Are people as tough on their kids as they say they are?

[CurlewKate]

I do wonder if people are as tough on their kids as they say they are on here and as they advise other mumsnetters to be? Because I know I'm not! And it does seem that anyone who admits to being a bit soft on their kids is jumped on and told they are "doing them no favours." I believe passionately in modelling kindness. I think you learn more and better lessons from that than from toughness. And I suspect that many others are the same, but feel it's not acceptable to admit to it.

I don't punish my dc. Never have. Maybe a couple of times I picked them up and removed them from a room when they hit someone when little, and then sat with them somewhere else, but that wasn't intended as a punishment. I don't see punished dc as particularly helpful. I just find modelling behaviour and talking things through more effective.

My dc are well behaved at school, pleasant dc who aren't running amok.

I would also always take them forgotten items or whatever if I could. The world is hard enough without me choosing to make it harder for my dc.

But, I'd never claim to be hard line on mn. I'm honest about how I parent.

I think it depends on the child. Some children need fairly minimal encouragement to behave. Some need a lot more.