Are you overweight but happy?

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Im just chilling in the garden finally enjoying some sun wearing a loose top to cover my belly but thinking 'you know what? ' aside from losing a parent suddenly last year, im the biggest ive ever weighed but the happiest! Anyone else ? ( 5'6, 12 stone and a good 14)

I'm overweight, I'm very happy as a person but not happy with my weight IYSWIM!

Yes and yes.

This. Losing 4 2 stone won't make me happier overall, but definitely not happy with being overweight.

The BMI says I'm bordering obese at a size 14. I'm happy but trying to get my weight down. I'm a month into a new gym membership and am very unfit as in I struggle in classes and can only manage 10 minutes fast walk on a treadmill.

I’m overweight and very happy.

I hate my weight and am trying to diet. I will be much better of, healthier and happier (about my weight) when it's lost.

My happiness is not tied to my weight.

I hit 15st earlier this year which is the heaviest I've been and certainly didn't make me happy despite being overweight since my teens so I'm making steps to improve that.

However I am happy in myself and just bought some new summer clothes that fit comfortably and I feel good in them, even if some of them are size 20.

Yes that's what i mean, i know it's unhealthy and i need to lose weight. Looking back at my adult life , ( i'm 40 now ) i was my thinnest at 21 at a size 8 but i was severely depressed.

Has anyone seen Kelly Brook on Insta? Im not saying she wasn't happy when she was lighter but she has put on quite a bit. She looks amazing and soo happy with her new hot Italian husband. very jealous of his his amazing cooking im imagining!!!

Oh and i bet there are loads on here sneering at this thread

Yes and yes. Need to lose a bit of weight for my health but for now I'm happy in my body, it's been through a lot! 5 foot tall, 14stone4 and a size 18-20. I'm pretty active too and feeling good 👍

Yes! I've lost 3 stone since Xmas, and I'm still 3 stone overweight but I don't actually care. I like my body whatever weight I am. I lost some because my blood pressure was high and I'm going to lose a bit more but it's not because I don't like myself. It's pure vanity because I want to knit myself a jumper to an 80s pattern and it only goes up to a size 14!
And I'm happy in general, too. I like life. It's lovely.

I'm not "overweight but happy" - I'm overweight and I'm happy. My happiness or not isn't determined by my body. You can be both.

The use of "but" implies it's unusual to be happy if you're carrying extra weight. Shallow.

Well yes, i agree it is shallow but look at how society is?

Yes,and yes. I am free from worrying what the world may think of me for what I look like. Try it, it is very liberating.Anyone who chooses to judge me have the are the ones with a problem!

Yes! I’m over weight and flabby. But definitely the happiest I’ve been with my body. Mainly because it works well (which I am eternally grateful for) and I have got to a place I don’t care what men think. I’m mid forties, 5 foot (ish) and 10.5 stones. I rock a bikini or very short shorts and just give zero fucks !

I'm overweight and dieting...just recently lost a stone. I'm not unhappy being overweight though. I want to lose weight but purely because I like clothes and fashion. I'm happy with myself. I think I'm pretty and feel confident. My happiness is not linked to my weight at all. It doesn't affect my mood. This is a hard concept for many to understand I've noticed. There's a whole cohort of thin women who are absolutely disgusted that a woman can be overweight and happy

Yes, I'm a bit heavier than I would like, but I'm actually fine with it now. I've had some quite disordered eating in the past and was really skinny (underweight) at one point and I was a lot less healthy and happy (and hungry all the time so a lot less pleasant to be around) then

I don't like my top half much tbh. I need to lose a few stone and hate the summer months as I can't cover up. However, I'm fairly happy and life isn't too bad. I do sometimes envy slim people who can wear nice tops and dresses , but it's a first world problem really.

Yes. I'm pretty much exactly the same weight as you. I do loads of exercise so I'm pretty fit. My diet/eating is a work in progress - but not because I hate the way I look, I'm pretty indifferent about that. I would just like to be healthier and to eat well to fuel my exercise.. I work on that all the time, trying to make healthy choices and cut out crap.

I don’t know why you’re trying to link it.

Maybe it’s linked to you age/ shoe size/ house/ clothes in your cupboard…

I was borderline obese but happy for a few years, now I'm just overweight and happy. As others have said my happiness was not determined by my weight.
However, I felt I needed to do something for health reasons so I've lost, and am still losing, weight. I'm really pleased at how much better I look and feel; and know I've improved my health and life expectancy.

My general happiness levels are about the same, though.

I'm overweight. And happy. A size 16/18, massive norks (thanks HRT). Happy (thanks HRT), also pretty fit and healthy. Have horses, ride 5 times a week plus muck two stables out every day, do about 15k steps every day, eat relatively healthy, drink a bit too much but don't smoke. I look at others my age (45) and although I'm fatter than some, classed as obese on BMI scale, know I am healthy. I'd like to use a couple of stone, but to do that I'd need to have salad every fucking day, no treats whatsoever, barely any alcohol and probably run as well.

Fuck that. I'll stay fat, enjoy the odd takeaway, pub tea or pudding and hopefully once menopause is over I might naturally drop some off.

I hate being overweight, it's so uncomfortable and doesn't look good at all on me either.

I am very short, only a bit over 5 foot, so I do think it's worse than if you're lovely and tall.

I am currently just into the BMI overweight category. Wearing size 10-12. The last few years I was around BMI 22-23 and that felt brilliant. I was wearing size 6-8.

In the past, I have also been much fatter though, due to steroids. I was very, very uncomfortable and felt unattractive. My confidence was low because of it. I would estimate my BMI was probably around 30 back then, and I literally dread that happening again.

Heaviest I have been in my life at moment as always been a size 8 and now a 12 and I have to be honest and say I am not happy. My clothes are tight , I feel tired and would love to get back down to previous weight. Broke a bone in my foot which started the weight gain and would love to lose it

I feel the same. I've hardly got any clothes I can fit into but don't want to give in and buy bigger sizes.

I used to be overweight and hate it.

now I’m older and have kids, I’ve reallly let go of that.

im BMI 29 ish normally no matter what I do short of starving myself, but I can run 5k, I can lift heavy weights, etc. I’m a dress size 14-16, I’ve got big boobs and a big ass. But My body allows me to do everything I need it to do, eg care for my kids, do my job well, love my husband etc so I’ve just decided to kind of give myself a break over the last couple of years and accept that this is how I look and the pain of reducing my size is not really worth it (I like eating nice food and drinking wine etc).

I used to only ever compare myself to perfect women, celebrities and such, but I noticed a friend doing that and slagging herself off about how she wasn’t good enough/ too fat and realised how awful it is, because she is gorgeous and I would never have spoken about her in such a way, and realised i did that about myself all the time.

i used to think it was impossible to like myself being overweight but now I kind of love and respect my body for everything it can do and it’s a much nicer frame of mind to be in.