When do you put baby to bed and not keep them downstairs with you?

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Little one is 9 weeks old.

so far we have just been putting her to bed in the Moses basket in the front room while we eat and relax and then just taking her upstairs when we got to bed.

Im starting to think TV and downstairs noise is more disturbing to her the older and more alert she gets. Also she is really filling her Moses basket!

at what age did you start putting baby to bed upstairs? I know recommended to keep baby with you at all times until 6 months but I obviously don’t want to go to bed at like 7-8pm.

What did you do?

With my first... six months but it didn't work very well after about 3 months because the noise was overstimulating and she'd just stay awake and get really grumpy. But I thought I had to stick to the guidelines.

With my second i have put them to bed in our room at 8 o'clock since birth. We live in a small flat now so I feel happier to do it. She sleeps perfectly and it's so much less stressful for everyone than last time around.

Are the ones who sleep soundly in their own room actually more at risk, because they might not regulate their breathing? I assume it is one of the design faults with babies that they have to come out early because of the size of their heads, but they are too young to completely regulate their breathing properly, which in very rare instances lead to SIDS

6 months - slept in carrycot on pram until I went to bed

I think it was around 3 or 4 months. I think before that I could barely stay awake anyway so baby would stay in lounge while DH watched TV and I'd have a few hours sleep. Eventually when I was able to stay awake a but longer then baby would go in our room and we would get to watch some TV together 😅

We’ve just started doing this at 7 months with our little girl. She will sleep through anything though so her being down with us wasn’t a problem.

I waited until the recommended six months and then used a video baby monitor. Newborn babies can't tell the difference between night and day and they are used to all of those noises in the daytime, evening noises won't make any difference to a small baby.

The goal is not to get a small baby to sleep long and deeply, no matter how much better that would be for us!

We’ve actually only just started putting DC2 down upstairs for bedtime in the last couple of weeks at the age of 9 months. Partly just because we got in the habit of keeping her down with us, and because her most unsettled bit of the night was always the first 90 minutes or so of her sleep, we preferred to be able to resettle her in front of the tv downstairs together rather than one of us running upstairs to a dark room. She’s only just at the point though where she was disturbed by our noise in the evening so it just made sense to keep her with us. She does now go down to sleep upstairs at the same time as her 3 year old sister but we still keep naps downstairs amongst the chaos and noise. Luckily she’s pretty chilled and will sleep when she’s tired regardless of what’s going on. We also have a travel cot downstairs that doubles as somewhere for her to nap, and somewhere we can plonk her to play with her toys if we need her in a safe space.

Do what works for you and your family. My first daughter was far more high maintenance with sleep and I do admit that actually I would go up to bed with her at 8pm from about 4m-6m as she C wouldn’t sleep downstairs and I wanted to play it safe with the guidance.