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Original poster

Tell me what I have forgotten to do or buy for my wedding?

48 replies

NoEffingWay · 10/05/2023 06:38

Just over three weeks to go and starting to think about the stuff I have forgotten to do!

I have ordered this week:

Seating charts
Menus
Stuff for the tables I probably don't need

I have confirmed:
Food
Band
Bar
Suits
Flowers

For reference-medium sized wedding in s hall I have to decorate myself.

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PermanentTemporary · 10/05/2023 06:44

Are you having a photographer?

Any transport issues?

Special dietary needs and communication about those sorted?

CultureAlienationBoredomandDespair · 10/05/2023 06:47

Have you tried your rings on? I wanted to practice putting ours on as I have larger knuckles and didn’t want my DH to struggle on the day. Turns out he’d actually put on weight and had to have his ring resized 2 days before the wedding! It never would have got on otherwise.

Unbridezilla · 10/05/2023 06:49

Confetti? Guest book? Order of service? Welcome signage if venue is unclear? A little bag with safety pins, plasters, paracetamol, period stuff etc just in case on the day?

All optional obviously!

Printed readings for those reading if they are. Timing plans printed & emailed to anyone helping with organisation: bridesmaids, ushers, caterers, photographer?

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ninetieseyebrows · 10/05/2023 06:53

Wedding cake!

AuntieJune · 10/05/2023 06:57

What's your partner doing? Why is it all on you?

You need a gang to decorate the hall, you can't do that by yourself. Rope in friends or family. Much quicker eg one up a ladder and one passing things.

LBF2020 · 10/05/2023 06:59

Supplier contact info printed out so someone else can deal with any issues on the day. Also if any suppliers require final cash payment on day make sure you have arranged someone to do that for you. Good luck 😊

LBF2020 · 10/05/2023 07:01

AuntieJune · 10/05/2023 06:57

What's your partner doing? Why is it all on you?

You need a gang to decorate the hall, you can't do that by yourself. Rope in friends or family. Much quicker eg one up a ladder and one passing things.

Adding to this. Get some easy food/drinks to sustain your team of helpers. We planned to go for dinner after setting up but didn't have time!

Mysa74 · 10/05/2023 07:03

What about undecorating and tidying up afterwards?

wateraddict · 10/05/2023 08:10

I had a guest who looked after me by bringing me soft drinks a few points in the day. We agreed it in advance. I was barely able to move talking to people and it saved me from a monster headache. Have a lovely wedding day, congratulations!

nurseynursery · 10/05/2023 08:11

Cake? Dress? Somewhere for cards and gifts? Cash out for anyone needing paying?

tikkanaan · 10/05/2023 08:13

Practiced your makeup if you are wearing it
Practiced your hair if you are doing more than brush it
Worn in your shoes
How are you getting there?

PuttingDownRoots · 10/05/2023 08:14

If you or future husband or both are changing your names, have a list of places.
Make sure you've given notice or other paperwork

Comfy shoes for later in the day.

Most of all... dont forget to enjoy it!

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 10/05/2023 08:16

When are you planning to decorate the hall?

Original poster
NoEffingWay · 10/05/2023 08:23

There's a small team of us to decorate the hall the afternoon before.

The bag of paracetamol, plasters is being added to the list now!

The timings of the day have been sent to some but not all-I sense an email being formulated Grin

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Original poster
NoEffingWay · 10/05/2023 08:25

@Mysa74 I have hired a cleaner to sort it out the next morning but my new husband and I will be undecorating the hall ourselves. There's a charity shop nearby that I suspect will be doing quite well out of us Grin

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Daftasabroom · 10/05/2023 08:26

A travel sowing kit (each)

DeflatedAgain · 10/05/2023 08:26

Cheap flip flops to put In the toilets for the evening.

By the end of the night a third of the female guests were no longer wearing their heels 😝

RaininginDarling · 10/05/2023 08:28

Also getting married in three weeks and so much appreciating this thread!

lemonyellows · 10/05/2023 08:31

Best advice I had was a bottle of water in the car after the ceremony on the way to the reception. We were so thirsty and just need water as parched.

Obviously not needed if all in same place.

Decorations - fairy lights look great.

Original poster
NoEffingWay · 10/05/2023 08:31

@AuntieJune DP is by my side, but I have a bit more time to deal with this stuff due to my work.

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M0rT · 10/05/2023 08:31

If you are doing guest books assign someone from each side to go around with it.
Also add Imodium to your paracetamol & plaster stash, better to have and not need.
I second the someone bringing you water or soft drinks. I kept being given alcoholic drinks that I had to keep "forgetting" on tables or I'd have been sloshed but no-one gave me water!
Have a great day!

Topbird29 · 10/05/2023 08:32

Any thank you gifts for wedding party? We got bridesmaid and ushers a bottle of favourite drink, and bouquet for each mother.
The main thing is to enjoy your day - it goes.by so quickly!

DeflatedAgain · 10/05/2023 08:37

Also a small tip - My friend went absolutely bridezilla about her wedding and planned everything meticulously. She spent the whole day stressing about timings and moving on to the next 'big' thing all day. In all honesty I don't think she fully enjoyed the day because of it. She was mega stressed (multiple tears along the way) by fitting too much in.

Make sure you relax and enjoy the day. Go with the flow and laugh at any hiccups that might happen. It's much more fun that way. 💍

BiddyPop · 10/05/2023 08:44

Take a few minutes to think about anyone you want to thank in speeches etc, whether that is you or DP actually speaking.

Have a think about what photo groups you definitely want to get (a nice snap of you and an elderly DAunt you don't often see, your small cousins playing together, DP and all their DSiblings,...) just so the photographer or someone who is good at photos will capture all those. Not just the formal portrait ones.

Have you thought about breakfast and proper food to keep you going until dinner? Or water and a non-mucky snack slid into the car or a handbag that you can grab if needed?

BiddyPop · 10/05/2023 08:47

And if there's a gang decorating the hall the day before, it might be a good idea to have something planned for there - tea/coffee and packets of biscuits, or soft drinks, maybe sandwiches.... just bits you can grab as you go to keep you all going while you are in the flow rather than someone having to run out for them. And then you can enjoy a final round of tea or whatever enjoying the beautiful space and getting excited for tomorrow