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Small(ish) lottery win - Do I keep it since they didn’t pay?

449 replies

swimmingforCB · 05/05/2023 20:02

We’ve had a family syndicate going for 6 months or so now. Few £10 wins etc but nothing big.

For the past 2 weeks, nobody has bothered paying in. They kept saying they’d do it next week, and then next week came and they said they’d do it that week. But everyone forgot again!

I won on Tuesday. Nothing OTT but a sizeable sum

If I keep it to myself, it’ll change my life. If I share it between the 4 of us, it’ll pay for a fancy holiday and that’s it.

What do I do? 😬

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Bobbliest · 05/05/2023 20:41

I think you should keep it and as others have suggested, share some with SIL. I’d also not mention the syndicate again or send any reminders. Enjoy! Sounds like you’ll make good use of it!

Middleagedandgrumpy · 05/05/2023 20:41

If you weren't part of this syndicate would you have bought the same number of lucky dip tickets? What was your view when you bought the ticket? Were you continuing to buy the same number of tickets as previously?

Folklore9074 · 05/05/2023 20:41

Keep it and don't say anything.

GellerYeller · 05/05/2023 20:43

I know someone who won the jackpot in a work syndicate and didn’t pay out to people who hadn’t paid in for a couple of weeks or so. No written agreement. The people who missed out went to solicitors and the ones keeping the winnings were advised to settle to avoid a protracted case and fees.

WickedSerious · 05/05/2023 20:43

Fuck 'em.

Enjoy your winnings OP.

EverydayEssentials · 05/05/2023 20:44

Regardless of what you decide to do, you should get this thread deleted OP before it gets picked up by the press and/or gets back to your family members!

Peachy2005 · 05/05/2023 20:44

As long as you’re not going to feel guilty, keep it for the kids for university, and don’t spend a penny of it otherwise or breathe a word of it, not even to your sister. Make sure your DH can keep it to himself too.

Get some rules in place if the syndicate is going to continue, if the others even want to continue. If they’re not in, they really can’t win!

KarmaStar · 05/05/2023 20:44

No,they couldn't be bothered to pay in so they don't win.keep it.

Kendodd · 05/05/2023 20:45

Don't mention the win.
Ask everyone to pay up by a certain date or you'll assume they have dropped out of the syndicate.
Those who pay what they owe get a share, those who don't pay up have dropped out and don't get any.

Tiddlypomtiddlypom · 05/05/2023 20:45

Keep it. It’s yours. More fool them for not paying. And do not tell them.

Emotionalsupportviper · 05/05/2023 20:45

swimmingforCB · 05/05/2023 20:02

We’ve had a family syndicate going for 6 months or so now. Few £10 wins etc but nothing big.

For the past 2 weeks, nobody has bothered paying in. They kept saying they’d do it next week, and then next week came and they said they’d do it that week. But everyone forgot again!

I won on Tuesday. Nothing OTT but a sizeable sum

If I keep it to myself, it’ll change my life. If I share it between the 4 of us, it’ll pay for a fancy holiday and that’s it.

What do I do? 😬

Keep it.

If they had missed a single week, I'd say share - but they haven't, and have made no attempt to pay.

The money is yours.

Enjoy it - but carefully so they don't twig. Leave it a few weeks before you attar spending anything (by which time they'll be a couple of months in arrears.)

Aworldofmyown · 05/05/2023 20:46

I would share it.

Emotionalsupportviper · 05/05/2023 20:46

EverydayEssentials · 05/05/2023 20:44

Regardless of what you decide to do, you should get this thread deleted OP before it gets picked up by the press and/or gets back to your family members!

GOOD ADVICE!

Gh12345 · 05/05/2023 20:47

I’d only share if they played. Their loss!

Ladysaurus · 05/05/2023 20:48

You can't go into a bookies and ask to to bet on the winner of a race already won. Therefore, they can't buy a lottery ticket for a lottery already drawn.

No pay no play.

If they had said 'ill pay you next week' for six months... Would you share then?

CheshireCat1 · 05/05/2023 20:48

If it was my family I’d share it.

cstaff · 05/05/2023 20:50

I used to run a syndicate in work but the email I sent every month would remind them to pay by Friday before lunch and if not you won't be included. We had a large win only 6 months after I started. A few people hadn't paid so they weren't included in the win. Sounds harsh but because I used the same line every month they knew there was nothing they could do.

thimblgattle167 · 05/05/2023 20:51

Couldn't do it. Would have to share

Snugglemonkey · 05/05/2023 20:51

edwinbear · 05/05/2023 20:17

Say nothing. Stop doing the syndicate and have a small win in a months time so you can share something with your sister in law

I’d do this.

I think this is what I would do too.

midnightblue12 · 05/05/2023 20:52

If it was me I'd keep it as I paid for it.
It I probably would give them a little treat/gesture with some fo the winnings (depending the value of course!).

ThereIbledit · 05/05/2023 20:53

Keep it, invest it wisely in something with spread risk. But you absolutely have to never breathe a word.

Queestuproblema · 05/05/2023 20:53

Keep it.

Happiestathome · 05/05/2023 20:55

As much as i would love to keep that amount, I would share it. The inevitable fallout isn’t worth the extra money.

GatoradeMeBitch · 05/05/2023 20:55

If you're going to keep it, don't tell them you won. It will ruin your relationships. Sit on the money for a good few months (except for any "invisible" spending like a new boiler), then tell them you won, but just casually whenever you see them, don't make an announcement.