Not enough tickets.. help

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Dd has been nominated for an award. Won’t go into too much detail not to give my identity away.

4 tickets per family. We need 3, leaving one spare

both grandmas want to go!!

how do you decide this? DH hates my mum so think his mum should go but I don’t want to upset anyone so would rather say no to both and make it fair.

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In this instance I'd say both grandmothers or none . Like a PP said why not all go for a meal afterwards.

We only get one parent ticket - luckily I'm a single parent!

I'd tell grannies a white lie and that you only got enough tickets for immediate family

And in future, don't let it be known that there is a Hunger Games-style 'battle to the death' for that one ticket. Just say the organizers only provide tickets for nuclear family. You are trying to see if you can get 2 extra. Either you do or you don't get extra.

100% it will be on zoom. They can watch, then meet up for a celebration meal afterwards.

Rock paper scissors

Toss a coin.

Neither or say nothing to either and ask if any spare tickets are available some maybe then you can ask both.

If the grandparents are being difficult and putting pressure on you, they shouldn’t have been told how many tickets there were.

You could have said “immediate family only, unfortunately”. As they now know, I’d draw names out of a hat and then hear no more noise about it

I'd take one, and then other one goes next time.

10 rounds.
3 minutes a round
Granny wrestling

I wouldn't invite either it could be quite hurtful to choose one over the other.

Another vote for
Neither grandparent, unless sibling isn't bothered about going - in which case both nans in place of sibling.

If my DH hated my mum (genuinely hates her? has she done something to deserve that?) I would not be looking to encourage a gathering that includes them both. There’s bound to be tension and a child being celebrated doesn’t need that. And if one gran can’t come then neither should

If you have an extra ticket its a bit pointless and unnecessary to say neither should go -its a bit cutting off noses. someone should get to use it.

I would tell the grannies if you haven't already that there is one ticket and that you are going to toss a coin or draw straws or something - and actually do it.

Personally (because I'm a distrusting sort) I would video the coin toss or whatever and if they are on Whatsapp or text, send it to them so they know it was a genuine 'luck of the draw' - as opposed to picking the fave granny. You could make it it a mini show presented by your or DD.

"here we are at the first ever Granny Ticket Deciding coin toss. In the blue corner we have Granny 1 who has been allocated heads. in the red corner we have Granny 2. The coin is being brought in on a cushion. Mum is now warmig up her fingers. the dramatic music has started. ..."

I agree that you should go as a 3 (or let the 4th ticket go to DD best friend for example), then have a family meal after. Oh and your husband needs to grow up.

Names out of a hat?

One grandma on the other grandma’s shoulders, in a trench coat.

Misses point but why does your DH hate your mum?

"100% it will be on zoom. They can watch, then meet up for a celebration meal afterwards."

Eh? None of my kids ceremonies, awards or shows have been on zoom. Weird.

OP, why does your DH hate your mum?