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Should I encourage DS to ‘give up’ a GCSE?

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Elisheva · 27/04/2023 21:54

DS starts his GCSEs in a couple of weeks time and he is getting increasingly anxious. He is not a natural scholar and finds study hard.
I am wondering whether to advise him to focus his revision on key subjects and effectively ‘give up’ on the others. Obviously he will still take the exams, but he is unlikely to get a high grade on them even if he works really hard so it seems sensible to focus his remaining time on improving the subjects he is good at. Or is that a crazy idea after spending two years studying a subject?

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EarlGreyAndCucumber · 30/04/2023 08:32

For those saying “you will never need to reference your GCSEs again,” I did a job for a foreign government recently, and had to list all my qualifications back to O Level, despite having three A Levels, a degree, and two postgraduate degrees.

Assuming that you will never need to reference them again may not be wise.

In the OP’s shoes, I’d have a word with the school and ask their advice.

Nimbostratus100 · 30/04/2023 08:37

WhoBird · 30/04/2023 06:57

So you’d bin my CV which shows that, in addition to my 6 GCSEs, I have 3 A A levels, degree from “good” university, and an MA in a subject related to my field of work? That seems pretty silly as a recruitment process! I honestly can’t say I ever look at people’s GCSEs when recruiting.

Also, it’s not “fraud” to leave out the resit history for any given GCSE from your CV!

I didnt say it was fraud to leave resits out of your CV. You can edit your CV any way you want.

I said it is fraud to leave resits out of an application form that asks for ALL GCSE grades, such as UCAS, and many others.

In this case it certainly is fraud, and you can be taken to court for fraud in your UCAS application.

LuckyDipForTheEuro · 30/04/2023 08:42

Drop it! We are focusing on maths and english and anything else is a bonus. College will take him on for engineering apprenticeship even with threes. My son is stressed out and just keeping him motivated to get into school is a challenge when they're thrashing them right up to the wire. He's not academic, a summer baby who will still be 15 when he finishes. It's a lot for them. He's had enough of school.

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2bazookas · 29/04/2023 22:02

DS starts his GCSEs in a couple of weeks time and he is getting increasingly anxious.

Of course he is. Even the brightest swots are getting anxious at this stage, it's normal. Remind him, all his pals feel like this. Nothing to do with ability .

I would caution you that getting top grades is not the main objective. There are more important things at stake here. Coping with stress (and even failure) is a lifeskill.

This is the first real grown-up challenge in life; and how he faces it sets a precedent for the many, many more to come. The first romance, driving lesson, interview, job, boss, work colleague banter are all scary experiences that everyone dreads, faces and survives. If he fails a couple of GCSE's the sky won;t fall in, he will survive and life will go on. Battle scarred but enjoying his triumphs all the more.

What's important, now, is that he doesn't just give up and melt like a snowflake in the sun; that he adjusts his mindset to something more like " I'll just Go For It, , try my best and hope for the best.".

The best way to help him through the next months is to have his back. Help him set some realistic timetable of revision time at home; broken down into segments of one or two hours at most at optimum time of day (not late at night); supported by you with a quiet space to study; breaks for snacks you provide , getting some fresh air, a change of scene if only to walk the dog, wash the car; see a pal; and making sure he gets a good sleep every night. gets up in time for a calm breakfast, sets off in good time for each exam with everything he needs. These model the lifeskills every new adult needs; to make a plan, have a strategy, follow it through, not lose heart.

Very well said!

Tigger72 · 30/04/2023 12:47

My son is currently A level exam year, it’s very risky going for minimum number of GSCE as the competition is fierce for Uni places, more then we realised.
For Leeds Finance courses some are having to send proof of GCSE Maths & English at grade 7 or above before getting an offer, he’s got his offer thank goodness but his friend only got his offer a few weeks ago as he had to send in certificates.
GCSE results certainly are counting for higher education so please don’t assume they won’t be.

TeenDivided · 30/04/2023 12:53

Tigger72 · 30/04/2023 12:47

My son is currently A level exam year, it’s very risky going for minimum number of GSCE as the competition is fierce for Uni places, more then we realised.
For Leeds Finance courses some are having to send proof of GCSE Maths & English at grade 7 or above before getting an offer, he’s got his offer thank goodness but his friend only got his offer a few weeks ago as he had to send in certificates.
GCSE results certainly are counting for higher education so please don’t assume they won’t be.

But surely in this case it would be better to sacrifice your 9th or 10th GCSE in order to get the English or maths grade up to the 7?

I agree though if getting 6,7,8s it may be better to entirely drop a subject coming in at grade 3 than take it and have the 3.

Mainly though (ie excl Oxbridge plus maybe 3 others) unis look at 'best 8' GCSEs if they look at them at all?

DarkVelvetySilkyShiraz · 30/04/2023 13:00

Definitely.

Much better to get solid grades in most than awful grades.

Definitely.

Tigger72 · 30/04/2023 13:11

Yes I agree, my post was replying to the poster who said no one bothers with GCSE results, I was wanting to advise it can effect their uni applications. I don’t think it linked as a reply 🙈

CarryMeToIreland · 30/04/2023 13:25

@Elisheva Don't forget that there is May half term in the middle of the exams which means your child can leave some of the revision until then for those exams after half term.

Both of mine had an exam timetable up but also a list of what papers were after half term. There are 7 days including the weekend for post half term topics. Plenty of time for final revision for those.

And yes, they can sacrifice one subject by not putting as much effort in as they could to bring up grades in other subjects.

Elisheva · 01/05/2023 21:42

Thank you, this has been so helpful. I think we’re going to focus more time on the core subjects but still do a little revision for RS and Geography, especially in the days just before the exams.
In the course of thinking about what’s best to do I’ve discovered that they haven’t even finished the curriculum for Geography yet, so that’s another thing to consider. They only finished Science the week before last so there’s obviously so much content to cover.

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