Oh isadora, and that’s precisely WHY you don’t give a second thought to other people’s preferences .
YOU have never had dog shit put through your door, or NOT been interviewed for a job, or told you have low IQ because of your beautiful green eyes. You are secure in the beauty of your colouring, and of your place in society, as judged by your colouring, and your gorgeous eyes.
One of my oldest childhood friends, on the other hand, with her beautiful big brown eyes, and as the child of Asian parents with dark eyes and brown skin, has received all of the above at some point.
Her brother committed suicide at 22 since he couldn’t stand the racism, the people who couldn’t bear him, wanted him to go fucking home (even though England was the only home he had). I’m still so angry for what he had to BEAR. His sister sank into such depression, she’s still not out of it, even though she tries.
You must realise that most people from Asia and Africa and the Middle East have brown eyes, so by saying you can’t bear their eye colour, you are also saying, at least at some level, you can’t “bear” the looks (or windows of the soul) of a great swathe of people, not simply maligning the looks of Europeans with brown eyes (from dame Deborah james to Julia Roberts).
Life is sweeter when you tell us what you do like. Also, think about whether what you say has any merit. There are ugly and beautiful eyes of every shade. It’s wonderful and healthy that you love your green eyes, focus on telling us about that. You may not have meant to trigger a conversation about racism by your apparently innocent comment. But it is a massively thoughtless comment, since people with brown eyes have died for their colouring. I’m not even sure if this post will even have an impact on you. I’m writing it in honour of my friend, who died because people couldn’t “bear” the way he looked.