Ask someone else who has a winner child if they will be using all their tickets and then ask for one if they say they won't.

Stickytoastandhoney · 09/06/2023 16:46

Neither but using the ticket for a friend is a great idea as it takes the whole decision out of your hands.

Newyeardietstartstomorrow · 09/06/2023 16:46

Take her friend instead.

NoSquirrels · 09/06/2023 16:48

Is sibling desperate to go? If not, leave them with a friend and both grandmas come.

or

Ask the organisers if there might be an extra ticket and can you be added to a list if so (or coordinate with another family if you know anyone else being seated).

or

Neither grandma comes.

or

The grandmas fight, last woman standing gets the ticket.

Kedece2410 · 09/06/2023 16:49

The grandmas fight, last woman standing gets the ticket

😂😂😂

Berthatydfil · 09/06/2023 16:53

Both or none.

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Userno3736363728274018372 · 09/06/2023 17:07

Doggymummar · 09/06/2023 16:40

Let the prize winner choose of course

She has SEN, so she doesn’t find decisions easy and would want both x

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ArthnoldManacatsaman · 09/06/2023 17:08

Whatt · 09/06/2023 16:45

Ask someone else who has a winner child if they will be using all their tickets and then ask for one if they say they won't.

Or, in a similar vein, offer the 4th ticket for a family who may not have enough (eg step-parents, extra siblings, etc)

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Userno3736363728274018372 · 09/06/2023 17:09

Thanks all! Good ideas! I may ask to be put down for consideration if any other seats aren’t needed!

it is not a school thing as such!

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Userno3736363728274018372 · 09/06/2023 17:14

@ArthnoldManacatsaman good idea!

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Userno3736363728274018372 · 09/06/2023 17:14

I only had one set of grandparents growing up so this is all new to me!!

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Delatron · 09/06/2023 17:16

But would a friend really want to go? I think these things are family things. Is the ticket for her or a sibling? Does the sibling want to go? I’d switch out the sibling and then both grandmas can go. They do love this kind of thing. Whereas brothers and sisters. It bothered. Unless the ticket is for your daughter.

ThatFraggle · 09/06/2023 17:19

Ask the organisers to be on standby for any extra, as you have an extra family member who would like to attend.

If by a couple of days before you don't get one extra, offer up your own back to them, explaining there are two grandmas so it is both or neither. There will be someone with step parents etc who need an extra ticket.