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If someone said "I've been married a long time" how long would you think is long time?

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jsnndjdj · 25/04/2023 21:21

Just out of curiosity really... how long is long to you? 2 years, 5 years? 20 years? What the minimum time that can be considered'a long time'

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MenoRageisReal · 25/04/2023 21:28

I agree it may depend on the age of the speaker but on average I'd say over 20/25 years would be long enough.

DisforDarkChocolate · 25/04/2023 21:29

30 years, I've been married 20 years and it doesn't feel like a long time.

embolass · 25/04/2023 21:30

20+

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doadeer · 25/04/2023 21:31

Depends on their age.

I'm early 30s and have been with DH for nearly 13 years, I think that's a long time as it's a big percentage of my life. But 13 years at 60 I probably wouldn't see as "long"

2chocolateoranges · 25/04/2023 21:32

I’d say over 20 years is a long time, doesn’t matter if you are 40 or 80 , 20 years is a long time.

Floralnomad · 25/04/2023 21:34

20+ years ,10 yrs isn’t long at all

Ovaeasy · 25/04/2023 21:36

50 years +

DH and I have been married 15 years (& married young) but it hardly feels like any time at all to me. I wouldn’t describe it as a long time.

I suppose I’m lucky to have a lot of examples of long and strong / successful (as in 50, 60 years and still happy together, looking forward to more) marriages in my family / social circle so that’s my starting point expectation wise. It would be different if all the role models I had were divorced.

Mumoftwoinprimary · 25/04/2023 21:36

I’ve been married nearly 23 years. It seems like a long time as it is over half my life.

weegiemum · 25/04/2023 21:37

I think I've been married a long time (in a good way!!) - I'm 52 and have been married 28 years. Got married at 24.

whatausername · 25/04/2023 21:39

20+ years

Oblomov23 · 25/04/2023 21:39

20+ years.

ThreeRingCircus · 25/04/2023 21:40

I think 15 years +

RelaxedPigeon · 25/04/2023 21:40

Over 25 years.

HideousKinky · 25/04/2023 21:48

I didn't start saying I'd been married a long time until it was 25 years or so

goingtotown · 25/04/2023 22:02

30 years.

DappledThings · 25/04/2023 22:05

At least 25 years. I'm on 11, doesn't feel long at all so far

cocobongo1 · 25/04/2023 22:05

Depends on how hard the marriage is 😂

SallyWD · 25/04/2023 22:05

20 years

YouNeverSeeTheRealMe · 25/04/2023 22:06

I've been married for almost 43 years. It's a VERY long time.

lemonsaretheonlyfruit · 25/04/2023 22:06

I guess it's all relative but my gut instinct said 15 plus

AuntieStella · 25/04/2023 22:07

20+ years

MrsMoastyToasty · 25/04/2023 22:12

My aunt and uncle were married for 74 years until my aunt passed away. That's a long time.

Aria2015 · 25/04/2023 22:13

20+ years.

sunshineandshowers40 · 25/04/2023 22:15

20 years

Twirlymoo · 25/04/2023 22:16

Over 20 years