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Why didn't you want children?

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Peckhaminn · 03/04/2023 21:37

As the title says, I've never wanted children, never felt broody, not a big fan of children in general and I just want to hear success stories from people who made the decision to carry on their life without children. Did you ever regret it? Or did you one day wake up and think 'yes I do want them' and then did?
I'm late 20's and I just don't see it being apart of my future, but have the fear of regretting it later down the line.

TYIA

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ShakeYourFeathers · 04/07/2023 18:36

I don't like the idea of looking after kids full time 24/7... I like handing them back

I do occasionally feel broody but not that often and not for long

I have very valid reasons why I might not even be able to have kids and I don't want to get hopes up

But at the end of the day I'm far to selfish to raise kids

ChaToilLeam · 04/07/2023 18:41

Never wanted them and never had them. I am so happy with that choice, I find young children in particular shrill and demanding and annoying. They generally improve with age, but still…Being an aunt and godmother is enough for me.

katscamel · 04/07/2023 18:52

Far too selfish.....and impatient. Like being able to do what I want when I want including working overseas.

louderthan · 04/07/2023 18:53

The idea just never appealed. I've always just thought 'why on earth would I want to do that?!'
I don't want to be pregnant, I don't want my body to change, I don't want to give birth and I don't want to be responsible for a child. I can't think of anything good about any of those things.

Spanielsarepainless · 04/07/2023 19:31

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 04/07/2023 18:28

That was what decided me. Instant aversion therapy when I was fifteen. Sixty nine now and have never wavered.

I'm glad you posted that because sometimes I've wondered if I actually imagined those films.

We were eleven! I'm sixty now. Never wavered here either. I certainly didn't want them coming out the way they went in, so to speak. A sort of vicarious PTSD.

MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 04/07/2023 19:40

We were eleven!

😮Bloody hell.

Oldnproud · 05/07/2023 09:49

Spanielsarepainless · 04/07/2023 19:31

We were eleven! I'm sixty now. Never wavered here either. I certainly didn't want them coming out the way they went in, so to speak. A sort of vicarious PTSD.

Here too - last year at primary. I heard that some of the parents went ballistic. It didn't put me off having children in the end, though..

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