DD being sexually harassed in YEAR 5!!!

[Fifi00]

This is awfully young or not? A boy has asked to touch dds bum at school today. He said he liked Kim kardashians bum then looked at her in a creepy way. I phoned the school then the little shit tried to knock on the house and go in the garden. DD was shouting and I told him to go away. We don't live in a shit hole, my DD should feel safe at home and school. I remember boys being silly at primary but not overly sexual that didn't start until year 8.

First time my daughter gets sexually harassed its in primary school. I'm devastated.

Inappropriate behaviour isn't restricted to the poor. Plenty of rich men go round raping and attack women.

I don't get this attitude. What happened to the dd is clearly sexual harassment. Why minimise her experience by refusing to call it what it is? Your attitude centres the boy and his needs, rather than the girl and her experience.

The boy may well be someone with complex and serious needs. As a young child, he should be supported and helped.

But that doesn't make what he did less serious for her. His actions have an effect on her. It's not just 'unpleasant'.

I was assaulted at school aged 12.. this was 30 years ago plus 2 classmates of mine had sex by age 11 (it turned out they were exposed to older siblings & parents inappropriate behaviour at home sadly).

So I'm not surprised to hear that some boys behave inappropriately even at a young age.

I never reported what happened but I did defend myself which my mum had recently taught me to do luckily. So he didn't try anything again.

So firstly, report to the school and make sure action is taken.
Secondly, teach your daughter to defend herself physically & verbally. You should not have to, but the sad reality is that you do.

This boy may have been abused himself or have been exposed to inappropriate material.
But that's not really your problem. Once you have reported him, hopefully the safeguarding team if there is one, will deal with it.

Op as patent person said you must raise this with them school. She seems to know her stuff so hopefully you can pm her.

It's imperative that school doesn't pass this off as banter.
The training says they mustn't dismiss it as banter.

@SpareHeirOverThere and @Niceseasidetown

Both children need support

Thats how I took it as well but this site will jump on someone who uses the 'wrong' terminology or phrasing rather than actually address the main point

Oh for fuck sake, give it a rest you lot. OP is upset and used less than the best language. Give her a break will you?

Yes that was my thought too!

And what is the definition of a 'shit hole' I wonder?

No.

Calling an area a shit hole is not referring to the kids behaving like little shits.

It was pure socio- economic snobbery

The school really need to crack down hard on this, get the police involved if necessary. If he's doing this in year 5, what will he be doing in year 9 or 10 if it isn't nipped in the bud?

I work in a school and have to complete safeguarding training each year.
What your daughter has been subjected to is what is called "child on child abuse". It was massive in this years training compared to past years.

As a parent you MUST report this to the safeguarding lead in school. Your daughter reported it to you thankfully. Another girl may not report it to a parent/guardian and it could go much further in terms of severity. The school NEED to know to protect your daughter and others at school. THIS IS REALLY IMPORTANT.

The boy (and he is a boy) may also be being subjected to abuse at home. He could be being abused himself or being allowed to view unsuitable material. IT IS JUST AS IMPORTANT TO SAFEGUARD THE BOY.

All reports on the safeguarding file stay there for 45 years (yes, years). This is to build a picture. If this same boy was to rape at age 25 and he had a huge list of misdemeanours against him, that had been reported and logged then questions would be added as to why nothing was done earlier.

Lastly report to the school that he turned up to your home address. Think how he may know where your daughter lives.

Good luck. I have a daughter and a son. Boundaries must be taught from an early age to both sexes.

added (asked)