Don’t want to go on holiday with family

[Rosebean]

We are going on holiday with DH’s family in a few months time to a beach resort in Spain. They asked us to go with them and it’s all booked and paid for.

I just don’t want to go. We are simply not beach/lying around a pool people (they are and will sulk if we leave the resort to sight-see) and what possessed us to agree is beyond me; the only benefit is for all our DC to holiday together.

What makes it worse is that I absolutely hate myself right now and the size I have become. I used to be a 10 and I’m now an 18. I look and feel vile and definitely don’t want to be seen in a swimsuit by SIL who is a size 8 and likes to look me up and down when fully clothed so heaven knows what she will think of me in a swimsuit. I’ll be the only fat person in the family group.

I guess it’s brought it to a head today as we visited FIL and he handed out Easter eggs to everyone but he gave me a box of Slim-Fast choc bars. I nearly died of shame. I left them there at his house. I am so upset and humiliated and I just don’t want to go on this holiday. To not go would cause WW3. I just don’t know what to do anymore and it’s just another thing that I feel so down about. I think I may be in perimenopause but everything is getting me down. How am I going to cope on this holiday? 😢

That was pretty nasty. I’d make up something and not go in your books if you really want to avoid confrontation. And tell Dh he completely let you down on the Easter front so if he doesn’t stand up for you next time you will set him free to find someone he is willing to prioritise, in between his single parenting contact time. That’s if you ever speak to his parents again.

What the fuck did your husband say to the spiteful old cunt he calls a father?

And what’s all this WW3, business? Who will kick off, exactly?

Don’t do it. Don’t do that to yourself. They sound like foul people, and until I hear otherwise, I am assuming your husband is too.