Okay so this is why I think grooming is so prolific, people actually think that someone groomed as a child is going to be both aware what is happening or happened to them, and that they are capable or even responsible for identifying and reporting it. It is not how it works. Its actually up to the adults around them to identify the behaviour and call it out. Only when people did that here, they were silenced. If an adult strikes up a 'friendship' with a child, that right there is your first red flag. I do not have 15 year old friends, my husband doesn't, nobody I know our age does or thinks it is appropriate. My training has taught me that adults who do, either do not understand safeguarding or are predatory. Adults chatting to children online is another ed flag, and that happened here too.
If that friendship turns sexual when the child reaches maturity, that is evidence of grooming.
I am always shocked that parents do not see what is right in front of them. Our children suffer because of your inability to admit what you can see. Grooming is sinister because it looks like friendly behaviour, but if we all put ourselves in the position of the adult in question, and honestly ask yourselves, is this something
Excellent post @Iwantcakeeveryday
Terrifying that this isn't appreciated by everyone.