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Left a job three years ago - replacement still asking questions

47 replies

Anotherloverholeinyohead · 01/04/2023 16:08

I resigned from a job three years ago due to stress, bad pay and not feeling valued.

Gave one months notice and a replacement was found within that month and all paper work etc handed over.

Since then my replacement has contacted me via email (I changed my phone number) on numerous occasions asking for guidance, advice etc. on the last two occasions I have not replied (just seeing the email address fills me with dread) and the emails are getting more stern in tone asking g for advice.

I've had enough, I can't cope with the emails, I don't want anything to do with the charity anymore I've told her I can't help anymore but the message is not getting through. The position was self employed so no boss to refer to.

Any advice on what to say to make this all stop?

OP posts:
Hadalifeonce · 01/04/2023 16:09

Just wondering why you haven't blocked the email address?

saveforthat · 01/04/2023 16:10

Just continue to ignore would be my advice.

mum2jakie · 01/04/2023 16:11

Block the email address. Life's too short

Tealsofa · 01/04/2023 16:11

Ignore and report as spam

Alternatively tell them to fuck off and stop bothering you

Or a 3rd option, give them your hourly rate

VeryApple · 01/04/2023 16:11

Block them.

Weallgottachangesometime · 01/04/2023 16:11

Block the email address.

BCBird · 01/04/2023 16:12

Well I would expect to get paid in a consultancy capacity. That is a absolutely ridiculous. Would imagine it magnifies any stress for you.
Politely e mail stating that you no longer work for the company and as such wish them.to terminate any contact with you.
I'd wish them.well,not that you have to but it might prevent any arsey response. Good luck

maranella · 01/04/2023 16:12

Block email address. Report as spam.

CluelessHamster · 01/04/2023 16:12

Send a stern reply of your own saying you are unable to help and after three years it's beginning to feel like harassment and you will be blocking the email address.

BCBird · 01/04/2023 16:13

That even better. Block the e mail. I didn't suggest that because I didn't know you could

bussteward · 01/04/2023 16:18

“Stop contacting me. I am blocking your email and will not respond again.”

bluebottle23 · 01/04/2023 16:21

What industry was your old job?

bluebottle23 · 01/04/2023 16:22

Sorry saw it was a charity. I would just ignore and block email address x

LighterNights · 01/04/2023 16:24

BCBird · 01/04/2023 16:12

Well I would expect to get paid in a consultancy capacity. That is a absolutely ridiculous. Would imagine it magnifies any stress for you.
Politely e mail stating that you no longer work for the company and as such wish them.to terminate any contact with you.
I'd wish them.well,not that you have to but it might prevent any arsey response. Good luck

Say you're willing to negotiate a consultancy fee and see how fast she disappears.

drpet49 · 01/04/2023 16:25

Why have you let this carry on for 3 years????

coffeemoon · 01/04/2023 16:25

Just politely reply saying that, as you left the company three years ago, things have changed and moved on in that time, and unfortauntely you are not able to give advice in this capacity any more.

Wish her all the best in the role, then stop responding and if necessary block her.

Justalittlebitduckling · 01/04/2023 16:27

Tell them if the company wants to hire you as a consultant you’re willing to discuss rates, but since you ceased working at the company some time ago you are no longer able to provide your services. Formal, curt but not impolite.

literalviolence · 01/04/2023 16:30

If you want extra money and feel able to, I'd suggest an appropriate consultancy fee (minimum £50 per hour or part thereof - more of course depending on the salary and industry). If you don't want to get into that then email and say you are no longer able to help and request no further requests to do so.

Hillrunning · 01/04/2023 16:33

3 months is the absolute longest I would have allowed such crap to go on. What possible questions can they have? There must be someone else to contact to put and end to this.

Brefugee · 01/04/2023 16:34

Say you're willing to negotiate a consultancy fee and see how fast she disappears.

yep this
at something like 200 quid an hour, minimum 4 hours, even just to open an email. And since you have opened one, where should you send the bill for 800 quid to?
(better still: attach an invoice and cc the head of accounts payables)

then set the mail address to go to spam/junk and forget.

MarchMadness23 · 01/04/2023 16:39

There must be someone she reports to. Tell them that THREE YEARS on you are getting to the point of an harassment charge & they need to have words with her.

Original poster
Anotherloverholeinyohead · 01/04/2023 16:52

Thank you everyone - I don't want to be a consultant, I don't want to work for them in any capitulation again. I helped in the beginning because I left during lockdown and I just wanted to it to be a seemless transition as the work is with elderly vulnerable people.

The only person I can report her to is the chairperson of the trustees.

OP posts:
Hillrunning · 01/04/2023 16:55

What questions are they asking?

Hillrunning · 01/04/2023 16:55

And how often?

KateAusten · 01/04/2023 16:59

I would have blocked the email after the first one

Why are you still putting up with this shit three years later!?