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I’ve had the shittiest day at work - please cheer me up 🥺

56 replies

User92737 · 15/05/2023 19:09

Change of username for this one.

I’ve had a crap day at work, so much so that I just broke down in tears on the phone to a friend.

Basically my manager told me that she is hiring for a new role that should naturally be the next step in my career. She has never tried to develop me and she is a bit of a micro-manager.

When I asked her if I was capable of doing the role, she said that I have strengths but things are missing. I disagree with this and even if things are missing, it’s because she never gives me a chance to just get stuck in.

I feel disheartened, insulted and upset. I’ve been wanting to leave for a while and am actively looking for a new role, but this seems like the final cherry on top of the cake.

I am seriously considering resigning so I have more time to find a job, but also I don’t think I can take any more of it.

I know it’s a risky move but life is so short and I already feel like I’ve wasted a couple of years in this place.

OP posts:
MushMonster · 16/05/2023 13:00

Apply anyway. Managers do not recruit on their own, so if the other members of the panel like you, you will still get it.
Keep looking for jobs, anyway.
Best luck with your search!

User92737 · 16/05/2023 15:09

Just had the meeting. I didn’t say anything. Just kept quiet. I find it all so false though.

OP posts:
swanling · 16/05/2023 20:18

I think that's just the way of working environments.

FrostBeDonePls · 16/05/2023 20:30

Detach emotionally, only do whats required off you.sign off at exactly 5. In the meanwhile apply for jobs and plan your exit. Its ok of you are out of work for sometime as long as you are looking. It might even be healing, sometimes thats what you need.

But. I agree with some here. Time to get out of this place. Life is too short for toxic colleagues

Chatillon · 16/05/2023 20:37


Remember that we are all just Volunteers. The best employers know this and they create environments that bring out the best in people. It is called leadership. Without doubt, leadership is the best quality any business can have. It is the defining quality.

Remember that you, I and every poster on this thread have many things in common. We all have to go to work. We all have to get up and leave our personal life whether that is to go to the home office or to a physical office. We all do these things.

But there is one thing I suspect none of us do in common. None of us walk through the same employer's door every morning. This is because we have over 5 million different doors we can walk into each morning. That is how many employers there are in the UK. You can choose which door you want to work into.

Go to a business with leadership and you won't look back. Eventually you will be employing people like you. And the whole world will have moved on for the better.

amispeakingintongues · 16/05/2023 21:21

Quietly quit. Do bare minimum for your role and save that extra energy on job applications.

No point telling her how she made you feel. She won't care and it will pigeonhole you, and alienate you.

Just try your best to take all emotion out of the job, and look to your future instead.

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