Sharing bedroom when have a spare room.

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My oldest son recently left home. I live in a council house. I now have 4 children at home. This means the kids could all have a room each. The 2 children who share are age 7 and 8. The 7 year old wants his own room . But the 8 year old does not . He has special needs and is a bit younger than his age . I don't want to cause him Any stress and upset. But also I want to be fair to the 7 year old .

I'm not sure if i should leave them sharing 7 year old has not said to much about it. Should I just leave them sharing and only do something if the 7 year old mentions it again?

Or should I set up the spare room to make it feel more welcoming and see if he naturally starts going in there .

Also the room they share is really big. But the spare room is pretty small . So then who gers what room.

I'd say if one of them wants their own room then yes. I'd give the 7yo the choice of having the smaller room or still sharing, as he's the one who wants their own room.
You could leave the beds in the bigger room for the time being so they can have "sleepovers" if they want to.

My cousins (boy/girl 2 years apart) shared out of choice for years, but when one of them (was the younger one) decided they wanted their own room, then they changed the spare room fairly quickly.

I don’t think it’s right to just ignore what he’s said and make him ask again, he’s only 7. He’s asked. Give him his own room. You are responsible for your 8 year old, not your seven year old,

No they shouldn't be sharing. It's unfair to your 7 year old. Your 8 year old will have to get used to it.

I hated sharing a bedroom but there was no option. If there had been a spare room and my parents hadn’t let me move into it I would have resented that for a long time.

Listen to your 7 year old, he is telling you he needs space. He’s not an emotional support human for another child.

Yes they are. It's their council house on a secure tenancy, and being able to have one child per room is not 'surplus'. FFS.

Yes I am

Are you drunk or just feeling particularly goady tonight? 😂😂

Isn't it a 5 bedroom house if all 4 children can have their own room and op presumably has a bedroom or am I misunderstanding something?

That's sounds like a good idea actually. That it might happen kind of naturally that way. Without it being a thing.

child who is keen to move gets the smaller room.

I wouldn't make your 7 year old continue to share for his brother's sake. Siblings of kids with additional needs need to be listened to.

7yo gets to choose between sharing big room or having little room to themselves as they're the one who wants to move.
If both wanted to move then who got the big room would be trickier.

I live in a council house. I now have 4 children at home. This means the kids could all have a room each

You live in a 5 bedroom council house? With 'only' 5 dc, before your eldest moved out?

That's...unusual.

I think I'm going to follow @MargaretThursday suggestion . I will set up the room so it's the 7 year olds room. But leave both beds in the larger room. I often go in their room and they are asleep in the same bed . And I just asked the 7 year old if he likes sharing with his brother . He said yes. So I think he may change his mind. But I will set the room up anyway so at least there's a choice .

Why don't you take the small room ?

My bed won't fit

Oh are you in the dining room?

Bedroom 1=dd 12 bedroom 2=ds16 bedroom 3= ds 20. Bedroom 4= 7&8 year olds. Bedroom 5.= mine

You were given a 5 bedroom house by the council?! That's a bit mad.

Why is that mad? If it was not me it would be another family similar to my own.

Bet the bedroom police's own children all have their own rooms

OP, sounds like you have a good way forward, please ignore those people.

She's got 4 children at home. Sex unknown. I'm sure she's entitled just as you are to the giant chip on your shoulder.

Why ?