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Anyone awake and want to keep me company?

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PositivePenny · 20/04/2023 03:36

I’m wide awake again, awful anxiety and due to commitments I’ll have next to no sleep for about the next few days anyway. Need to be up at 5.30am.

I’m so annoyed that I let my anxiety do this to me! So many times I’ve been prescribed medication and I get too anxious to even take it!

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FTMChar · 20/04/2023 03:41

Hey, I’m in the no sleep club too!
I’ll also be up around 5:30, I feel your pain. So sorry to hear you’re suffering with anxiety, I can really relate.
I’m chronically sleep deprived, my 9 month old just does. not. sleep. I’m a single parent and getting to my wits end!!

Circumferences · 20/04/2023 03:42

I might be for a bit.
Cats woke me up, but I need to get a bit of sleep hopefully by school run.

Is your anxiety related to work commitments?
Got pets?

Mumtobabyhavoc · 20/04/2023 03:43

Oh, no! That all sounds so distressing. I'm sorry you're feeling that way. It always seems to spiral middle of the night when we start watching the clock, doesn't it?

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PositivePenny · 20/04/2023 03:46

it’s an awful feeling! Like a vicious circle, anxiety means no sleep, no sleep means anxiety is through the roof the following day then at some point I crash and am fine for a few nights then the whole thing starts again 🤦‍♀️

Hopefully you’re lo will start to sleep soon for you, well at least enough for you to get some sleep!

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PositivePenny · 20/04/2023 03:49

No, it’s not particularly related to work. Think I’m just very on edge constantly and sometimes I can get it under control enough to get by then other times, like at the moment, it completely rules me.

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AllIeveknewonlyou · 20/04/2023 03:52

Sure, I'll be up for a couple of hours so happy to talk. Also stressed about next few days.

I was trying to watch Last Tango in Paris but I'm finding it hard hitting as the girl looks so young. So switched it off for time being.

What's on your mind?

AutumnNymph · 20/04/2023 03:52

Another one who is wide awake and needs to be up by 5:30. Perimenopause has a lot to answer for.

OP I was like you a few years ago and csn hand on heart say medication changed my life. I was on meds for around 2 years and have now been off them and coping well. Please talk to your GP and start on medication, it truly will help.

aroomwithaperfectview · 20/04/2023 03:55

Hello, why won't you take your medication ? I've been awake for over an hour now and I won't go back to sleep. I've just taken half an anti anxiety pill (Lorazepam) and it does really help me to feel more calm. My daughter called an hour or so ago, her usual time to call when she is feeling scared, confuses (too putvit mildly) and lonely. She's on a new medication since last Friday and I'm praying she sticks to it this time around. Her mental health is really bad and her condition is breaking my heart. I wouldn't be able to function without chemical help.

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PositivePenny · 20/04/2023 03:58

I really do need to bite the bullet and take medication. I get it, google it then read the horror stories. I’ve read that some anxiety medication can make you feel really awful for a few weeks and in some cases makes the anxiety worse. As I’m usually right in the middle of a period of high anxiety when I see gp, it scares me that I’ll feel even worse before I feel better. Maybe I need to ride this one out and see gp when I feel I can manage without medication?

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PositivePenny · 20/04/2023 04:01

I’m sorry that your daughter feels that way, how old is she? My daughter is 22 and I hope she’d feel she could call me in the night if she was feeling scared. It’s lovely that yours knows she can call you,

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VanillaSox · 20/04/2023 04:02

Same here.
Lots of stresses at the moment relating to exh/work/ghosting from troubled man I really love/ realisation trying on summer clothes tonight of weight gain/guilt at not being a good enough parent...self esteem at lowest.
Have to get up at 6 for full day of teaching.
Thank god for Mumsnet.

AllIeveknewonlyou · 20/04/2023 04:08

PositivePenny · 20/04/2023 03:58

I really do need to bite the bullet and take medication. I get it, google it then read the horror stories. I’ve read that some anxiety medication can make you feel really awful for a few weeks and in some cases makes the anxiety worse. As I’m usually right in the middle of a period of high anxiety when I see gp, it scares me that I’ll feel even worse before I feel better. Maybe I need to ride this one out and see gp when I feel I can manage without medication?

I don't think medication is for everyone. My friend got downright aggressive on sertraline which was a new change.

If you have a good gp discuss it with them and explain your fears. If you don't, switch gp!

Agii · 20/04/2023 04:10

Me too. I'm up all night due to stupid anxiety. Apparently it's Solar eclipse(not seen from the UK), but can impact your anxiety. And oh yes, it has wrecked my sleep for 3 nights.

aroomwithaperfectview · 20/04/2023 04:13

PositivePenny · 20/04/2023 04:01

I’m sorry that your daughter feels that way, how old is she? My daughter is 22 and I hope she’d feel she could call me in the night if she was feeling scared. It’s lovely that yours knows she can call you,

She's 25. In fact my phone was switched off so she called my partner but I was able to listen to their conversation. My partner can go straight back to sleep, he's used to getting calls from work when he's on call. I, on the other hand, went downtairs, let the dogs out in the garden and had two coffees already. My daughter knows she can call us anytime. She lives 5 hours away but last Thurday night she called me in the middle of a really bad mental health crisis at 2.30 am and I had to call the emergecy line for her and she was taken straight away to A&E.

BCBird · 20/04/2023 04:13

Morning to.all.of you. I had less than.4h sleep as was woken.by a hot flush. Need to be up at 4.45 and probably at work till 7 as got parents' evening. Add to.this stomach pain,gallbladder issues or something else,fibromyalgia pain and grief re bereavement, then it's no wonder I can't sleep. Let's hope we all get some peace soon.

EssexMamisoa · 20/04/2023 04:18

Always up here with a five month dc.

Is there anything that triggers your anxiety?

Bodenesque · 20/04/2023 04:21

Too much caffeine and chronic hay fever is keeping me awake. That feels so much easier than what some of the rest of you are experiencing.
I'm at the stage of wondering whether to abandon any hope of of sleep and start reading.
This is the first time in several weeks that I've not had a twinings sleep teabag before going to bed and I'm convinced they do make a difference.

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PositivePenny · 20/04/2023 04:22

Agii · 20/04/2023 04:10

Me too. I'm up all night due to stupid anxiety. Apparently it's Solar eclipse(not seen from the UK), but can impact your anxiety. And oh yes, it has wrecked my sleep for 3 nights.

I’ve only recently heard about the moon (obviously, I’ve known about it 😂 just not the effect on anxiety!) got to say, I kind of believe it - or it’s just a massive coincidence that any time I’m anxious like this, the moon is in a phase!

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PositivePenny · 20/04/2023 04:24

EssexMamisoa · 20/04/2023 04:18

Always up here with a five month dc.

Is there anything that triggers your anxiety?

It can be anything! I think the main issue is being alone, particularly at night! If I didn’t have to go to work tomorrow I can guarantee that I could fall asleep as soon as it starts getting light out or I notice the neighbours are up and about.

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PositivePenny · 20/04/2023 04:26

BCBird · 20/04/2023 04:13

Morning to.all.of you. I had less than.4h sleep as was woken.by a hot flush. Need to be up at 4.45 and probably at work till 7 as got parents' evening. Add to.this stomach pain,gallbladder issues or something else,fibromyalgia pain and grief re bereavement, then it's no wonder I can't sleep. Let's hope we all get some peace soon.

Oh, sounds like you’re having a rough time 💐💐

Hopefully parents’ evening goes well, all parents keep to their allotted time and thank you for doing an amazing job!

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PositivePenny · 20/04/2023 04:29

Bodenesque · 20/04/2023 04:21

Too much caffeine and chronic hay fever is keeping me awake. That feels so much easier than what some of the rest of you are experiencing.
I'm at the stage of wondering whether to abandon any hope of of sleep and start reading.
This is the first time in several weeks that I've not had a twinings sleep teabag before going to bed and I'm convinced they do make a difference.

I’ll be adding sleep teabags to my shopping list!

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Oneglassisnotenough · 20/04/2023 04:30

Sorry to hear this op. I am in the same boat as you as I suffer with it as well and will not medicate as I am scared to take the medication prescribed. It’s awful. Anxiety is a debilitating and terrifying thing and I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.
I am also peri menopausal which is utterly vile and I am struggling with that.
Huge worries about my marriage and I suffer with GAD and OCD so all fun and games. 😫
Sending hugs 🤗

ButterfliesnWaterfalls · 20/04/2023 04:32

I’m up too. Hope you’re okay OP.
I woke up at 3am to eat for Ramadan and now can’t fall back to sleep 😢

Oblomov23 · 20/04/2023 04:35

I've been awake all night. My back, where I fell over 9 weeks ago is killing me. I also have a lump on my calf the size of a pea, sending shooting pains up and down. This is the 2nd night I haven't slept. 13 week wait to see MSK clinic. I drove to A&E in desperation. Couldn't park. Will go to Tesco when it opens at 7am to buy sleeping pills.
I would give quite a lot of money, all I had, for someone to just switch my brain off, have a GA so I could sleep for 2 days, not wake up. I handle pain ok, but this has destroyed me. 3 different painkillers from GP have done nothing.

TheRealKatnissEverdeen · 20/04/2023 04:36

I need to start the Twinings sleep teas again too.

This is my third week without acupuncture for perimenopause and I've noticed the difference particularly with sleep. I've been up for the past 90 mins.

Could you afford (time or money) to do an alternate therapy to see if that helps OP?