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£70k job offer - help

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bonnefemme · 01/04/2023 20:18

I applied for a job. It's a hybrid position. It's wfh and 1-2 days/week in the office. There was no salary indication on the ad but similar jobs are advertised for £50k-£60k.

I went through a lengthy recruitment process. They asked me what salary I wanted and I asked for £70k. I thought they would negotiate and we could agree on £60k-£65k. But they agreed to £70k!!!

The working hours are 9 to 6 with an hour lunch. All my other jobs have always been 9 to 5 or 5.30.

What should I take into account to make the right decision?

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name985 · 01/04/2023 20:20

I don't understand the question?

mynewusername2023 · 01/04/2023 20:21

What is the commute on the office days?

If you're at home most of the time, sounds fine to me.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 01/04/2023 20:21

surely the question is do you want to work 9-6 for the money?
I recently job hunted, there was a lot of money being offered for 5 days back in an office- wasn’t worth it for me. But then an extra 30mins a day was worth the extra money my new role offered.

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ZebraKid71 · 01/04/2023 20:23

I don't really understand your question, but for me it would depend on the salary you are on now? From your post I am assuming it is less than 70k so the question becomes are you willing to give up an hour of your day to work for more money?

teneastereggs · 01/04/2023 20:25

Is it a stealth boast?

Snowjokes · 01/04/2023 20:26

I don’t get the question. Why wouldn’t you take it.

namechange3394 · 01/04/2023 20:26

Could you do 9-5:30 with half hour lunch instead or is it fixed?

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bonnefemme · 01/04/2023 20:27

Apologies, I missed the crucial part. I have a 9 months old baby and have 2 other school aged children. My question is would you give up time with your children for the money.

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Tiggal · 01/04/2023 20:27

I don’t understand the question either? Is it the working hours? 9-6 is a bit of a long day.

GoodChat · 01/04/2023 20:27

Take into account the fact you're getting paid £20k more than you expected to do a job where you have to work slightly extra each day.

Assuming you're taking a massive pay increase, you'd be mad to let this pass you by.

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bonnefemme · 01/04/2023 20:28

mynewusername2023 · 01/04/2023 20:21

What is the commute on the office days?

If you're at home most of the time, sounds fine to me.

Commute is 1.5 hours each way

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bonnefemme · 01/04/2023 20:29

GoodChat · 01/04/2023 20:27

Take into account the fact you're getting paid £20k more than you expected to do a job where you have to work slightly extra each day.

Assuming you're taking a massive pay increase, you'd be mad to let this pass you by.

Exactly this... It's £20k more than I expected but for an hour extra each day. Basically, I won't have the time with the children after school.

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Clymene · 01/04/2023 20:30

Ouch that's a long commute. You'll be home after bed time. Do you have a nanny?

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bonnefemme · 01/04/2023 20:30

teneastereggs · 01/04/2023 20:25

Is it a stealth boast?

I don't mean to be incentive but I live in the south. It's £20k more than what I expect but only like £12k after tax. And then I will need to factor commuting into work and childcare costs.

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daisychain01 · 01/04/2023 20:31

3 hours just to get to work and back would put me off. If it was twice a month OK but twice a week no way.

plus the risk they entice you with hybrid working then insist at least 2 days a week in the office.

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bonnefemme · 01/04/2023 20:31

Clymene · 01/04/2023 20:30

Ouch that's a long commute. You'll be home after bed time. Do you have a nanny?

We will need a nanny... and that's quite expensive too.

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enjoyingscience · 01/04/2023 20:32

Could you ask now about compressing your lunch? An hour is a long lunch. If you explain the commute and say you’d rather do 9-5:30, or even better, 8:30-5:00 with a 30 min lunch?

enjoyingscience · 01/04/2023 20:33

And get the hybrid bit in your contract for max 2 days a week. If it’s not in your contract it’s a favour that can be taken back.

Comedycook · 01/04/2023 20:33

What's your current salary and working hours?

GoodChat · 01/04/2023 20:34

Are the hours completely inflexible?

Kisskiss · 01/04/2023 20:36

Your question is really weird - you knew about the commute , the hours , the offfice/wfh split and the job scope.. you asked for a specific salary and they agreed…..
if you were uncertain because of things you uncovered during the interview process like company culture.. the people you met etc that would make more sense to be in a quandary now, but as it stands, you applied for something and got what you applied for…

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bonnefemme · 01/04/2023 20:37

Kisskiss · 01/04/2023 20:36

Your question is really weird - you knew about the commute , the hours , the offfice/wfh split and the job scope.. you asked for a specific salary and they agreed…..
if you were uncertain because of things you uncovered during the interview process like company culture.. the people you met etc that would make more sense to be in a quandary now, but as it stands, you applied for something and got what you applied for…

I know... I didn't think I would actually get the job! To me £70k sounded like a lot of money. In practice, it does not cover my extra expenses. My own mistake.

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NonJeNeRegretteRien · 01/04/2023 20:37

bonnefemme · 01/04/2023 20:27

Apologies, I missed the crucial part. I have a 9 months old baby and have 2 other school aged children. My question is would you give up time with your children for the money.

I would ask what flexibility they have. Like someone upthread said can you take 30 minutes for lunch, can you bring your day forward? I think time with your children isn’t negotiable and you’ll all be a little less happy if you take the role as is without talking about the wiggle room in hours.

E.g. I work 9-5pm if I wfh but 8-4pm if I’m in the office. I don’t like to be home later than 5:30 really.

Kfjsjdbd · 01/04/2023 20:38

I’ve been in this position (or a similar one) and negotiated the hours. So I did early mornings in the office, my DH did the nursery run, then a shorter lunch to be able to leave at a reasonable time.

With the extra £20k could you do it for 6 months then apply for 80% hours, which would then mean you were doing far fewer hours for the same £ as full time but a lesser wage?

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bonnefemme · 01/04/2023 20:39

enjoyingscience · 01/04/2023 20:33

And get the hybrid bit in your contract for max 2 days a week. If it’s not in your contract it’s a favour that can be taken back.

It's not in my contract. It's in writing via email but contract says "flexibility at manager's discretion"

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