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Anyone (married or Long term partnered) been away on their own?

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RaceToTheMiddle · 03/05/2023 21:35

I’ve been Googling Womens solo travel things. Like expeditions or weekend retreats.

Has anyone done anything like this? Obviously I love holidays my my husband and 3 kids… but just fantasising about a trip on my own.

I’ve turned 40 and feel like doing something for myself.

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BigglyBee · 03/05/2023 21:38

Yes, I recently started taking trips on my own and I love it. After 30 years of marriage and 4 kids, the sheer luxury of being on my own is amazing. Usually I only go for a weekend, but it really recharges my batteries.

bunhead1979 · 03/05/2023 21:43

Yes. Regularly for weekends since the kids were small. It’s marvellous doing as i please and not having to consider others for a few days!

FrozenGhost · 03/05/2023 21:47

Yes, I have. I'm 36, married with two young kids and I went on a three week trip by myself to South America last year. I really enjoyed it.

My DH was fine with it, and of course I encourage him to go on a trip or take time off in another way when he chooses.

Oblomov23 · 03/05/2023 21:48

Been going away with the girls, and on my own ti European cities for 10+ years.

GCWorkNightmare · 03/05/2023 21:50

We both do it all the time. He goes on cycling weekends all over the place. I go on city breaks for 4-7 days at a time. It’s bliss. Nobody asks me for anything, except to pay a restaurant bill. :)

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RaceToTheMiddle · 03/05/2023 21:51

These all sound great :)

My husband is on board with it. I am hoping it will happen one day, I wouldn’t want to take a family holiday opportunity away if that makes sense.

I love hill walking and mountains. I would absolutely love a long weekend doing this. No where lonely, would have to be safe. But I would really enjoy something like this.

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RaceToTheMiddle · 03/05/2023 21:52

Also going alone, no issues with childcare is there.

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mindutopia · 03/05/2023 21:52

I’ve never gone on an organised trip like that (as being stuck with a load of people I didn’t know sounds like my kind of nightmare), but I take at least one holiday a year on my own. Usually European city breaks or I’ll go to the coast for walking and swimming. I’m off for 10 days of walking a Camino in Spain in September. It’s wonderful.

DaftyLass · 03/05/2023 21:54

Yup, I go solo camping, hiking, and on weekend getaways. I need time by myself or I get bitchy.
I live on Vancouver Island, so lots of places to go off and explore on my own, and get a chance to recharge.

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RaceToTheMiddle · 03/05/2023 21:54

I do sometimes go away with my mum and/or sister.

But completely alone is a mix nice thought.

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Swishhh · 03/05/2023 22:20

I’ve been married 28 years and am going on a five day solo trip abroad next week. I’ve booked a big day out for one of the days and I’m going to use the spa and have booked treatment on all the other days. I’m really looking forward to it, time to concentrate on my self my time for some chilling.

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RaceToTheMiddle · 03/05/2023 23:09

@Swishhh have you booked this with a company that specialises/specifically sells solo trips? Or just put it together yourself. If you don’t mind me asking.

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Costacoffeeplease · 03/05/2023 23:18

I’ve been on several weekends away to lovely hotels with great restaurants and spas. My husband goes on annual golf trip and other ‘boy’s’ trips. I think it’s good for both of us.

Bitteraftertaste · 03/05/2023 23:36

Not totally alone, longest was 2 weeks in America, usually weekend. I’m off to a family wedding in my home town soon and I’m staying on for a week, he will return home same weekend. I’m staying with my mate who I shared with when we were really young.

UsingChangeofName · 03/05/2023 23:49

I've been away without dh loads of times - usually only a weekend.
I've not gone on a holiday completely on my own. I just prefer company. I don't mind a day wandering round a new place on my own then meeting up with someone in the evening, or alternatively I don't mind staying somewhere on my own if I've been doing something with others n the day, but don't really fane a week of being on my own.
I do fancy a retreat at some point, but I sort of feel that would be "with other people".
However, I do know quite a few people who have joined a trip for solo travellers, and many of them have been in a marriage or long term relationship but just with a partner who has no interest in that holiday.

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RaceToTheMiddle · 04/05/2023 08:10

@UsingChangeofName I do get what you mean about travelling with other people.

I’ve been away without Dh a fair bit with other family members. But not away completely alone.

I used to be a travel agent (before children) and went on Educationals meeting new people at the airport.

I do love my own company though and peace and quiet!

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FelicityFlops · 04/05/2023 10:12

When my husband was alive, I went to Tunisia for a week on my own. We were going to go together, but he had a sudden work commitment.
Since he died I have been on all holidays alone, so for nearly 20 years, and am off again on Sunday, longhaul, for 3 weeks. It is fine.

Bordey · 04/05/2023 10:22

I love holidaying by myself. Being able to do what you want, exactly when you want without having to discuss with anyone is so lovely. Highly recommend. But not on a tour, that's the very opposite of being alone. Maybe a day-long tour but surely a big organised holiday defeats the purpose of going away solo?

Good luck, maybe start local and for a wekeend if you're nervous. Do a coastal path local to you for a few days. Build up to going further.

QforCucumber · 04/05/2023 10:27

Never completely alone but have done many weekend city breaks with either 1 or a group of friends without him or the kids.
Centre parcs, Xmas shopping markets (Belgium and Germany) Amsterdam Barcelona, Madrid and Rome

BreviloquentBastard · 04/05/2023 10:33

Yes, I've always loved solo travel. I tend to go on a couple of small city breaks on my own a year, nothing exciting just a new place to mooch around on my own and enjoy some peace and quiet. Husband and daughter like big dramatic adventures so we do those sorts of hols together.

This year I've done Krakow and Budapest so far, and I've got Berlin, Gibraltar and Bruges coming up. Just 2-3 days wandering or relaxing in a new place refreshes me hugely.

Swishhh · 04/05/2023 11:48

RaceToTheMiddle · Yesterday 23:09
@Swishhh have you booked this with a company that specialises/specifically sells solo trips? Or just put it together yourself. If you don’t mind me asking
I booked a regular package holiday with EasyJet but just for one person.

Swishhh · 04/05/2023 11:50

I do really enjoy my own company and also travel a lot with my DH so I thought I’d squeeze in a solo trip.

Swishhh · 04/05/2023 11:51

FelicityFlops · Today 10:12
When my husband was alive, I went to Tunisia for a week on my own
Did you enjoy your week?

Tiredandknackered · 04/05/2023 11:54

Have been away to Balearics for a week to chill a few times…bloody love it ! Am planning big trip to NZ next year to travel around and meet up with my Kiwi bestie.

alittleadvicepls · 04/05/2023 11:55

I moved to Africa for a few months when I was younger and used to be a midwife. I only had one LO back then though. Not sure I could do it again now!

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