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Remembering BitOfFun

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RememberBee · 11/05/2023 17:25

The awesome BitOfFun died two years ago.
She loved this board and I just wanted her name on here at this time.
She was a friend of mine on here and in real life. When she passed there was a weird competition about who knew her best. Don’t even start with that shit. Just let’s remember an awesome human being.

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BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 11/05/2023 22:46

I did meet Bof very briefly at a MN London Meet Up.

Along with dozens of others over several occasions.

She was memorable. Luminous.

I loved her posts, she was very funny.

Thanks for thread *@RememberBee

Flowers Reality

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RememberBee · 11/05/2023 22:52

She was luminous. I miss her terribly.

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Reality · 11/05/2023 22:54

I just want to say, as well, that there was a weird bit on here when she died and hundreds of people posted condolences and ‘times she touched my life’ and some of us found that quite brutal at the time and it all kicked off a bit. Like people were being grief vampires.

But actually she was pretty fucking awesome and it’s no bad thing that people had their own grief. She had a way about her that made you feel like the most special person in the room; so no surprise that people who’d never met her felt like they knew her. It’s not a competition and I’m sorry if I was a bitch about it at the time.

powershowerforanhour · 11/05/2023 23:05

"Always used to hear her name in my head as 'Boff'. " me too and that always made me laugh in itself. BOFF!

"Lovely poster, a MN classic herself." also true.

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RememberBee · 11/05/2023 23:16

She’d have hated that thread @reality and how people were made to feel.

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ShowOfHands · 11/05/2023 23:22

Reality <squeeze>

Bee was indescribably brilliant. What a woman.

PerkingFaintly · 11/05/2023 23:24

Two years? How can it be that long?

Thanks for this thread, RememberBee.

Flowers
LunaNorth · 11/05/2023 23:35

I remember her posts and think of her often. Her portrait was breathtaking, and I remember her posting a beautiful photo of her and her DH dancing at their wedding.

I was awestruck at her bravery near the end. She posted saying that death wasn’t really anything to be afraid of…’the worst has happened, and I’m still me.’ So wise.

She managed to wring humour out of the very worst of times - she was a huge Line of Duty fan, and if I remember rightly, the priest who give her the last rites managed to make her smile by slipping in a reference to ‘Jesus, Mary, Joseph and the Wee Donkey.’

She knew how to live, and, more impressively, how to die. I’ll not forget her.

OrderOfTheKookaburra · 12/05/2023 00:09

I remember BOF, she wouldn't know me as I regularly name change, but I've been on here for over 15 years and regularly posted on the same threads as she did. I cannot believe it's been 2 years, how sad.

EconomyClassRockstar · 12/05/2023 00:11

BOF died?!!!

PrincessFiorimonde · 12/05/2023 00:12

I never met her, but I thought she was a great poster. Witty and warm, and quick to call out nastiness too.

Flowers to you, @RememberBee , @Reality and all BoF's family and friends.

EconomyClassRockstar · 12/05/2023 00:14

That's genuinely made me feel quite sad. I was off MN for years so missed a lot.

Reality · 12/05/2023 00:22

LunaNorth · 11/05/2023 23:35

I remember her posts and think of her often. Her portrait was breathtaking, and I remember her posting a beautiful photo of her and her DH dancing at their wedding.

I was awestruck at her bravery near the end. She posted saying that death wasn’t really anything to be afraid of…’the worst has happened, and I’m still me.’ So wise.

She managed to wring humour out of the very worst of times - she was a huge Line of Duty fan, and if I remember rightly, the priest who give her the last rites managed to make her smile by slipping in a reference to ‘Jesus, Mary, Joseph and the Wee Donkey.’

She knew how to live, and, more impressively, how to die. I’ll not forget her.

This is lovely.
I swear I’m not doing an ‘I knew her’ thing. But she won’t mind me sharing this. At her wedding (post diagnosis; and maybe bizarrely the most joyful wedding I’ve ever been to) that UTTER COW made me do a reading that no human could be expected to get through. I bossed it though. Tears be damned.

BeatriceBatchelor · 12/05/2023 00:25

She posted saying that death wasn’t really anything to be afraid of…’the worst has happened, and I’m still me.’ So wise

As soon as I saw this thread I remembered BOF saying that 🙂

AnyaMarx · 12/05/2023 00:36

I was gutted to hear of her passing even though I knew it was coming .

We were friends from here and chatted on the phone as both our eodests had asd.

She was a funny , vibrant lovely lovely woman and she is missed .

Flowers and a large vino to her memory x

AnyaMarx · 12/05/2023 00:37

Our last private messages were her saying how could she be sad when she was surrounded by so much love .

She was surrounded by love because she was so loveable .

frugalnecessity · 12/05/2023 00:50

What a lovely threat. Bitoffun was one of the kindest people I have ever come across. I didn't know her in real life but she was exceptionally kind to me on her through private message, and on Facebook, when I was going through a break up from an abusive relationship. I remember wondering then how she could have the energy and capacity to care about my comparatively minor problems to her dying. She never once complained and always saw the bright side to everything and had a brilliant sense of humour despite her sad situation. She was a people person and just totally full of love. I miss her a lot and think of her often. Her resilience and fortitude in the face of such adversity is something I often think about. What an incredible woman.

ApplesinmyPocket · 12/05/2023 01:05

I can't claim she knew me, but I knew her, and shortly before she died (I didn't realise) I posted something she replied to, with such sweetness and good humour I felt warmed by it all day through - in this place where there is so little kindness these days, she stood out.

BitterAndTwistedChoreDodger · 12/05/2023 01:14

I had a good online relationship with Bee, we used to argue about big dogs vs small dogs. I only met her in RL a couple of times.
I don't claim to know her well, but I am friends with many who did. From that I can guess what a good friend she was. I was actually thinking of her, and another friend I lost at the same time earlier.

God Bless, Bee, if you are in the general area near Rainbow Bridge can you give my dogs a squidge from me?

HannaHat · 12/05/2023 01:17

She was a great poster ❤️

AnyaMarx · 12/05/2023 01:30

This is going to sound stalkerish but I have a photo of her portrait in my album.

Lee is the most amazing artist .

I often wonder how her girls and he are .

She was really a one off . Now I'm getting all teary so I'm gonna go !

Happy heavenly anniversary to a beautiful soul.

Arewehumanorarewecupboards · 12/05/2023 07:04

She was a lovely poster on her. @RememberBee I hope that you are okay.

Jux · 12/05/2023 07:15

I will alwys remember BoF, and her pouffeofPoo and a wholeload ofother things. I think I crocheted a square for her too.

So sorry, to those of you who knew her well. 🌻 (I know sunflowers aren't traditional but they are very cheerful and might make you smile) xxx

BriarHare · 12/05/2023 07:20

She was a great MNer.

Like many others, I remember her husband’s amazing portraits of her.

newjobnewstartihope · 12/05/2023 07:24

I didn't know she'd passed what happened?
That's so sad