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Left a job three years ago - replacement still asking questions

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Anotherloverholeinyohead · 01/04/2023 16:08

I resigned from a job three years ago due to stress, bad pay and not feeling valued.

Gave one months notice and a replacement was found within that month and all paper work etc handed over.

Since then my replacement has contacted me via email (I changed my phone number) on numerous occasions asking for guidance, advice etc. on the last two occasions I have not replied (just seeing the email address fills me with dread) and the emails are getting more stern in tone asking g for advice.

I've had enough, I can't cope with the emails, I don't want anything to do with the charity anymore I've told her I can't help anymore but the message is not getting through. The position was self employed so no boss to refer to.

Any advice on what to say to make this all stop?

OP posts:

Nailsandthesea · 01/04/2023 17:01

Anotherloverholeinyohead · 01/04/2023 16:52

Thank you everyone - I don't want to be a consultant, I don't want to work for them in any capitulation again. I helped in the beginning because I left during lockdown and I just wanted to it to be a seemless transition as the work is with elderly vulnerable people.

The only person I can report her to is the chairperson of the trustees.

No you can also report to the police

send a firm letter

Dear chairperson of the board

i resigned from my role as <insert> at <insert> on <insert date>.

I resigned due to stress and <insert>.

In the last 3 years I received numerous emails from < insert> regarding the post, how to carry out tasks etc despite making it clear I am not paid and have resigned - this contact keeps happening.

could you please advise all your employees not to contact me further as it is now affecting my mental health, it is just simply not appropriate.

kind regards
me

send it and copy the person in too and if you get any more - contact the police on the non emergency number or pay £100 for a solicitor to fire you off a cease and desist letter

Unexpecteddrivinginstructor · 01/04/2023 17:01

I would just claim that you can't remember anything from three years ago.

TattiePants · 01/04/2023 17:02

I’m a trustee for a charity and I’d want to know if someone working in the charity for three years still couldn’t do the job on their own. I’d also be concerned that they’re disclosing charity information externally. I’d send a stern email back to your replacement telling them not to contact you again then block their email. I’d then forward the email chain on to the chair to let them know what’s been going on.

Tirrrrred · 01/04/2023 17:03

Can't you email the charity?

How is she still in the job if she can't do it?

Brefugee · 01/04/2023 17:05

Thank you everyone - I don't want to be a consultant, I don't want to work for them in any capitulation again.

people are only saying to say that as an alternative to saying "go away and leave me alone" which is why i suggested a stupid hourly rate

Mail the head of the charity and ask them to stop her contacting you (and set her mail to go to your junk folder)

GlassBunion · 01/04/2023 17:24

I'd be emailing the chair of trustees and informing them.

They clearly have an employee who's not up to the job . You are being harassed.

Block the emails.

HamstersAreMyLife · 01/04/2023 17:33

If the only person you could contact is the chair then presumably she's a CEO. As a former charity chair I would want to know if this was happening.

ThreeRingCircus · 01/04/2023 17:41

The chair of trustees should definitely know if their employee still can't do the job without help three years into their role and indeed if there's a data protection breach with confidential information possibly being shared with an external third party (you.)

Forward the chain of emails to the chair of the trustees informing them that you have asked previously for contact to stop, particularly as it's been so long since you worked at the organisation that it's not appropriate you be privy to information from the charity. It's unacceptable and it's harassment.

Original poster

Anotherloverholeinyohead · 01/04/2023 17:43

I can contact the chairperson privately (my replacement has control of the charity email account) and explain what is happening. I like Nailsbythesea email and may well send a version of that.

The kind of questions still being asked are admin queries, things agreed with tenants regarding works done etc. but three years down the line these are not my problem nor my queries!

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Silvers11 · 01/04/2023 17:53

TattiePants · 01/04/2023 17:02

@Anotherloverholeinyohead This! I do think you should report this to the Charity for starters. If she can't do the job now and she is 3 years in post, then the Charity should be told.

As far as I am aware, you can't actually 'block' an email - but what you can do is report them as Spam so that they don't arrive in your inbox but go into Spam/Junk folders

I would send her a final email saying that you will not be responding to any more requests for help. Someone posted earlier a very good suggestion of what to say. Then simply do not even open any mails, messages etc that you see.

MattDamon · 01/04/2023 18:04

I'd forward this and any future emails to the chairperson and say something like: "Not sure why I keep getting these queries? I left this job three years ago. Please can you speak to XXX and ask her to stop contacting me. Thanks."

Wonnle · 01/04/2023 18:20

How has this person got your email address to be able to harass you ?

BMW6 · 01/04/2023 18:26

That's bonkers! What a bloody nerve!

Definitely email the chairperson as suggested

Xarrie · 01/04/2023 18:36

What sort of questions? I'd be replying with "it's been 3 years. I don't think this is the job for you"

FinallyHere · 01/04/2023 18:46

saveforthat · 01/04/2023 16:10

Just continue to ignore would be my advice.

This.

Why would you not?

Answering encourages people to ask more exactly because they get an answer.

Don't answer. No biggie.

Samsungwasher · 01/04/2023 18:52

Report her as spam.

TwinsAndTiramisu · 01/04/2023 18:56

Just don't answer. What can she do if you don't?

DutchTeenyPixie · 01/04/2023 19:06

Is there a GDPR aspect to consider? It seems a little inappropriate?

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Anotherloverholeinyohead · 01/04/2023 19:14

Ok I've drafted an email to the Chairperson explains that I left the post due to stress and mental health issues (which is true) and I have been receiving correspondence from the new clerk which has to now stop and once I receive correspondence from them that the matter has been dealt with, I do not wish to be contacted by anyone from the charity again. All files, logins etc were handed over and I answered their queries for a while but is now three years and I want no further communication.

Thank you for all your help and the butt kicking that I needed to say stop, no more. I was not in a good way when I left and am now in a much better space - I do not want to go back to where I was!

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caringcarer · 01/04/2023 19:17

Forward the emails to the Chairman of Trustees with a message saying you left the organisation 3 years ago and can they stop the incompetent person who took over your role from harassing you for help to do their job.

Silvers11 · 01/04/2023 19:18

Well done @Anotherloverholeinyohead ! It'll all settle down I'm sure and you can get on with your life without worrying any more. All the best!

GG1986 · 01/04/2023 19:38

Stop replying? Block? Report email address? I wouldn't be engaging with this person at all.

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