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Who does the packin* for your holidays?

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BarrelOfOtters · 31/05/2023 07:27

Dh and I pack our own bags. No kids. I do have to endure the clothes parade first while he decides which of the 5 identical navy blue polos he is taking,

it seems thought that other people pack for their partners……

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RoseAdage · 31/05/2023 09:19

We all pack for ourselves, although I packed for the kids when they were smaller. I also tend to pack the everyone stuff like sun cream.

Can’t imagine packing for DH.

whoruntheworldgirls · 31/05/2023 09:19

I pack for me and my daughter, husband does his own

Lovingitallnow · 31/05/2023 09:21

This reminds me of someone once on here who had different definitions of packing to her husband. She used to pack for everyone and it was a pain in the arse and she'd get stressed so one year he said he'd do it. And she kept saying when are you starting and he kept saying there's loads of time and the night before he said right, where's all the stuff. He was ready to put it in the suitcases now. 😂😂😂 didn't cop that it was the gathering of all the stuff that was the ball ache.

pumpkintart · 31/05/2023 09:22

When we were both self employed I tended to have more spare time so would sort, my packing, two kids and toiletries. I would get out what I think he would need/want. He would do a quick audit, add in or take away. I pack suitcases, change of clothes and swim wear in a carryon test split across a couple of bags.

He was fully responsible for the tech bag from packing, downloading for the kids, security etc. I do passports and kids through security.

orangeflags · 31/05/2023 09:22

He does his own, but I also have the t shirt parade

SleepingStandingUp · 31/05/2023 09:24

peacelemon · 31/05/2023 09:09

We pack our own. We aren't children.

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As much as I don't pack for DH, it isn't about being children, it's about division of labour or sharing luggage space. It doesn't make you a better person to refuse to do something for your partner if you have time and he doesn't, or vice versa

Topseyt123 · 31/05/2023 09:50

We each pack our own. That's it.

There have certainly been incidents of DH doing a last minute rushed job with his own clothes packing and forgetting essential stuff, like his pants etc. 🤣🤣

DH also likes to pack for all eventualities, no matter how remote the possibility (you'd think he was anticipating a blizzard in the Mediterranean in summer!! 🙄). He is getting better at streamlining what he actually needs though. Especially after several years when he was the only one of us with overweight baggage at the airport (and very lucky not to get charged extra for it). He has learnt that his stuff is not weightless, as he seemed to believe previously. 🤣

ApolloandDaphne · 31/05/2023 09:52

DH packs his own and I pack mine. When the D.C. were small packed theirs until they were old enough to sort their own stuff.

Tintackedsea · 31/05/2023 09:55

I pack the clothes for me and the kids, the toiletries, the books/games.

Dh packs his own clothes and all the other stuff like electronics and dog things, food, camping gear etc.

Much like the dishwasher, he's convinced that he's much better at stacking the car so he stows it all.

cornflakesandtea · 31/05/2023 10:04

Me, but that's because I actually enjoy doing it as it gets me excited for my holiday! DH would do it if I didn't want to.

thecatsthecats · 31/05/2023 10:07

We pack for ourselves, then he brings me his hand luggage bag and asks why two pairs of shoes, twelve pairs of socks (for a ten day holiday including five days in the sun!), and his beard trimmer won't fit.

He takes a look at the space still free in my bag, gets told to jog on, then revises the list down whilst I make sarcastic comments.

SkankingWombat · 31/05/2023 10:17

I pack my things without external input.

DH packs his things without external input.

DCs (6 & 8yo) help me pack their things. I sit on my bed with their suitcases and get them to fetch x-number of a clothing category at a time from their rooms, eg "we are going for 7 nights, so for pants you need 7 plus 1 spare just in case - Go!". They enjoy it as a game and it gets them understanding what to pack in which quantities. It also means they have a choice in what they wear.

I pack any general family items as I work fewer hours so have more time to do it.

Fizbosshoes · 31/05/2023 10:51

There have certainly been incidents of DH doing a last minute rushed job with his own clothes packing and forgetting essential stuff, like his pants etc. 🤣🤣

DH once went away for 2 weeks with 1 pair of pants! (Before we were married)

He's often quite blasé and a bit poo-pooing about why people "make a fuss" about packing (ie thinking about it more than 10 min before leaving)....but invariably forgets something or realises he has only 1 tshirt etc. He always asks when we're probably an hour into the journey, "have we got...." (Directions for accommodation, Sun cream, beach towels, sun hats for DC ) Or "do you know if the place has..." because hes literally only just thought of stuff like that!

Lcb123 · 31/05/2023 10:52

Of course we pack for ourselves (no kids). Why would I pack for another functioning adult

SleepingStandingUp · 31/05/2023 11:03

Lcb123 · 31/05/2023 10:52

Of course we pack for ourselves (no kids). Why would I pack for another functioning adult

Division of labour. Team work. Doing something to help someone you love.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 31/05/2023 11:18

I pack for everyone as I'm a bit of a control freak.I like to be on my own and do it all.

mynewusername2023 · 31/05/2023 11:25

We pack for ourselves (no kids) and DH sorts all paperwork etc.

callmesophia · 31/05/2023 11:28

I pack for all of us. Family of 5. I am a self confessed control freak and feel like the others wouldn't do it 'right'. Plus my husband is always at work so it just makes sense that I do it. He doesn't give a shite what he wears etc, not particularly fashion conscious as long as stuff fits. So it's quite easy.

FlibbedyFlobbedyFloo · 31/05/2023 11:28

We each pick what we're taking and DH actually places it in the suitcase. He's very particular about it and I can't be bothered with the faff

Isheabastard · 31/05/2023 11:29

My ex was in the military and was away a lot. You’d think that would make him good at packing, but no.

Over the years he’s forgotten to pack his wallet, his passport, pants, and t shirts for a beach holiday. There’s other stuff too much to mention.

Hes also left luggage in taxis (Asia), and an IPad on a plane. He regularly leaves stuff in hotels and at family and friends (chargers, coats, shoes).

Annoyingly it was always me that had to sort it out and get it back to him or sort insurance, wallet, luggage, iPad (you never want to have to deal with lost property at an airport).

He always asked me for reminders of what he might have forgotten ie medication, chargers etc. I never thought I needed to ask things like have you packed any underwear?

But, it’s never crossed my mind I should pack for him.

blahblahblah1654 · 31/05/2023 11:30

Husband packs for himself. I'm not his PA and he wouldn't dream of expecting me to. We both pack for our toddler but mostly me I guess as I know where all his clothes are chucked/stored.

Jesusmaryjosephandtheweedon · 31/05/2023 11:31

I pack for me and 3 dd's. Dh packs for himself. Dh would happily pack for 3 dd's but would choose whatever the first 3 pairs of shorts/tshirts/jumpers etc rather than picking the new clothes or matched outfits so I'm happier if I do it.

blahblahblah1654 · 31/05/2023 11:32

@Isheabastard if my husband ever asks me to remind him to do something I say no as it's shirking the responsibility and blame onto someone else!

GoldLipstick · 31/05/2023 11:34

I pack my own and dcs.
Dh does his own.
He is the ‘organiser’ & sorts out wallets for passports & other docs, chargers etc.
He is also good at folding things and creating space so I sometimes ask him to redo some of my packing so I get more in.

LaDamaDeElche · 31/05/2023 11:37

DP wouldn't let me near his case, he folds his clothes up like they do in expensive stores 😂 I pack my own stuff and help DD, as although she's 13, she has ADHD and would arrive at the destination missing loads of stuff otherwise.

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