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Taking family member to court

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Harisachick · 02/04/2023 16:52

Me and DH have gathered evidence with regards to a family member who has harassed us because we spoke the truth about a crime her DH committed. We have evidence of this too. We believe we have a strong case. Friends have said we should let it go however she has played innocent for too long and accused us of things which are completely banal. Aibu!?

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SeasonFinale · 02/04/2023 17:01

Depends on the level of harassment and what you hope to achieve. A Protection from Harassment order doesn't automatically mean they would be arrested if they continue to do so but if you have the money to pursue it and want to get legal advice

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Harisachick · 02/04/2023 17:11

Yes we have the moenynt

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Hadalifeonce · 02/04/2023 17:15

What are you trying to achieve by this action?

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Harisachick · 02/04/2023 17:23

Sorry we have money and brother is in legal profession so that helps. She basically made false accusations against us as she was a annoyed we found out about her DH.

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Harisachick · 02/04/2023 17:24

We have proof about her DH when she accused us of lying about it!

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FirstnameSuesecondnamePerb · 02/04/2023 17:28

What do you want to achieve? What outcome? If you can't get that, you might as well set fire to 50 quid notes.

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Harisachick · 02/04/2023 17:29

Proof to the rest of the family that she lied and two accounts!

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Calling · 02/04/2023 17:33

Has the person stole your money?

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 02/04/2023 17:37

If its vindication thats important to you why not just show wider family the evidence.

I'm not entirely sure what it is you want to take her to court for? Harassment?

I think you should get legal advice, but think very carefully about what you want to get out of this, and how you might feel if it doesn't go your way.

It sounds like a difficult situation regardless. How would this affect wider family dynamics? How would it affect the next generation and your parents?

Allthingsbrightandbeautifulx · 02/04/2023 17:42

Save yourself money and just send a group chat to your family with your evidence regarding her Husband.

Vodkaislethal · 02/04/2023 17:44

Allthingsbrightandbeautifulx · 02/04/2023 17:42

Save yourself money and just send a group chat to your family with your evidence regarding her Husband.

This..

MichelleScarn · 02/04/2023 17:46

Do you mean you are doing this as a civil thing? Have you reported to police and this is issue or talking about them on sm and to others?

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Harisachick · 02/04/2023 17:46

Yes of course we’d have done that but they can’t see her doing any wrong and they’ll just say we fabricated it. I think they’d only believe it if it was in a court setting! It’s sad but unfortunately true.

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Nailsandthesea · 02/04/2023 17:47

Vodkaislethal · 02/04/2023 17:44

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Bepis · 02/04/2023 17:50

Harisachick · 02/04/2023 17:46

Yes of course we’d have done that but they can’t see her doing any wrong and they’ll just say we fabricated it. I think they’d only believe it if it was in a court setting! It’s sad but unfortunately true.

Are you wanting to bring a claim for harassment under the Protection from Harassment Act 1997?

What would be your claims of harassment?

Are you seeking for her to be stopped in her harassment towards you or has it already stopped?

Theunamedcat · 02/04/2023 17:51

If its really really Important to you to be right and vindicated then...do it im sick to death of the liar's who scream the loudest being believed and truth tellers being punished it pisses me off on a personal level

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Harisachick · 02/04/2023 17:55

Exactly

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Harisachick · 02/04/2023 18:00

@Theunamedcat that’s exactly it! Thank you!!!

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LakeTiticaca · 02/04/2023 18:04

What did the DH do? Was he convicted and sentenced?
If so, very easy to Google local court reports

teacakie · 02/04/2023 18:05

Harisachick · 02/04/2023 17:29

Proof to the rest of the family that she lied and two accounts!

You say you have the proof so why not present it to family and miss out the courts

JulieHoney · 02/04/2023 18:08

You’d be a mug to go through the courts.

It would cost thousands (tens of thousands?). It would entrench beliefs, not open them up. It’s risky and even if you won it’s a pyrrhic victory.

Move on. Living well is the best revenge.

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Harisachick · 02/04/2023 18:11

@JulieHoney true yes absolutely. But I can only quote @Theunamedcat . Justice.

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Harisachick · 02/04/2023 18:11

LakeTiticaca · 02/04/2023 18:04

What did the DH do? Was he convicted and sentenced?
If so, very easy to Google local court reports

No unfortunately was never caught!

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ShimmeringShirts · 02/04/2023 18:13

So all you want to achieve is to prove to your family that a family member has done something wrong and they lied? I can’t imagine having enough money to think throwing thousands at proving someone had lied just for the shits and giggles. But go ahead and do it, waste your money and cause a family rift.

Zuffe · 02/04/2023 18:26

Harisachick · 02/04/2023 17:23

Sorry we have money and brother is in legal profession so that helps. She basically made false accusations against us as she was a annoyed we found out about her DH.

Should you involve your brother directly in this matter if he is in the legal profession? What would the Law Society have to say if things did not go to plan and he was found to have acted inappropriately? He will have certain protocols to follow if he knowingly believes a third party has committed a criminal offence.