I also have a family member who really really struggles to work because of health problems and her childrens health problems . But she does , every single day .
This is me. I do it because I just about can, so I should. I think many (NOT all, but many) who say they "can't" mean "it would be really hard", which is not the same.
You just get on with it. So many excuses from people when in reality many people COULD, they just don't want to.
Lots of us would like more time with our children, or more sleep, etc. But in reality for society to function and there to be sufficient money to fund decent education and healthcare, everybody who can work needs to work, as much as they can. When a large proportion of people decide not to it impoverishes everyone and makes life even harder for the small proportion of the population of only 20% (40% of 50%) who are the net contributors and are expected to pay more and more for others to do less and less.
Yet any comments on these basic economic facts are usually met with accusations of being heartless. I think it's pretty heartless to force others to pay such high taxes to fund you not working at all that they can have no work life balance and their families suffer for that. You can't have a society where some people only take and then gaslight those providing everything as being "heartless" for objecting to it.
I read a post on the thread the other day that I referred to saying it was fine to give up your job out of choice simply because you'd calculated that you'd get more in benefits. And that it was nobody else's business to comment on it. So unbelievably entitled and selfish and these types of people are the ones who will destroy the welfare state for everyone. They are the ones that have led to such awful conditions being imposed on the disabled, for example. There would be much more money to help those genuinely in need and improve public services for everyone if people were decent and honest and genuinely only took money from the state when there was no other option, rather than just because they are "entitled" to and not working would be nicer.