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How do I tell colleague not to go for job I'm applying for?

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Funkyslippers · 18/05/2023 16:48

I'm applying for a job and they invited me to the open day for a tour & informal chat. I was looking up where they are based and realised they are within walking distance of where I live. I was quite taken aback as I thought they were further away so I told a colleague (and friend) about it, mainly in passing. She's also told me about other jobs she's gone for. After the tour I texted her 'just incase you're interested, the company is really good etc' as I thought she'd like to know how I got on. She then said it sounded great and checked the name of the company with me. I now realise that because I put 'incase you're interested' she now thinks I'm telling her that she should apply too! How do I gently tell her that wasn't what I meant and I'd rather she didn't apply too! She wouldn't have known about it if I hadn't told her

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SoupDragon · 18/05/2023 16:49

You can't!

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TomatoSandwiches · 18/05/2023 16:50

You don't, just leave it, you are not in control of who applies for what unfortunately.
Good luck though.

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RelaxingClassics · 18/05/2023 16:51

You can't tell her not to apply. All you can do is make sure you're better in the interview.

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PuppyMonkey · 18/05/2023 16:51

Oh dear, you dropped a proper clanger there OP.

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RelaxingClassics · 18/05/2023 16:51

Also has she actually said she's applying.

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Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 18/05/2023 16:52

Text back and say, obviously don't go for the same job as me! Lol!

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cocksstrideintheevening · 18/05/2023 16:52

You don't! She hasn't even said she's going for it.

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coxesorangepippin · 18/05/2023 16:52

Yeah, learn from this and don't tell your mates about cool jobs

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peachicecream · 18/05/2023 16:54

😂 You can't tell someone not to go for a job. Even if you did, she would go for it anyway if she wants to. There is no point.

Just learn from it and don't be so open about the jobs you're applying for in future.

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fajitaaa · 18/05/2023 16:55

Stop telling your competition about the job! You've basically given them the ok to apply now!! Nothing you can do.

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AHugeTinyMistake · 18/05/2023 16:55

Oh dear OP

This is why you shouldn't tell people about jobs you're interested in

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Socktupus · 18/05/2023 16:56

Even if you told her she can do what she likes.

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vodkaredbullgirl · 18/05/2023 16:56

Next time keep your mouth shut lol

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Funkyslippers · 18/05/2023 16:56

Yeah but she wouldn't have been interested if I hadn't said 'incase you're interested'. She hasn't said she's applying but the fact she checked the company's name makes me think she might!

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Funkyslippers · 18/05/2023 16:56

Yeah but she wouldn't have been interested if I hadn't said 'incase you're interested'. She hasn't said she's applying but the fact she checked the company's name makes me think she might!

Too late

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PuffinMcStuffin · 18/05/2023 16:58

I can't believe this is real, you know you can't tell them not to apply! Learn from it.

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FlowersareEverything · 18/05/2023 16:58

You can’t tell her not to apply. That would be very cheeky!

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Switchingup · 18/05/2023 16:58

Well if she applies she applies

And may the best candidate win!

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SarahSmith2023 · 18/05/2023 16:58

WH o the hell do you

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TomatoSandwiches · 18/05/2023 16:58

Funkyslippers · 18/05/2023 16:56

Yeah but she wouldn't have been interested if I hadn't said 'incase you're interested'. She hasn't said she's applying but the fact she checked the company's name makes me think she might!

That's your mistake though, she doesn't owe you anything, if she wants to apply she can and that's something you need to accept.

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PuppyMonkey · 18/05/2023 16:58

Yeah but she wouldn't have been interested if I hadn't said 'incase you're interested

Well, is she IS interested, nobody can change that now!

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SarahSmith2023 · 18/05/2023 16:59

Who the hell do you think you are that you have the right to tell someone not to apply for a job?

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Temporaryanonymity · 18/05/2023 17:00

I would read that text as your tacit approval to apply for the job. You have basically encouraged her to consider applying.

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AngryGreasedSantaCatcus · 18/05/2023 17:03

You can't do that. Well you can, but you'll sound and look like a twat and there's no guarantee she'll actually listen.

You created this whole situation so you need to suck it up and cross your fingers she's not actually interested in the same job at this particular time.

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seven201 · 18/05/2023 17:05

Oh dear! You can't stop her. All you can do is send a message saying "ha, just realised my 'in case you're interested' message made it sound like you should look at the job too! Not what I meant". Word it better than that though. You definitely can't ask her not to apply!

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